When a man wants to wait for sex…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I texted him afterwards to let him know next time he can kiss me and do more"

You're weird. That's a weird thing to text. You should have addressed in person or made the first move, etc.

Maybe he has herpes and does not want to disclose unless he has decided he really likes you.

No, he's weird. What man needs to be told he can kiss and do more?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ED issues

This. And they stem from a much bigger issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ED issues

This. And they stem from a much bigger issue.

Which issue ?

[Anonymous]

I would only date men with whom there is enough chemistry that we couldn’t help but kiss or make out early. I wait until exclusivity for actual sex, but I need to know the fire is there. I would respect him not wanting to jump into bed, but the no kissing thing is kinda crazy to me.

[Anonymous]

This is a tough one. Any woman who tells me next time I can kiss her and do more, trust me we will go to pound town lol.

Women are tough to read and understand. If you move too fast you are a turn off. If you move too slow you are a turn off. If you are extra slow they will wonder if you are gay or if you don't find them attractive. Now that everything is initiated online and people don't go through the trials and errors of initially meeting a woman and taking your shots and learning along the way, I can see this being a problem for a lot men.

For women in my opinion it's easier because they control access to their coochie.

I don't know. Good luck to you though.

[Anonymous]

My sex fiend friend made a girl wait for 3-4 months. Nobody understood why. Turns out the girl he was leaving told him she had an STD. My friend waited those months for clean test.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sex fiend friend made a girl wait for 3-4 months. Nobody understood why. Turns out the girl he was leaving told him she had an STD. My friend waited those months for clean test.

Why couldn't he just tell her? God knows all the stuff that went through her mind during that time lol. Is he gay? Does he have ED? Am I fat? Am I ugly? Is he cheating? He must not like me lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve gone on three dates with a man over the last month. He hasn’t tried to kiss me on any of them, just walked me to my door and hugged me. I know he’s definitely interested in me, we talk on the phone daily and he’s let me know how much he likes me.

I texted him afterwards to let him know next time he can kiss me and do more. He responded that he won’t go too far unless he knows there’s something there, so we have to take our time.

Red or green flag? I don’t mind waiting, but I know men typically have high sex drives and want to get in bed as fast as possible. I don’t want to spend months dating him just to find out he doesn’t like sex. He’s also not religious.

DH here: Impossible to answer without knowing more, particularly your ages. But men sometimes do get gun shy if they are the sort who gets attached after sex and have had some bad experiences as a result. While the stereotype is that men are just in it for the sex and can compartmentalize no problem, there are actually quite a few that can catch feelings in that way. I had a rather painful ghosting experience once where we went from super-hot-and-heavy for a couple of months to “do I know you?” So, some men learn caution the hard way.

Why did she ghost you ?

I never found out. “Do I know you?” was a figure of speech, she was tangentially connected to a group of friends I had, so I saw her from time to time afterward for a couple of years, and it was all very cordial and friendly, there were no obvious issues. Right after things stopped I tried to engage in the “what happened?” conversation and it was met with, essentially, “what are you even talking about?” I realized that there would never be any meaningful answers so I dropped it after a couple of attempts. It seemed pretty hard core and insensitive to me, after you’ve been with a person in that way I think you are entitled to being dumped rather than “I’ll just pretend none of this ever happened and eventually he will clue in.” I suppose, though, once you figure out what is going on it’s basically the same thing, just more confusing and painful for a time. In any event, for purposes of this thread the take-away is that this experience made me a little skittish for a while, and I’ve heard similar stories from other guys. It’s a jungle out there.

[Anonymous]

Guy wants to wait - DCUMad - Gay!

Guy doesn’t want to wait - DCUMad - Predator!

GMAFB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s really nice and fun. However, I’d expect some ED issues might come up. To be honest, any guy over 50 is going to have issues with Ed anyway.

This is not true. I know that ED issues are common as one ages but my husband is 59 and has no issues. We were recently away for a few days and had s$x 3 nights in a row. We would have done it more, but the other nights we were sharing a hotel room with our son. When we are home we are a twice a week or so couple. I'm the issue for that, my libido has tanked in menopause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband was like this. Turns out he’s low drive and doesn’t like to initiate. I mistook it for being “polite”.

Keep an eye out for sexual compatibility and don’t ignore your gut.

Exactly the same here!

[Anonymous]

It is important to root out crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s really nice and fun. However, I’d expect some ED issues might come up. To be honest, any guy over 50 is going to have issues with Ed anyway.

This is not true. I know that ED issues are common as one ages but my husband is 59 and has no issues. We were recently away for a few days and had s$x 3 nights in a row. We would have done it more, but the other nights we were sharing a hotel room with our son. When we are home we are a twice a week or so couple. I'm the issue for that, my libido has tanked in menopause.

Do you know what an outlier means? Google it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s really nice and fun. However, I’d expect some ED issues might come up. To be honest, any guy over 50 is going to have issues with Ed anyway.

This is not true. I know that ED issues are common as one ages but my husband is 59 and has no issues. We were recently away for a few days and had s$x 3 nights in a row. We would have done it more, but the other nights we were sharing a hotel room with our son. When we are home we are a twice a week or so couple. I'm the issue for that, my libido has tanked in menopause.

Do you know what an outlier means? Google it.

Here's what the Op about this subject said:
"any guy over 50 is going to have issues with Ed anyway."

This is clearly not true, correct?

[Anonymous]

Either he’s gay, has ED issues or is shy because he has a tiny pp.