UMC ladies, what do you wear at home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mostly see UMC ladies in workout gear like Alo and Lululemon? Personally I wear jeans and a sweater or slacks and a sweater and small jewelry items.

"Slacks" is always boomer coded. Tell me that you lived your prime years in the 1970s without telling me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just be skinny.

You can be skinny and still be sloppy looking. OP’s problem is that she’s just wearing straight up PJs!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mostly see UMC ladies in workout gear like Alo and Lululemon? Personally I wear jeans and a sweater or slacks and a sweater and small jewelry items.

"Slacks" is always boomer coded. Tell me that you lived your prime years in the 1970s without telling me.

Plus a pocketbook.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just be skinny.

lol srsly. If you have to ask *eyeroll*

Why are you shaming people for asking for help? Plenty of us are skinny with no fashion sense or interest, but we still want to fit in and feel good. I'm not ashamed to ask for help. I mostly copy my younger sister's style for athleisure, and for nicer clothes, I have a stylist at Nordstrom who has helped me for years. I get compliments on what she picks out. I feel totally overwhelmed when I walk into a large department store, and I am happy to have help.

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Anonymous wrote:I mostly see UMC ladies in workout gear like Alo and Lululemon? Personally I wear jeans and a sweater or slacks and a sweater and small jewelry items.

No one had worn “slacks” since 1978.

I'm an elder Millennial and I wear slacks, though I sometimes describe them as "work pants" so other people don't roll their eyes like you.

Well, you must have gotten the word from your grandmother.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mostly see UMC ladies in workout gear like Alo and Lululemon? Personally I wear jeans and a sweater or slacks and a sweater and small jewelry items.

"Slacks" is always boomer coded. Tell me that you lived your prime years in the 1970s without telling me.

Plus a pocketbook.

With a "blouse."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mostly see UMC ladies in workout gear like Alo and Lululemon? Personally I wear jeans and a sweater or slacks and a sweater and small jewelry items.

No one had worn “slacks” since 1978.

I'm an elder Millennial and I wear slacks, though I sometimes describe them as "work pants" so other people don't roll their eyes like you.

Well, you must have gotten the word from your grandmother.

DP. I use the word slacks and I’m Gen X. Although, I only use it when I refer to nicer pants.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mostly see UMC ladies in workout gear like Alo and Lululemon? Personally I wear jeans and a sweater or slacks and a sweater and small jewelry items.

"Slacks" is always boomer coded. Tell me that you lived your prime years in the 1970s without telling me.

Plus a pocketbook.

With a "blouse."

And "pumps" for shoes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mostly see UMC ladies in workout gear like Alo and Lululemon? Personally I wear jeans and a sweater or slacks and a sweater and small jewelry items.

"Slacks" is always boomer coded. Tell me that you lived your prime years in the 1970s without telling me.

I'm a boomer and was in middle and high school in the 70's. Definitely not my prime years! And we didn't wear slacks. Middle school was those awful hip-hugger jeans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you reflect on what you like to wear, what flatters your figure, what colors look good for your skin tone, and whether you have any favorite patterns or textures? It takes thought to look good, OP. People always come here asking for wardrobe suggestions to look a certain way, but it's work to match the outfit to the person. What may look nice on other women might not look nice on you. Especially if you yearn for boring and bland, you want to make sure not to look washed out.

I don't want to look like the "put-together UMC women" of wherever, OP. I prefer to look like myself, which usually means pretty and cute (what I think looks pretty and cute). Yesterday I wore a structured long-sleeve linen top (the ones from Reformation that look a little like corsets), a mini skirt with tights, all in blue tones, and high-heeled boots. Today I'm tired, not going anywhere, so I'm lounging in my flower-print sweatpants (Gap collab with LoveShackFancy) and flower-print top and socks with little flowers. It's my feel-good outfit and very comfy, but does highlight my small waist, and the top is a flattering V-neck.

You can look sloppy and cute, BTW. You can look sharp and boring. I think you should figure out what you really want to express. Also, it's true that everything looks better on a slim, toned figure.

Ok, I think the second paragraph went a little off the rails (miniskirt and corset top probably not great inspiration for someone looking to upgrade workout clothes) but the first paragraph is helpful about finding what you like.

I was struggling to get dressed outside of athleisure, especially on work from home days, because my closet wasn't working. What worked for me was using AI to help me fix my closet and it's absolutely transformed getting dressed in the morning.

I worked with Claude/ChatGPT to: 1) identify my color palette - this helps not only because I found out which colors I look best in (and it really does make a difference) but because it also helps me buy clothes that coordinate well with each other (picked a few neutrals and stay within palette, bam, no "does this top go with this bottom" color issues), 2) indicate what kind of style I like - including the work day and casual version of that style and identify what that I already own fits that style, 4) identify what gaps in my closet were making me feel like nothing worked together. I bought a few pieces and now my entire closet works together so, so easily. I also was able to get rid of a bunch of stuff.

Since I have my whole wardrobe uploaded, I can also easily ask it to create a capsule wardrobe for travel based on where I'm going and what I'm doing so now I don't overpack either. This isn't entirely necessary since everything works together pretty easily now, but it's handy.

I am now searching for a few things AI can't recommend - a few things that are a bit more standout and fun. But, I better understand my parameters, what works for me, and what works for my existing closet so I'm no longer tempted by things that will sit on my shelves.

As someone without a natural sense of how to put myself together it's been great. It took a bit of effort to get it going but nothing you couldn't do over a few hours on a slow evening or weekend morning.

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Anonymous wrote:I mostly see UMC ladies in workout gear like Alo and Lululemon? Personally I wear jeans and a sweater or slacks and a sweater and small jewelry items.

No one had worn “slacks” since 1978.

I'm an elder Millennial and I wear slacks, though I sometimes describe them as "work pants" so other people don't roll their eyes like you.

Well, you must have gotten the word from your grandmother.

DP. I use the word slacks and I’m Gen X. Although, I only use it when I refer to nicer pants.

I'm from Europe and we learnt the word as "trousers." Pants are undergarments and ladies never wear slacks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I mostly see UMC ladies in workout gear like Alo and Lululemon? Personally I wear jeans and a sweater or slacks and a sweater and small jewelry items.

"Slacks" is always boomer coded. Tell me that you lived your prime years in the 1970s without telling me.

Plus a pocketbook.

With a "blouse."

And "pumps" for shoes.

Yes! too funny.

[Anonymous]

I posted "slacks" and didn't realize it was such a horrible word because I am ESL. I thought it was the term for nicer looser pants that are not joggers or yoga pants!

[Anonymous]

Right now I'm in fleeced line leggings and a Bloomies brand cashmere sweater (aka inexpensive and washable). When warmer, probably a comfortable sundress. Just good enough I could answer the door or run out for a quick errand.

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Anonymous wrote:When did umc become aspirational? This country is really in the dumps

Did you ever read (you probably didn't, it wasn't that good) "The Sum of Small Things: A Theory of the Aspirational Class?" I'm part of what she terms the so-called 'aspirational class' and it's been this way for a while. Nobody's breaking into the Cave Dwellers downtown and very few of us are the next tech bro's wife with sudden billions are our disposal. But lots of us didn't grow up UMC but are close or even there right now and don't know how to quite fit in.

Wait who are the Cave Dwellers downtown? Asking as an immigrant in a Dupont row house…? Wearing $40 Nautica jeans and a “sloppy but cute” Marine Layer sweatshirt that I’m technically about 25 years too old to pull off.