Dominant / submissive dynamics in relationship

[Anonymous]

Is this something you and your partner have explored sexually? Or is this not something either of you like?

I find it can be a lot of fun; just a unique kind of role play.

[Anonymous]

Oh god, I wish. My last FWB was a masculine daddy dom and it was the best sex of my life. I’d have 10 Os a night.

Current partner is not into it at all. I’ve asked, I’ve been explained how it would make me feel, he wants nothing to do with it. But our sex life is SO boring and vanilla. I tried calling him daddy once and he freaked out.

Once in awhile I’ll get a butt slap but he does it in the least sexy way possible

[Anonymous]

We enjoy it in the bedroom, but it doesn’t extend beyond that for us; it’s not a lifestyle. I wouldn’t exactly call our play sub/dom, though.

I am definitely more into the bondage and pain aspect above all else, with DH my perpetuator. We have lots of tools and toys, and we have fun when we have the house alone and can use them!

[Anonymous]

This is something my wife is into...she's watched "How to build a sex room" and has some ideas. I anticipate an interesting conversation the first time the kids come home from college.

[Anonymous]

Current FWB likes to be choked while having sex and has multiple O’s during. We have a safe word.

[Anonymous]

Maybe I've just gotten old, but D/s just seems so... vanilla to me. Not knocking it; it can be fun, but it lost its novelty for me a while back.

[Anonymous]

I had several of these relationships post divorce. Usually this stuff spills out of bedroom and shows as disrespect . I might try it again with a serious partner I trust though Os are fantastic with the right person

I don't know how women do it with casual FWB when there is no depth in the relationship

[Anonymous]

I think men today are simply scared and I don't blame them. Spank her today, she enjoys it and a week later she filed a report for sexual assault.

If you are single man looking for this kind of dynamics go for a sex worker advertising this service, or do it with a fiance/wife who has given consent over and over .
With a casual acquaintance, FWB, random hookup NOPE don't do it. Her words and against yours. And you will lose 9/10 times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think men today are simply scared and I don't blame them. Spank her today, she enjoys it and a week later she filed a report for sexual assault.

If you are single man looking for this kind of dynamics go for a sex worker advertising this service, or do it with a fiance/wife who has given consent over and over .
With a casual acquaintance, FWB, random hookup NOPE don't do it. Her words and against yours. And you will lose 9/10 times.

I'm recently divorced and had sex with couple of younger guys in their 30s. They were so scared to touch me asking consent for every little detail that it just became a turn off..at first I thought I was giving an off vibe, but when it happened the second time and a girlfriend shared similar experience it seems that it's not uncommon.

[Anonymous]

The men I have met who are into this dynamic are weak betas in real life. Very unattractive and insecure. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

We’re 20 years married and about a year ago he told me to beg for his C, then another time to beg him for his c$m. He’s brought me to the edge of an O then stopped and said I had to ask for permission. We always had a good sex life but the stuff he does once in a while leaves me feeling high.

[Anonymous]

Interesting that none of the responders are into the woman dominating...the role I find myself in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re 20 years married and about a year ago he told me to beg for his C, then another time to beg him for his c$m. He’s brought me to the edge of an O then stopped and said I had to ask for permission. We always had a good sex life but the stuff he does once in a while leaves me feeling high.

Oh this is so hot ! I love begging him to do nasty things to me, too. These orders drive me crazy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The men I have met who are into this dynamic are weak betas in real life. Very unattractive and insecure. No thanks.

Not my exchange but selfish and spoilt, yes

[Anonymous]

This dynamics only works for people who are PRESENT. Most men are not present and can't focus on the moment enough to engage in this dynamics.

Those who will give their partner the best Os ever.

Women love being dominated.