Just back from a sorority reunion

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Anonymous wrote:Posts like these make me wonder. Though I have heard some good things about sororities, I have always counseled my DD to avoid them. My logic is based on the statistic that being in a sorority makes a girl more likely to be raped (by almost 2X!) It seems to make sense, given that sororities socialize with fraternities, who have vastly different (read:lower) standards for men than a woman would have when assessing an individual man for dating potential. It's like a workaround for sub-par guys to encounter women that society would normally shield from them, under circumstances that make the women vulnerable. Also, if you have picked your school well to ensure fit, shouldn't most people there be potential friends for you? You went to all the trouble to find a school with like-minded kids. Why focus time and attention on an exclusive minority? Then I hear some girls rave about their experiences and I think perhaps I've been too quick to judge. It still seems like the potential downside is greater than the upside, though.

I disagree with most of your logic. If you drink to excess, you often lose the ability to make good decisions. Don’t blame that on a sorority. As a parent, my job was to educate my child to be safe and careful (be aware of your surroundings when walking alone, don’t ever leave your drink unattended and to stay with your friends). Sororities, and fraternities for that matter, should be looked at as another group of friends (not your ONLY group of friends).

The fact that sorority members actually experience rape and sexual assault in much higher numbers is significant, though. You can dispute my logic, but that's a reality. I notice you didn't speak to most of my individual points, but went straight to alcohol. Interesting.

Or maybe they report more because they have a strong support network

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How is this different from any reunion of college friends?

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Anonymous wrote:How did everyone turn out OP?

+1. Did everyone marry well?

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Anonymous wrote:There are all kinds of sororities. Even ones for the band geeks, business geeks, and hot girl. OP was probably in one of the sororities that took anyone who could afford to join.

Many sororities today offer reduced dues if money is an issue. Sorry if that was an obstacle for you back in the day.

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I think social sororities were a good thing in the past for sure. There were a lot fewer women in college in the 80s and before. Now that we have a lot more women going to college, more than young men, plus the proliferation of social media, it seems like what was once a good or at least neutral thing has become excessively commoditized and commercialized. The “built-in support group” and fundraising aspects have become completely overshadowed by “flexing our awesome mansion and our 10 hottest members on social media.”

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Anonymous wrote:There are all kinds of sororities. Even ones for the band geeks, business geeks, and hot girl. OP was probably in one of the sororities that took anyone who could afford to join.

OP here. Yikes. This is quite the take on things.


My sorority is actually one of the oldest and best known in the country.

It has alum chapters nationwide and it's been a great way to meet people in every city we have moved to.

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Anonymous wrote:How did everyone turn out OP?

People were great. Many of us are near retirement ages. We had attorneys, accountants, occupational therapists, teachers, a police officer, nurses, journalists, etc.

Many 40 year marriages and people married to college sweethearts. Turns out some fraternity men do make great husbands.

Lots of reminiscing and working together to set up our events over the weekend.

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Anonymous wrote:Glad it was great for you - my Greek experienced involved being gang raped

NP and I am sincerely sorry this happened. Hugs to you, PP.

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Anonymous wrote:How did everyone turn out OP?

+1. Did everyone marry well?

I mean many were still married to people they knew in college.

But all the women had degrees and I didn't run in to one stay at home mom. So they didn't have to marry "well" -- they were CPAs, CFOs, lawyers, teachers, veterinarians, etc.

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Why are several posters here on DCUMAD so salty about the Greek system?

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I also had a great experience with my sorority but I haven’t gone to any reunions. Glad you did, OP, and had fun!

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My sorority was overall a good experience for me, and I definitely don't fit the "sorority girl" profile, then or now. Still hang out with several of them and the women I met through them. I would absolutely support my daughter if she chose to rush. It can be hard to find good friendships in college; this is one way.

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Anonymous wrote:Glad it was great for you - my Greek experienced involved being gang raped

Your sorority sisters raped you?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are several posters here on DCUMAD so salty about the Greek system?

Because they were SLAC losers or just losers in general. Surprised no one so far has busted out with “glad I didn’t have to buy my college friends.”

This place is overrun with socially awkward people.