An observation about my husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your husband has the right attitude. Kids shouldn't always feel hurried and stressed. Get dressed and leave the house when you are ready especially if there is no clear/necessary time to be.

Im sure you constantly shriek at them to be on time for stuff raising their cortisol and anxiety levels. Let them be. Go back to work and let him do things his way.

I’m the wife and now my kids are older teens I see this as good and bad. Yes all the rushing them out to do fun stuff seemed to be such a waste of stress and unnecessary negative emotions. But I was also the one that anticipated their needs and my kids weren’t the type that would be fine with a later nap or would forget to eat lunch if I didn’t remind them, so dilly dallying meant missing the sleep or food window and otherwise we were throwing snacks at them or constantly buying food/drinks out that we couldn’t afford at the time.

If OP’s kids and dh are happy with the slow method then that’s great, but if he’s bringing home kids who are melting down because lunch is 2 hours late because of the dilly dallying then that’s the problem.

The OP started an entire post to micro-manage how her husband gets his kids ready. If he was bringing home tired or melting down kids she surely would have mentioned it to add to her smug "I do it best" credentials.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your husband has the right attitude. Kids shouldn't always feel hurried and stressed. Get dressed and leave the house when you are ready especially if there is no clear/necessary time to be.

Im sure you constantly shriek at them to be on time for stuff raising their cortisol and anxiety levels. Let them be. Go back to work and let him do things his way.

Agree with the bold we can be too controlled by the clock it's not good for anyone. If he's not dragging on to manage it let it go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men suck. They just do.

Don’t vote for men anymore. They can’t be involved with anything legal for organizing people.

They rape and kill kids and women. I’m n every race, religion and nation.

It’s the men not the race or religion.

You really said it.

[Anonymous]

It's called weaponized incompetence. He is hoping you will take over. It gets old and you will either blow up at him or just start taking the kids out on weekends with your mom friends. And yes, you are complaining, and you are right to. It is exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids taking their time allows less time on playground (exhausting for a parent) and more time at home on the phone waiting for them.
How old are the kids?
Mine would be out the door leaving DH behind.

I brought my kids to the playground because it was easier for me as a parent. There was tons of stuff for them to play on while I socialize with other parents. At home, they are always getting into stuff or looking for something to do.
If my kids were playing nicely together at home while ostensibly taking two hours to “get dressed,” that would be great with me!

[Anonymous]

Because it's not urgent.

[Anonymous]

Are my kids demons? Is it normal in other people’s homes for the kids to just go off and play nicely by themselves for hours while their parents work and relax?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are my kids demons? Is it normal in other people’s homes for the kids to just go off and play nicely by themselves for hours while their parents work and relax?

Op never said that the kids played perfectly…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are my kids demons? Is it normal in other people’s homes for the kids to just go off and play nicely by themselves for hours while their parents work and relax?

My only child will play for hours alone if allowed. Of course we are nearby if needed but usually they are perfectly fine without direct interaction.