So you seem to be reading two separate posts and thinking you’re responding to a single person. I am conversing in good faith; you’re just a bit confused! |
Walks like a duck, sounds like a duck, smells like a duck. |
DP. I know that facts and science don't matter to them, because this has actually been studied. I don't really care if they are basing their beliefs on individual gut emotions, belief in fairies, or whatever. They will just have to live with the consequences of their actions, since -- as PP has noted -- there have always been people who reject reason about this, and talking to them just entrenches them for some reason. They aren't worth talking to, as it doesn't change anything. Oh, well. Life is harsh. |
I’m the person you quoted and the person who admitted that many of you would find my views on these issues unacceptable. Thanks for engaging. You seem like a well-intentioned person of good faith. |
This is so odd. You just want to fight and not talk. Probably not a healthy way to go through life. |
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Try loving your children enough to vaccinate them. |
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study of~100,000 children followed from birth to 5 years old, with extensive developmental assessments. No link to cognitive problems. Does it matter? Not for some. It doesn't matter. The most recent Cochrane review on the topic included 5 RCTs, 27 cohort studies, 17 case-control studies, 5 time-series trials, 1 case crossover trial, 2 ecological studies, and 6 self-controlled case series studies. Does it matter? Not for some. The vibes just aren't there, baby. "When we are confronted with information which runs counter to our beliefs, we often become more entrenched, not less." |
Actually they are specifically saying they’re not interested in fighting. And a lot of us are probably old enough to have learned that some conversations are a waste of our limited time on this earth. |
DP. I have anti-vaxxers my close family, I absolutely know them, and their reasoning. But (a) their ideas do not hold up under scientific scrutiny — which is why they aren’t worth repeating here or elsewhere, and (b) their ideas, when acted upon, make innocent people less safe. |
NP. I think because when stuff happens to your kid (or you worry will happen to your kid), you act from a place of emotion. The known dangers become minimized and you hyper focus on stuff that you believe might be protective. So you ignore vaccines being lifesaving (because you don’t actually see kids with measles dying or having severe issues as the virus was more or less eradicated in the US). Instead you look at some family that has a child with a developmental problem and say “if there is even a chance my kid could be affected like this, I would rather take my chances with measles.” It’s irrational. But I think it comes from wanting to protect your child. If everyone behaved the way, we’d never have bridges or cellphones or GPS. The building of the modern world is premised on the math and statistics these parents reject for their own “gut feel” but it’s from a place of ignorance and not malice. |
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And yet anti-vaxxer parents involved in recent childhood morbidity and mortality -- the child death, the child comatose on a feeding tube -- have said this outcome, the child's harm right in front of them, is preferable to vaccination. That they would still make the same choice. Almost as if this is not really about the child at all, when it comes down to it. Or at least, people walking through this plethora of research and actual scientific, tested information are deliberately choosing to affiliate themselves with such people and ideas for their own reasons, then asking others to justify it for them. To praise or envy them, even. For valuing something about their choices even more than valuing the life and health of their own children. |
PP, I am the person you quoted. Others have answered you but I want to reply as well in good faith. I'll start with my own story. When I started having kids in the early 2000s I read A LOT about autism and vaccines. I read about regressions in kids who lost their speech. I have a family member who works with kids with autism who was a full on believer that vaccines were the cause and I asked her to explain. I read some of the key books about the rise in new childhood epidemics that had accompanied the elimination of certain diseases through vaccination. And I followed RFK Jr, this gutsy environmental lawyer. I asked my doctors about the dangers of vaccines and was frustrated by their total dismissal of my questions. On the one hand, I was able to VERY QUICKLY ) see that the science did not show - no, it disproved! (very obviously, irrefutably! - a causal link between the vaccines and autism. On the other hand, I empathized with mothers who were asking questions and being treated like idiots. I was absolutely annoyed and irritated with doctors and discussed this pattern with all my many physician friends. I told them how dangerous the pat dismissals were because they were making enemies out of people asking legitimate questions that did not have clear answers. I have a close friend who write a book on the vaccine-autism debate and we had a big argument about this very issue. If I was super irritated, me, someone who was on the same side as the American Academy of Pediatrics and who, like the doctors, had gone to school until I was 30, how must younger, less privileged moms feel? When two of my kids had challenges in their early years, you can imagine how worried I was (did I do something to make this happen?) and how much MORE I looked into these questions. I wanted to know if there was any way to help my kids and I had a motto: if no harm is done to the kid and the only sacrifice on my end is time or money, I'll do whatever I can to get my kids the treatment and intervention that could help. I tried a zillion different things with my children. I won't list them, but I promise you I have tried the cleanest diets and the weirdest therapies with the fullest effort and made them fun for the whole family. When the answers are unknown, OF COURSE I'll explore and question and even try all sorts of solutions. But there are some studied and KNOWN facts here. It is not complicated, in fact it is very clear: vaccines do not cause autism. Also, these diseases harm, maim, kill people and not just the children in question but others whom they infect. These are crystal clear facts for anyone who actually seeks the truth. So, yes, I am extremely sympathetic and even empathetic toward the moms, but they are in the wrong here scientifically and ethically. |
Those parents aren’t swayed by math, statistics or science. In order to make sense of this horrible thing that has happened and to be able to live with themselves, they have to believe that it wasn’t their decisions that led to this outcome. They have to believe that the vaccine would have likely been worse, especially if things had gone well. Statistics is very hard for many people to understand for some reason. |
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I’m a PP (close family members anti vax). Among other things, I think it’s hard to wrap one’s head around the that doing nothing can be more harmful than doing something — particularly when we don’t see the diseases or their consequences in everyday life.
There’s also an element of wanting to spare your infant or child — a literal miracle, more perfect than anything a human could create on their — own from contamination. Humans are fallible and small. Nature, and children as an expression of nature (or God, if you’re the praying type, which many are) have an inherent perfection. So injecting something human-made into this perfection feels wrong, corrupting, to many. And while I sort of understand — as a parent I too have the impulse to preserve the infant/child’s state of grace— I’ve also lived in countries that don’t have the benefit of vaccinations. I know that while nature is a miracle, it has its own forms of corruption and contamination, which can be swift, merciless, and cruel. But it’s hard to see this when we are still (mostly) benefiting from herd immunity. |