Never a How are You

[Anonymous]

This is also a change in relationship dynamic. For most of your daughter's life, you were asking HER things. How was your day, what do you need, what do you want to do, etc. Its not natural for all kids at the same time to turn that back around with their parents. The helicopter generation has not helped with this. These young adults still think they are the center of the world. It will take them longer to mature the part of their brain that you are hoping her to have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She probably doesn’t like you so can’t fake the social niceties.

More reading comprehension + projection 😀

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She probably doesn’t like you so can’t fake the social niceties.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She probably doesn’t like you so can’t fake the social niceties.

More reading comprehension + projection 😀

+1, dumb miserable people project

[Anonymous]

My daughter is older, but the same.

Even when she asks, it is not genuine.

[Anonymous]

OP, I could cry because I could write the same thing, except my DD is 18. I think she is on the spectrum personally, because I have to teach her the MOST OBVIOUS THINGS so excruciatingly clearly it is frickin’ embarrassing and exhausting. “Why should you not go to school with your hair a mess? Because people will think you do not care and think you also do not care to be a friend.” “Why should you not bounce on someone’s couch like a goofy, over-excited monkey? Because it shows disrespect to people’s home and their furniture.” I can, not go on like this. Sorry , but I am particularly exhausted from dealing with her obtuseness today. I am feeling like, “Just go off to college next year and leave me alone and find some other weird people and maybe that’s just how your life will be like. Shrug. I am done and I have tried, good Lord, Ibhave tried.”*

* with her other learning differences and her other physical special needs, on top of what I have mentioned here — and I have sent bazillions of dollars and oodles of specialists and help, to my own exhaustion

[Anonymous]

I can tell you aren’t Italian-American… she is just a self-centered teenager (with similar friends) doing what she pleases . It’s your job to make give her irksome responsibilities like: text your Aunt a happy bday or start dinner as I have jet lag, etc. You shouldn’t care if it happens organically or is sincere- it just needs to happen. Feel free to add on guilt trips, they’re effective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter simply doesn’t care
Let’s call it what it is.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:GenZ doesn’t seem to be adopting boomerism in communication. GenX understands the useless niceties and idioms but tends to expect it less. No idea about millennials but GenZ hasn’t adopted any of this.

They stay in contact with people they care about via text while they are traveling. There’s no need for a big ooh how was the trip, spill all the beans! They don’t do big juicy scoops or let’s chit chat. They see this as disingenuous.

Times change.

Absolutely false!! I’m GenX and I went to dinner with a friend to specifically hear about her trip. She’s millennial. I care about the niceties and communicate F2F without a phone but still communicate with a phone too. I teach my kids the same

Late GenX here. It’s funny that the earlier poster, who I presume to be GenZ, finds exchanging basic niceties in person “disingenuous” when it seems like a lot of kids are becoming awfully reliant on AI for help in crafting every day communication and visibly malfunction when they have to speak to another human.