So tired of the wait

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

+1

Parents are part of if. Except for you deadbeat parents who won't be paying for anything and are instead demanding "full rides" or else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is absolutely just a vent post since this waiting feels like such a long slog. I have twins and both got into safeties but they still have almost two more months to wait on deferral/RDs. They're doing ok with it but it feels so unsettling to me. And then it will be a rush to visit admitted student days in April, make decisions, etc. I know it's all part of the process -- and again I'm just whining since I can't do it anywhere else -- but I've lost any of the college excitement with all this waiting. Vent over.

It'll be ok, Susie.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait till your kid gets waitlisted at their dream school and puts down a deposit for a not-so-exciting school by May 1. Wondering each day if there's going to be waitlist movement until deep into June/July. That's even more torture.

yeah and then they don't get off the waitlist and they're applying to transfer the following year and they're doing it all again.
Good times.

Like the kid who got off the wait list at Stanford in August and left the also very good university located in the Midwest to move to. Palo Alto?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

Yeah, of course they are. Doesn’t change the fact that it’s the kid’s process and the kid’s life.

But you know — you’ve got OP up there stressing about her kids’ applications seemingly more than they are.

Oh give it a rest. Parents can be just as invested (or not, in your case) whether they like to or not. To each their own.

They can. But it doesn’t make it healthy.

I’m so happy my parents didn’t participate in my application process at all.

I plan to stay out of my kid’s process.

You have no child going through this process, and no clue how much it has changed since the 90’s. Yet you are qualified to judge the OP harshly (and repeatedly) in a public forum? Your antipathy towards other parents is what’s unhealthy.

Don’t you have a hobby?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

Good for you all! The reality though is that applying early doesn’t automatically translate into being accepted early or having the process concluded sooner. The vast majority of applicants are still awaiting final decisions.

Seriously! Doesn’t this person know that many schools have ED or RD and you have to wait. Not all schools are rolling.

[Anonymous]

DD is also having trouble with the wait. She was rejected ED and has 5 EA acceptances (and one early RD) but is still waiting for 13 schools that don't release until mid-March or later. Most of her friends already know where they're going, and it's hard to hear them planning, finding roommates, etc. But her time will come.

I too am stressing about being able to visit the places we may need to visit in April.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is absolutely just a vent post since this waiting feels like such a long slog. I have twins and both got into safeties but they still have almost two more months to wait on deferral/RDs. They're doing ok with it but it feels so unsettling to me. And then it will be a rush to visit admitted student days in April, make decisions, etc. I know it's all part of the process -- and again I'm just whining since I can't do it anywhere else -- but I've lost any of the college excitement with all this waiting. Vent over.

It'll be ok, Susie.

You'll grow up one day.
Maybe not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

Yeah, of course they are. Doesn’t change the fact that it’s the kid’s process and the kid’s life.

But you know — you’ve got OP up there stressing about her kids’ applications seemingly more than they are.

Oh give it a rest. Parents can be just as invested (or not, in your case) whether they like to or not. To each their own.

They can. But it doesn’t make it healthy.

I’m so happy my parents didn’t participate in my application process at all.

I plan to stay out of my kid’s process.

You have no child going through this process, and no clue how much it has changed since the 90’s. Yet you are qualified to judge the OP harshly (and repeatedly) in a public forum? Your antipathy towards other parents is what’s unhealthy.

Don’t you have a hobby?

I’m not old enough to have gone to college in the 90s.

I’m just calling you all out for being way too invested in this process.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

Yeah, of course they are. Doesn’t change the fact that it’s the kid’s process and the kid’s life.

But you know — you’ve got OP up there stressing about her kids’ applications seemingly more than they are.

Oh give it a rest. Parents can be just as invested (or not, in your case) whether they like to or not. To each their own.

They can. But it doesn’t make it healthy.

I’m so happy my parents didn’t participate in my application process at all.

I plan to stay out of my kid’s process.

You have no child going through this process, and no clue how much it has changed since the 90’s. Yet you are qualified to judge the OP harshly (and repeatedly) in a public forum? Your antipathy towards other parents is what’s unhealthy.

Don’t you have a hobby?

I’m not old enough to have gone to college in the 90s.

I’m just calling you all out for being way too invested in this process.

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NP here. I think you could show a little more understanding here. It’s not just about what school your kid will attend. It’s a bit unsettling that, for the first time since they were born, you have no idea where they will be living for the next four years. Will they be close enough to see every so often,or are you shifting to major holidays only? Yes, this is all part of the letting go process, of course, but not enjoying the suspense and uncertainty seems pretty natural to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is also having trouble with the wait. She was rejected ED and has 5 EA acceptances (and one early RD) but is still waiting for 13 schools that don't release until mid-March or later. Most of her friends already know where they're going, and it's hard to hear them planning, finding roommates, etc. But her time will come.

I too am stressing about being able to visit the places we may need to visit in April.

Congrats on the acceptances? Does she have one she’s excited about? My son has also been accepted by half a dozen schools, including one he’s very excited about (w/ merit too) and we’re proceeding as if he’ll be attending that school. We’re waiting for another half dozen reach and far reach schools in the RD. If something works out then, it’s going to be a bonus for him (though it’s likely a fair bit more expensive, so tough choice)!

[Anonymous]

It will get exciting again in May/June . I promise. And then so sad because- that’s it. Their childhood is over and they’re leaving. Try to enjoy them now while they are home. You will be glad you did.

[Anonymous]

I think most the kids now have a lot of state school applications which means that they have some choices in the Fall. Depending on the student, they may have all of their acceptances and just need to make a decision. Unfortunately for us, a decision is not due for a very long time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD is also having trouble with the wait. She was rejected ED and has 5 EA acceptances (and one early RD) but is still waiting for 13 schools that don't release until mid-March or later. Most of her friends already know where they're going, and it's hard to hear them planning, finding roommates, etc. But her time will come.

I too am stressing about being able to visit the places we may need to visit in April.

Congrats on the acceptances? Does she have one she’s excited about? My son has also been accepted by half a dozen schools, including one he’s very excited about (w/ merit too) and we’re proceeding as if he’ll be attending that school. We’re waiting for another half dozen reach and far reach schools in the RD. If something works out then, it’s going to be a bonus for him (though it’s likely a fair bit more expensive, so tough choice)!

She likes all of them (and got a lot of merit aid) and is in the running for a full-tuition scholarship at one. We are trying to visit all of them. But if I had to bet, I'd guess she will attend one of the ones she has yet to hear from.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is absolutely just a vent post since this waiting feels like such a long slog. I have twins and both got into safeties but they still have almost two more months to wait on deferral/RDs. They're doing ok with it but it feels so unsettling to me. And then it will be a rush to visit admitted student days in April, make decisions, etc. I know it's all part of the process -- and again I'm just whining since I can't do it anywhere else -- but I've lost any of the college excitement with all this waiting. Vent over.

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It really is frustrating that with all the advances in technology they can’t shave at least a few weeks or a month off the wait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

“We applied early”?

Did you apply to college too?

As in family. Parents are paying the tuition.

Yeah, of course they are. Doesn’t change the fact that it’s the kid’s process and the kid’s life.

But you know — you’ve got OP up there stressing about her kids’ applications seemingly more than they are.

Shut up.