UMC ladies, what do you wear at home?

[Anonymous]

I’m trying to be more put together and realize I look so sloppy at home in my pjs. What can I wear at home to look like the clean put together UMC women in Vienna and McLean?

[Anonymous]

I mostly see UMC ladies in workout gear like Alo and Lululemon? Personally I wear jeans and a sweater or slacks and a sweater and small jewelry items.

[Anonymous]

Just be skinny.

[Anonymous]

I WFH and do a lot of Zooms when I am not at client meetings so tend to dress in sweaters or nice tops with jewelry. Bottoms are usually jeans of some sort. In summer I usually wear dresses or skirts, although we spend the summer at the beach and that is the vibe there.

I don't wear athleisure wear except occasionally on weekends, or of course to exercise.

[Anonymous]

Mostly lulu because I have sensory sensitivities and it feels better to me than other brands and looks reasonably put together.

[Anonymous]

When did umc become aspirational? This country is really in the dumps

[Anonymous]

Just get dressed. I don't know how you can be productive wearing pajamas all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did umc become aspirational? This country is really in the dumps

The majority of responders probably identify as UMC, including the UNNW and LMC folks. It's become a catch-all term for everyone who feels like they are typical.

[Anonymous]

I'm wearing leggings from Amazon and a quarter zip from Target lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did umc become aspirational? This country is really in the dumps

Did you ever read (you probably didn't, it wasn't that good) "The Sum of Small Things: A Theory of the Aspirational Class?" I'm part of what she terms the so-called 'aspirational class' and it's been this way for a while. Nobody's breaking into the Cave Dwellers downtown and very few of us are the next tech bro's wife with sudden billions are our disposal. But lots of us didn't grow up UMC but are close or even there right now and don't know how to quite fit in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did umc become aspirational? This country is really in the dumps

Did you ever read (you probably didn't, it wasn't that good) "The Sum of Small Things: A Theory of the Aspirational Class?" I'm part of what she terms the so-called 'aspirational class' and it's been this way for a while. Nobody's breaking into the Cave Dwellers downtown and very few of us are the next tech bro's wife with sudden billions are our disposal. But lots of us didn't grow up UMC but are close or even there right now and don't know how to quite fit in.

You fit in by copying and masking. If you're at the upper end of UMC, you can afford a stylist. If you're in the middle or lower end, you copy your neighbors or favorite influencer.

[Anonymous]

At the moment I’m in lounge pants and a sweatshirt, both gray, from target. Feeling tired and not great. So.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mostly see UMC ladies in workout gear like Alo and Lululemon? Personally I wear jeans and a sweater or slacks and a sweater and small jewelry items.

No one had worn “slacks” since 1978.

[Anonymous]

I put on something else to go to the store or walk to the dog, but when I'm home for an hour or more it's sweatpants and a zipup. Not even a matching set.

If working from home (I usually don't) then an office-appropriate top with sweats and slippers.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you reflect on what you like to wear, what flatters your figure, what colors look good for your skin tone, and whether you have any favorite patterns or textures? It takes thought to look good, OP. People always come here asking for wardrobe suggestions to look a certain way, but it's work to match the outfit to the person. What may look nice on other women might not look nice on you. Especially if you yearn for boring and bland, you want to make sure not to look washed out.

I don't want to look like the "put-together UMC women" of wherever, OP. I prefer to look like myself, which usually means pretty and cute (what I think looks pretty and cute). Yesterday I wore a structured long-sleeve linen top (the ones from Reformation that look a little like corsets), a mini skirt with tights, all in blue tones, and high-heeled boots. Today I'm tired, not going anywhere, so I'm lounging in my flower-print sweatpants (Gap collab with LoveShackFancy) and flower-print top and socks with little flowers. It's my feel-good outfit and very comfy, but does highlight my small waist, and the top is a flattering V-neck.

You can look sloppy and cute, BTW. You can look sharp and boring. I think you should figure out what you really want to express. Also, it's true that everything looks better on a slim, toned figure.