Men who steal women’s fertility

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. I admit to stealing women’s fertility. I’m like the hamburglar but with uteruses, and now, I see that I have been found out. I’m off to find another devious way to harm women. My next scam is to put plastic dishes on the bottom shelf of the dishwasher - they’ll be warped just like the patriarchy! ***laughs in evil***

Not as funny as you think, but I get your point that the premeditated intent is not necessarily there. But men know biology too. It’s lazy, careless, and, yes, cruel to burn through a woman’s fertility window while you know you still have more time to have offspring. It’s like telling someone you can drive when you cant and then driving them into an accident. They are left permanently injured while you walk away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally immoral to date a woman in her late 20’s or 30’s for more than a year with no ring. But women need to show these men the door, not hang around hoping it works out.

It's only immoral if the woman is interested in marriage. Assuming every woman wants to get married or that Jennifer Aniston didn't have kids because Brad Pitt stole her best year are ridiculous assumption that attempt to protect women to the point they actually become sexist. We have no idea if she was already having fertility issues when she was with Brad Pitt.

[Anonymous]

Better not to have children with someone who doesn’t love you or is in the spectrum. Run away at the first sign and continue with your life.

[Anonymous]

A man who forces a pregnancy on you is much worse. Happened to me.

These women can leave when action is not happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get out of here with this garbage. A woman can leave a man at any time, for any reason, or even for no reason at all. You can even leave him at any time if you're married to him right now. And in that case, when you leave, he has to pay you money! It is literally impossible for him to steal your time or your fertility because you have total control over it.

If you can't get pregnant then that's on you. If he is refusing to make you pregnant - there's the door right there. Walk out now, he can't stop you.

I agree with this but men don’t have to pay you money. Similar earnings mean you don’t get a dime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Jennifer Anniston story reminds me of this. So many times a man wastes a woman’s time only to divorce or leave her in her 30s and childless. While the man goes on to marry and have children the woman is left robbed of her fertile and out of time to have kids of her own.

This is criminal!

Like Joe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I plan to proactively teach my sons that this is indecent (whether dating or married). I have a friend in our circle (mid-late 30s) who only dates 20 somethings. I think he got some flack as we got older and the gap windened but I respect that he's not doing this

No respect for this. dating 20 somethings is wasting their time. This is how they get to 30 and don't have the skills to build a relationship with someone who wants the same things in life they do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This happened to me.

Well I’m in a marriage where I haven’t had a child yet due to lack of interest and cooperation from my husband. Now I’m too terrified to leave as bow can I divorce, fall in love and have a baby with rapidly declining fertility?

How old are you? Maybe you can freeze eggs (although there is no guarantee that would work either) or just run now if you are still young.

My AH husband and family stole my fertility - arranged marriage in early 20s. Husband is asexual, couldn't divorce due to cultural beliefs and parental pressure even though we are not compatible in anything. Tried IVFs in early 30's but found out my egg supply diminished early and my only option was egg donor. So I lost the chance to have my own biological kid because I stayed in a shitty sexless marriage. I've become a very bitter person since I was raised to stay and suffocate and that family honor was important. Now I am always depressed. Still married to a guy I hate.

I hope hearing this would help you.

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I am sorry that you were raised that way. But now you realize it and you are choosing to stay in it. You have no kids. You could divorce tomorrow and start over in a 1 br and your life would be so much better without that albatross around your neck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. I admit to stealing women’s fertility. I’m like the hamburglar but with uteruses, and now, I see that I have been found out. I’m off to find another devious way to harm women. My next scam is to put plastic dishes on the bottom shelf of the dishwasher - they’ll be warped just like the patriarchy! ***laughs in evil***

It’s kind of funny. But you’re right that not being bothered by ruining plastic that costs money is just part of the dynamic, to be followed by “woe is me, my wife is going on about plastic dishes.”

[Anonymous]

Women let this happen. Demand a ring after two years or leave. Agree on when to have kids before the wedding and hold him to it. If you let him renege once he knows he can do it again and again. If you stay in a relationship for five or more years in your 30s and emerge childless you only have yourself to blame.

[Anonymous]

I realize this is effed up, but one of the main points of my husbands affair that I can't get over is that he stole the OW's fertility without even giving it a thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I realize this is effed up, but one of the main points of my husbands affair that I can't get over is that he stole the OW's fertility without even giving it a thought.

Nobody else is responsible for her fertility but her. She actively chose to date this guy. That's 100% on her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The thing is women have right to divorce these men and move on, freeze embryos etc but they chose to stay in these fruitless pointless marriages. So it's the women mistake just as much as his avoidance of commitment to her

Amen! OP writes as if women don’t have any agency here.

[Anonymous]

"Stealing" gives men way too much credit. Any woman can convince him to get her pregnant or just end the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Stealing" gives men way too much credit. Any woman can convince him to get her pregnant or just end the relationship.

A baby does not make men stay.