Potential date blew it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's almost 70

He's in the wrong time of life for you

They are at about the same point in life biologically speaking.
Men are usually around 10-20 years behind women.

[Anonymous]

This question might have been OK if you were having a conversation about your sexy likes and dislikes etc. But if we are talking about the price of eggs and suddenly "are you menopausal" is tossed out, yeah. It feels like all the other was just filler for him, and now we are getting to what he really wants to know: can he f*** you.

I would have canceled too OP.

Also, not all women experience menopause the same way with the same symptoms. I am post-menopausal and have had very few symptoms, no change in libido or anything else. I only know I am post-meno because I haven't had a period in almost two years.

[Anonymous]

I am in my 50s and would probably ask why he was asking. It could be it played a really big role in a previous relationship or some more well intentioned reason. It would still be an inappropriate question to me and a red flag but I would ask to understand the reason he was asking rather than assuming an intention. As someone who occasionally also says awkward things that come out wrong when nervous, I don’t like to completely rule people out based on one sentence without knowing more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's almost 70

He's in the wrong time of life for you

They are at about the same point in life biologically speaking.
Men are usually around 10-20 years behind women.

Not physically, no.

[Anonymous]

Should have just said no, but you just caused me to dry up. And then hung up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I (52) met a man (67) at a group activity involving a shared interest a month ago. We talked on the phone a few times and set up a date for next week. We were talking on the phone a few days ago and he asked me, "Are you menopausal?" We were just talking about general things when he asked that. I told him that was a personal question. I didn't tell him, but I still have regular cycles. I texted him the next day and informed him I was cancelling the date and I wish him well. He replied, "Got it." No question here, just wondering how others would respond.

He got his answer in spades sounds like.

Were you acting odd and that's why he asked? Or was he hoping you might still have a child?

Are you always a misogynist or just when online?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's a strange question. I'm not sure if I'd ditch over it.

Because the question was peppered into general conversation, I couldn't tell why he wanted to know that. I responded quickly. Later, I figured it was because he was appraising me for sex. Either wondering if I could get pregnant, had a libido or am I dried up. He killed any interest I had in him. The date was meant to get to know each other. The question was inappropriate.

You “figured”!? Did he say this was why? I would have asked and not jumped to conclusions. But seems you are happy with the result.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s 67. If he hasn’t learned by now that he needs better social graces, he’s in rough shape.

+1

OP, that question might've shocked me and I might not have had the presence of mine to respond as you did, but if I had, that is exactly how I would have responded. That's a very personal question and completely inappropriate in a first conversation.

from the OP’s post I don’t think it was the first conversation .

[Anonymous]

Just a bad fit. Not need to dwell on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a bad fit. Not need to dwell on it.

Yeah. Not really worth crowd sourced analysis. You tell your friends over drinks, laugh, and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s 67. If he hasn’t learned by now that he needs better social graces, he’s in rough shape.

+1

OP, that question might've shocked me and I might not have had the presence of mine to respond as you did, but if I had, that is exactly how I would have responded. That's a very personal question and completely inappropriate in a first conversation.

from the OP’s post I don’t think it was the first conversation .

We talked the day we met and then on the phone a few times. We had a date set uo for a restaurant next week. This was our fifth conversation. We never talked about anything more than getting to know each other basic stuff.

[Anonymous]

Why on earth would you even accept a date with someone who is 67?!!!

I am 47. The last dates I had were 25, 28 and 36. All wanted more dates.

58 should be your limit.

He was so rude I can’t even believe it. You did the right thing. Date closer to your age or younger!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just a bad fit. Not need to dwell on it.

Yeah. Not really worth crowd sourced analysis. You tell your friends over drinks, laugh, and move on.

Interested you enough to read and respond, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth would you even accept a date with someone who is 67?!!!

I am 47. The last dates I had were 25, 28 and 36. All wanted more dates.

58 should be your limit.

He was so rude I can’t even believe it. You did the right thing. Date closer to your age or younger!

Unless you look like a super model if you are over 40 the men for you are 60+

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth would you even accept a date with someone who is 67?!!!

I am 47. The last dates I had were 25, 28 and 36. All wanted more dates.

58 should be your limit.

He was so rude I can’t even believe it. You did the right thing. Date closer to your age or younger!

I am looking for a relationship that will last. I have no interest in flings. My range is 48-65, but this man was charming. I'm glad I didn't waste too much time on him.