Seriously how do you meet decent young men to date in DC?

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Anonymous wrote:Leave DC. This town is filled with type A dorks who don’t know how to socialize. Do you want a Russ Vought because this is the place to meet a Russ Vought.

Or Stephen Miller.

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Anonymous wrote:I was also going to say — join a Christian church.

I am grew up in a family that attended church every Sunday but moved to the big city, and became agnostic for a long time. I was not into religion at all.

But in my early 40s, after some serious personal failings, I decided to look at faith again and I was astounded at what I found the second time around. It completely changed my life for the better.

There was previously a gender gap in church attendance with women attending church more than men. That gap is gone now. Churches are now filled with young men and they are the sort of young men who you would probably want to date — instead of men who are only in it for sex, are afraid to commit, and have zero interest in personal change and growth — the men I meet at church are seeking true love, seeing inner beauty, dedicated to becoming better versions of themselves, deeply in touch with their emotions and shortcomings, and wanting to live life in a Christ-like way that is filled with compassion, kindness, and grace, but also leadership and being of service.

I admire them because they are much better people than I was when I was their age and only selfishly cared about myself.

No, the young men that go to church are MAGAs these days. If you want a partner that will, say, respect your right to vote, stay far, far away from churches.

I was the person who originally posted this reply.

I would ask — do you actually attend a church? I do and it has been my experience that most young men I encounter at church, especially in this area, are not MAGA. That is a caricature from the media and espoused by people who don’t actually go to church. I have never, ever, ever met someone at my church who has believed that women shouldn’t have the right to vote. I am not talking about extremist fringe churches.

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Your best bet is a friend of someone you know. Friend of a friend can be too limiting. So broaden your network. All the usual - pick up a hobby, join some sort of sports team, etc. And it's not necessarily that you're going to meet the person directly through that group, your goal is to get to know people who may have a second degree connection. It will also by happenstance be very good for your career, as well as optimizing for your overall happiness by community building.

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Do women really struggle attracting men? Or do they struggle attracting the men they can't have?

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"Decent young men" and "DC" don't belong in the same sentence.

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Anonymous wrote:Do women really struggle attracting men? Or do they struggle attracting the men they can't have?

Nearly all of the men 20 to low 30# where I work have the social skills of a toaster or are complete dbags. There's not even a spectrum.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 24 and two years out of college. OLD is depressing me. Tips?

Date older, mid 30s to late 40s. Men your age will be still in the immature phase and "hit it and quit it".
Unless that's what you want for now. Then Tinder.

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Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with dating men in their 40's if she likes him?

Or their 50s, 60s or possibly early 70s. The "not more than three times your age" rule would extend up to 72 for OP.

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I would also suggest coed co-rec sports in the area through local community centers. (Running groups, volleyball indoor and outdoor, pickle ball or golf lessons, etc). Locals may have specific ideas.The idea of going to Smithsonian or other museum programs is also a good one. Also looking for community events that need one time volunteers for a charity of interest.