So tired of the wait

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So glad this is my last time through this process. It’s awful

This is only my first time going through it, but it really hasn’t been awful at all. (For anyone with younger kids who might be reading this.) My kid came up with a reasonable list, including safeties she’d be happy to attend. She did all the work herself, no paid assistance. She’s still waiting on two, but she doesn’t really want to attend either, so mentally we’re basically done. It doesn’t have to be awful.

That's awesome! Congratulations to your DC and to you, too!!

Just remember that every kid is different. They all come at this from different places and often want different things.

If your kid falls in love with schools that have higher rates of admission AND they fit well within the schools' admit ranges, this can be a genuinely easy process. Again, congrats to your DC and to you!!

FWIW, our DC chose a different path. They have the super high stats, ECs, drive, and risk appetite to apply to multiple T20 schools, which is inherently labor-intensive (supplemental essays) and stressful (single digit acceptance rates). It has not been easy for anyone, especially after DC was deferred from their EC school in December.

As exhausted as we all are, this is what DC wanted to do, and we've been happy to support them through it. My guess is that our next DC will choose a different path that may be less stressful for all.

Finally, I'm happy to report that DC got into their top-choice target at the end of January, so they now know they'll be happy no matter what happens as they wait for the rest of the results to come in, including from their ED school. Even so, it's been a slog.

Hugs and good luck to everyone still in the thick of the waiting game. We're in the home stretch now!

That describes my son as well 😉

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So glad this is my last time through this process. It’s awful

Grandkids? It never really ends

This crosses the line. You shouldn't have anything to do with grandchildren's college process, except for grandparent legacy if you happen ot have one.
Your grandchildren are NOT your kids, to be very clear.

[Anonymous]

Add me to the list of parents with a high stats kid who wanted to go for it. DS in the same boat as the posters above. The waiting for him has been hard, but he’s into one great school where he’d be happy and thrive. Just hoping he has a few more acceptances so he feels like he’s choosing, but if not, he’ll be fine.

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At this point, anxiety is over.

Already in at several schools where they know they will excel, waiting on reach and super reach schools. If they get in reach schools, they'd be happy to attend, but knowing that it also means they will have to work harder. If they don't, they'd be happy at the schools that already accepted them. Better WLB, a little bit more fun, over prestige.

Either way they will be fine.

[Anonymous]

I'm grateful that my kid is all set with some great options -- it can only get better tbh -- so I'm not "anxious" in the sense of being worried or nervous.

However, I'm AuDHD, so my brain keeps circling back to the unanswered questions and unfinished business, and the effect is like a low-but-persistent hum processing in the background that never fully shuts off.

I would like it to shut off now, please!

Just a few more weeks. Phew!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Waiting on 10 reach decisions. Not anxious. The chances being shot down by all 10 is zero.

My kid last year went 0/12 with reach (top 25) decisions RD.
Had already been admitted to Michigan, UVA and UNC EA.

RD is TOUGH.

[Anonymous]

DS in at a few EA choices, and one with a full ride and the other one with half. Engineering major so public schools are great options.

DS applied to super reach schools in RD and was deferred for one of the REA. In some way, we've gotten used to the idea of merit aid from the admitted schools and not having to shell out money for an undergraduate education (much rather save money in case of graduate school).

Though we are excited for DS if he gets into the super reaches, I question if we would feel much loss with RD rejections. We have been trying to focus on what we currently have available and being happy about it. But who knows what the emotions will be like come end of March...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Waiting on 10 reach decisions. Not anxious. The chances being shot down by all 10 is zero.

Says who? Report back. I hope you are right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting on 10 reach decisions. Not anxious. The chances being shot down by all 10 is zero.

My kid last year went 0/12 with reach (top 25) decisions RD.
Had already been admitted to Michigan, UVA and UNC EA.

RD is TOUGH.

DP but -- wow. My kid didn't apply to UVA, but is in at Michigan and UNC and has been feeling optimistic. Time to manage expectations! I appreciate the heads up and reminder.

Sorry it was so rough for your kid -- I hope the love where they landed!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Waiting on 10 reach decisions. Not anxious. The chances being shot down by all 10 is zero.

Says who? Report back. I hope you are right.

I hope you’re right, too. But it has happened! Know that.

[Anonymous]

Luckily my daughter got into 2 reaches in the EA round, so she hasn’t felt too much worry. She’s excited to see what RD brings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We applied early and knew by the end of Nov. I don’t understand why students wait. Do you?

Some students apply regular decision or get waitlisted or deferred. It doesn't make you a better person. Go find someplace else to express your anger at life and leave OP alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Waiting on 10 reach decisions. Not anxious. The chances being shot down by all 10 is zero.

My kid last year went 0/12 with reach (top 25) decisions RD.
Had already been admitted to Michigan, UVA and UNC EA.

RD is TOUGH.

CS, engineering, or premed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Waiting on 10 reach decisions. Not anxious. The chances being shot down by all 10 is zero.

My kid last year went 0/12 with reach (top 25) decisions RD.
Had already been admitted to Michigan, UVA and UNC EA.

RD is TOUGH.

DP but -- wow. My kid didn't apply to UVA, but is in at Michigan and UNC and has been feeling optimistic. Time to manage expectations! I appreciate the heads up and reminder.

Sorry it was so rough for your kid -- I hope the love where they landed!

yes, best to manage expectations and expect nothing. But good luck!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Waiting on 10 reach decisions. Not anxious. The chances being shot down by all 10 is zero.

My kid last year went 0/12 with reach (top 25) decisions RD.
Had already been admitted to Michigan, UVA and UNC EA.

RD is TOUGH.

DP but -- wow. My kid didn't apply to UVA, but is in at Michigan and UNC and has been feeling optimistic. Time to manage expectations! I appreciate the heads up and reminder.

Sorry it was so rough for your kid -- I hope the love where they landed!

yes, best to manage expectations and expect nothing. But good luck!!!!!

What are you afraid of? Is that how you handle everything in life, expect nothing then it's not an expectation.
I understand you don't want disappointment. But that is normal in life. Deal with it when it comes!