Dominant / submissive dynamics in relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW here and I like to be the Dom. I have a $trap0n and I play the man.

As a man who has been on the receiving end, that can be an exciting experience.

[Anonymous]

I’m a man who loves to be disciplined as foreplay and my wife accommodates.

[Anonymous]

Disciplined how?

[Anonymous]

Hairbrush, wooden spoon, belt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think men today are simply scared and I don't blame them. Spank her today, she enjoys it and a week later she filed a report for sexual assault.

If you are single man looking for this kind of dynamics go for a sex worker advertising this service, or do it with a fiance/wife who has given consent over and over .
With a casual acquaintance, FWB, random hookup NOPE don't do it. Her words and against yours. And you will lose 9/10 times.

I'm recently divorced and had sex with couple of younger guys in their 30s. They were so scared to touch me asking consent for every little detail that it just became a turn off..at first I thought I was giving an off vibe, but when it happened the second time and a girlfriend shared similar experience it seems that it's not uncommon.

This seems like a "you" problem. Men asking for consent is what most women want. As a man, I'd rather just ask than have to guess if she's into something and worry bout misinterpreting a signal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hairbrush, wooden spoon, belt.

you sound exactly like my husband! at first it made me uneasy until i realized how much it turns him on, and now I enjoy it as much as he does.

[Anonymous]

She has gotten a little dominant in bed with me and I got to the point where I verbalized in bed that I wanted to be her slave. Our intimate life has gone cold, though. But I would definitely like to spice things up. Break out the crop that she has used on me once.

[Anonymous]

Previous GF loved to be restrained. There are good under the bed restraint systems available for purchase online.

[Anonymous]

I spent years as the 'dominant man' that was really just adhering to the gender role script.

I'd love to switch it up and be the submissive man, but then my wife would have to 'take charge', and she has no desire to put in that much effort.

[Anonymous]

We have played and it is a lot of fun. Unfortunately, it is so exciting that regular quickies feel boring now, which kinda sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Previous GF loved to be restrained. There are good under the bed restraint systems available for purchase online.

At least 3 former GFs asked to be tied up. One owned her own set of restraints and asked me to use them on her.

Others (including DW) expressed a preference to “be dominated” during s*x.

One asked me to wrestle with her, and when inevitably won, I was supposed to “do anything you want.”

[Anonymous]

Can someone explain why women aren’t more dominant? Or don’t want to be more dominant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why women aren’t more dominant? Or don’t want to be more dominant?

No.

-a dominant woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why women aren’t more dominant? Or don’t want to be more dominant?

In my case two things: 1) it’s ridiculous—he’s stronger and bigger; 2) it’s a huge responsibility and takes a good bit of planning to actually do this lovingly, and sex is so relaxing when it’s not me who has to do this. It’s a little like any adrenaline sport, you have to think ahead in order to enjoy the adrenaline without enjoying a trip to ER. I plan much of our ski trips and many other things in life and it’s a gift to me that I don’t have to worry about the way we play with each other in private.

That said, sometimes I step into a more assertive role, it’s different but he loves it in small doses. It tends to happen if he’s tired or stressed out.

[Anonymous]

DH is hot as all get out per traditional standards of beauty - chiseled jaw; abs; tall; full head of hair; and he's a fantastic dom.

He's a switch but much more of a dom.

I love both but mostly giving in to him.