Cuddling

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the oddness isn't on a couch or chair but more laying in bed cuddling between a parent and a child of the opposite sex when that child is pretty much an adult-size. So for example, if a father is cuddling a teenaged (13+) girl or a mother is cuddling a teenaged boy (13+) boy while they are laying in bed it may seem odd. (I'm not talking about hunkering down to read next to each other; I'm talking about cuddling and/or nestled up next to each other.)

What? My tween boy is about my size and I don't find snuggling with him to be odd at all. He's my son, not my boyfriend. It really wasn't all that long ago that he was a baby/toddler in my arms. I can't imagine how anyone would get a weird vibe from a parent lying down with a child before bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the oddness isn't on a couch or chair but more laying in bed cuddling between a parent and a child of the opposite sex when that child is pretty much an adult-size. So for example, if a father is cuddling a teenaged (13+) girl or a mother is cuddling a teenaged boy (13+) boy while they are laying in bed it may seem odd. (I'm not talking about hunkering down to read next to each other; I'm talking about cuddling and/or nestled up next to each other.)

Per your logic you shouldn't cuddle opposite sex kids either since they can be gay or lesbian. Personally I can't ever imagine anything weird cuddling my kids.

[Anonymous]

^^^ I meant same sex kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for asking this OP... I "snuggle" my kids at night and in the morning (they are 8 and 11) and I thought maybe I needed to stop. I'm pleasantly surprised at how many others are still cuddling... but I can't imagine cuddling a teen boy. that seems weird. It's already a little questionable with my 8 yr old son.

They do seem to like physical affection before sleeping even if they don't want to be hugged during the day.

Questionable? WTH?

Questionable b/c DS gets a little too "rub"-ing.... like with his private parts on me. I think maybe it's no longer appropriate for me to snuggle him in bed.

OK....

[Anonymous]

I have a 17 and a 12 year old, both boys. Both still like to snuggle. My teen a little less so, but he will happily sit close to me on the couch, loves to be hugged. My 12-year-old is kind of a cuddle-bug, he always has been. He will sit on my lap if I let him, but he's getting too heavy to tolerate that much anymore, LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the oddness isn't on a couch or chair but more laying in bed cuddling between a parent and a child of the opposite sex when that child is pretty much an adult-size. So for example, if a father is cuddling a teenaged (13+) girl or a mother is cuddling a teenaged boy (13+) boy while they are laying in bed it may seem odd. (I'm not talking about hunkering down to read next to each other; I'm talking about cuddling and/or nestled up next to each other.)

What? My tween boy is about my size and I don't find snuggling with him to be odd at all. He's my son, not my boyfriend. It really wasn't all that long ago that he was a baby/toddler in my arms. I can't imagine how anyone would get a weird vibe from a parent lying down with a child before bed.

I think this is one of the great privileges of being a mom, as opposed to a dad. In our culture, dads do tend to separate physically from their kids (or vice versa?) as the kids age. Much less so with moms, thank goodness.

[Anonymous]

I have a 9y old boy with a high need for physical affection/touch. He loves and requests to cuddle regularly before bed - I also find that when he cuddles, he is much more open and interested in talking about what is on his mind. Love this time of day and I don't see it stopping soon.

[Anonymous]

Still snuggle with my 14 year old boy and 12 year old girl. We all miss it when we don't.

[Anonymous]

yep, my 10 year old DS loves to cuddle with me. When he initiates, I know he needs "mom" time. Dad is exact opposite - not a cuddler at all.

[Anonymous]

I love cuddling with my kids, and am sure I will miss it as they get older. My husband's family is very affectionate with each other, and it makes me wish my family was as well. We give hugs when we say hello and goodbye, but otherwise there is no physical contact. I miss that physical connection with my mother, so I won't stop it with my kids until they don't want it anymore.

[Anonymous]

Are their names Jamie and Cersei?

[Anonymous]

I grew up in a family where, when we got older and were no longer little kids, there was no physical affection at all. At all.
So I say, hug and cuddle away! I am going to try to always hug my two kids and snuggle them and kiss them as much as they will let me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still cuddle my 13 yo son.

+1. My 13 yo son loves to cuddle. He would have also still been breastfeeding if I'd let him. He is also very popular in school and a fun kid. Not at all odd.

[Anonymous]

Is it weird for a 10 year old boy and 8 year old girl to cuddle?
My kids are good buddies and occasionally cuddle up to read a book together or just good off. They also like to hug from time to time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it weird for a 10 year old boy and 8 year old girl to cuddle?
My kids are good buddies and occasionally cuddle up to read a book together or just good off. They also like to hug from time to time.

Just to add, my son won't cuddle with me anymore, it's "not cool". My DD is still a snuggle bug.