When a man wants to wait for sex…
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Anonymous
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I’ve gone on three dates with a man over the last month. He hasn’t tried to kiss me on any of them, just walked me to my door and hugged me. I know he’s definitely interested in me, we talk on the phone daily and he’s let me know how much he likes me.
I texted him afterwards to let him know next time he can kiss me and do more. He responded that he won’t go too far unless he knows there’s something there, so we have to take our time. Red or green flag? I don’t mind waiting, but I know men typically have high sex drives and want to get in bed as fast as possible. I don’t want to spend months dating him just to find out he doesn’t like sex. He’s also not religious. |
Anonymous
| Is he dating other people? |
Anonymous
| Why do women try so hard to find "faults" in men? If you are enjoying his company, just enjoy the ride and let things play out. |
Anonymous
| Careful, you might find out he has ethics and morals... |
Anonymous
Perish the thought! |
Anonymous
Exactly. Why don’t you have similar ethics, OP? |
Anonymous
| He's a virgin. |
Anonymous
| ED issues |
Anonymous
| I'd be worried if he didn't even want to make out. Making out is high school stuff. It's fairly low commitment. If it's in a car or at your front door, it's not a promise to hook up. If he's just hugging you, I'd be a little worried he wasn't attracted to you. |
Anonymous
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I’m seeing someone who waited until the end of the third date to kiss me. We talked for six hours and I was disappointed because I thought he just wasn’t interested. Then when we walked outside he kissed me for two hours. It was mind blowing. And the fourth date was different.
Some guys just take their time. I kind of preferred this over the ones who kiss on the first date. Restraint is hot. |
Anonymous
| Such a refreshing change from the usual horndogs. |
Anonymous
| I had a similar situation recently. after several dates I invited him over and made a point of getting a real kiss out of him (but did not push more than that). I eventually learned he had been burned by a relationship that heated up too fast and then crashed, so he was being careful. we got there eventually and it was good. |
Anonymous
| I think it’s really nice and fun. However, I’d expect some ED issues might come up. To be honest, any guy over 50 is going to have issues with Ed anyway. |
Anonymous
| He might be reading your signals incorrectly. Or you might be giving signals that you don't realize you're giving. |
Anonymous
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Just make the first move. My guy was reserved and I was attracted to him. It’s what I did and we are still together and have the best intimacy (including emotional). And we laugh about our first few dates.
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