Is it becoming uncommon for men to marry broke women?

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My wife had a dead-end job when we met and was unemployed by the time we got engaged. But she's been at her current job for 15 years and is now senior management. There's a difference between being broke and being broke with potential.

[Anonymous]

If a woman works, then she has to have some money.

If she works and doesn't have her own money and some to spend on dating, then she's bad with money and a red flag.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

Or he wants someone submissive and dependent who he can control.

Are you that misogynistic and classist that you can’t perceive of a woman working retail who is intelligent? You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the block yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

Or he wants someone submissive and dependent who he can control.

Are you that misogynistic and classist that you can’t perceive of a woman working retail who is intelligent? You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the block yourself.

A poor woman who works retail is easy prey for controlling men. Intelligent or not. Its about the power imbalance.

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Anonymous wrote:Um maybe he loves her.

Love doesn't exist in DCUM land. It's all about money and social standing.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

Or he wants someone submissive and dependent who he can control.

Are you that misogynistic and classist that you can’t perceive of a woman working retail who is intelligent? You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the block yourself.

A poor woman who works retail is easy prey for controlling men. Intelligent or not. Its about the power imbalance.

Not much of a power imbalance once you get married. What's his is hers.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

Those do gooders are also often highly educated so at least they’re educationally matched…social workers, non tenured faculty, public defenders, etc. all have graduate degrees.

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Anonymous wrote:May be he wants to focus on his career and have a wife who won't mind leaving hers to raise kids and run household on her own. Makes for low stress and low conflict lives for both with defined roles not competing interests.

Exactly! Primary job of men is to be providers and primary job of women is to take care of the household and kids. This is natural and results in happy families.

Oh yes. Did your YouTube man-o-sphere guru teach you that. Clever /s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In big cities, liberal parts of the country, a guy in this scenario usually had a million red flags including major self esteem issues and misogyny. But now I live in a rich part of Florida, and it happens all the time. Like, often the woman at the top of the social hierarchy went to podunk local U for communications, worked retail or something super low pay and low glamour, but she’s blond and hot and marries a doctor and now she’s in a $3m house ruling the social scene. She often grew up rich though. It is truly bizarre to me because I have only lived in places with assertive mating, and didn’t think this had been a viable path since 1980 but apparently it is. The guys down here who choose that woman are less of a red flag than the men in the NE, but they still don’t see women as real people with agency.

the is common in the south as well.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

Or he wants someone submissive and dependent who he can control.

Are you that misogynistic and classist that you can’t perceive of a woman working retail who is intelligent? You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the block yourself.

A poor woman who works retail is easy prey for controlling men. Intelligent or not. Its about the power imbalance.

Not much of a power imbalance once you get married. What's his is hers.

Not if they have a prenup. The man who seeks control would make sure to sign a prenup.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

Or he wants someone submissive and dependent who he can control.

Are you that misogynistic and classist that you can’t perceive of a woman working retail who is intelligent? You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the block yourself.

A poor woman who works retail is easy prey for controlling men. Intelligent or not. Its about the power imbalance.

Not much of a power imbalance once you get married. What's his is hers.

Not if they have a prenup. The man who seeks control would make sure to sign a prenup.

A controlling man intentionally married to a low-income or no-income woman will still have total financial control without a prenup. And most things flow from there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife had a dead-end job when we met and was unemployed by the time we got engaged. But she's been at her current job for 15 years and is now senior management. There's a difference between being broke and being broke with potential.

My guess is she was highly educated?

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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

Or he wants someone submissive and dependent who he can control.

Are you that misogynistic and classist that you can’t perceive of a woman working retail who is intelligent? You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the block yourself.

A poor woman who works retail is easy prey for controlling men. Intelligent or not. Its about the power imbalance.

Not much of a power imbalance once you get married. What's his is hers.

Not if they have a prenup. The man who seeks control would make sure to sign a prenup.

A controlling man intentionally married to a low-income or no-income woman will still have total financial control without a prenup. And most things flow from there.

Uh, no. Joint account; any income belongs to both of us.

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Anonymous wrote:May be he wants to focus on his career and have a wife who won't mind leaving hers to raise kids and run household on her own. Makes for low stress and low conflict lives for both with defined roles not competing interests.

Exactly! Primary job of men is to be providers and primary job of women is to take care of the household and kids. This is natural and results in happy families.

Head right back to 1950 weirdo. There is no defined primary job for anyone. Let me guess you also believe men need to act out on their "natural aggressive tendencies" too.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a guy who makes about 400k who just proposed to his fiance who works an hourly retail job (but has a college degree). It just occurred to me that all the other couples I know make fairly even salaries with the man usually earning slightly more. I’m wondering why he didn’t go for a woman with a 6 figure job.

Either he doesn't care or doesn't want to wait for a better option. I see many couples with unbalanced finances but mostly low earner is in a low paying professional job for nonprofits or other do-gooder jobs, not in hourly retail.

Or he wants someone submissive and dependent who he can control.

Are you that misogynistic and classist that you can’t perceive of a woman working retail who is intelligent? You don’t sound like the sharpest knife in the block yourself.

A poor woman who works retail is easy prey for controlling men. Intelligent or not. Its about the power imbalance.

Not much of a power imbalance once you get married. What's his is hers.

Not if they have a prenup. The man who seeks control would make sure to sign a prenup.

A controlling man intentionally married to a low-income or no-income woman will still have total financial control without a prenup. And most things flow from there.

Uh, no. Joint account; any income belongs to both of us.

Better get him buy joint real estate. If can’t be sent to offshore trusts overnight .