Why are women willing to sacrifice so much for love?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they are taught from the moment they are born they are worthless without having a man/ husband.

Making money is hard as a woman especially since most are steered into lower paying positions long before they are even wives and mothers.

I am a 50 year old woman and I have never even heard that sentiment let alone been taught it. Maybe it was just your parents. I don’t know any women who think they are worthless without a man.

It’s not explicit. It’s the general message from our culture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are women willing to sacrifice so much for love? Do they get a different physical/mental sensation from being in love compared to men?

I am asking because one my coworker was telling me that he recently attended a wedding where the bride was a 42 years divorced with 2 kids very successful making close to $300k but remarried to a guy who works overnight at an amazon factory moving boxes. I have noticed that for love women will sacrifice so much..they will marry a guy who makes significantly less. They will marry an unemployed man and financially take care of him and the house. They will start feeling pressure when they are the last yet to be married in their group in of friends. They will ignore red flags starting at them and get go ahead. Why?

She is 42 so in pre menopause, is divorced, has two kids and demanding job. What's wrong with going for a man who can offer what she doesn't have, time, sex, affection, involved parenting, home management. Sounds like she made a calculated decision.

THIS. Her decision seems smart to me. Partnering works best when your partner offers you things you can’t offer yourself. So she kinda won the jackpot and took it, as did he.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he's quite handy fixing things around the house, who knows? Plenty of soft men these days can't even change a tire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are women willing to sacrifice so much for love? Do they get a different physical/mental sensation from being in love compared to men?

I am asking because one my coworker was telling me that he recently attended a wedding where the bride was a 42 years divorced with 2 kids very successful making close to $300k but remarried to a guy who works overnight at an amazon factory moving boxes. I have noticed that for love women will sacrifice so much..they will marry a guy who makes significantly less. They will marry an unemployed man and financially take care of him and the house. They will start feeling pressure when they are the last yet to be married in their group in of friends. They will ignore red flags starting at them and get go ahead. Why?

How is this different from a wealthy old man marrying a hot young waitress/secretary/yoga teacher?

+1

The woman is financially stable, likely will not be having any children with him, and can marry for love.

Hopefully she was smart enough to have him sign a prenup given the income disparity, particularly since she has children (same thing a man in the same situation should certainly require).

+1 strong prenup.

He may also be a great stepdad to the kids. And maybe he's just so amazing in bed that her brain cells are scrambled.

I mean.. who knows. Only they know.

[Anonymous]

Usually I'd say they put up with a ton of bad stuff due to prioritizing the kids.

But OP's case sounds fake as F.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh and yet men do this all the time, and its unremarked upon. Check your misandry.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they are taught from the moment they are born they are worthless without having a man/ husband.

Making money is hard as a woman especially since most are steered into lower paying positions long before they are even wives and mothers.

I am a 50 year old woman and I have never even heard that sentiment let alone been taught it. Maybe it was just your parents. I don’t know any women who think they are worthless without a man.

Consider yourself lucky because that is not the norm and you know that. Enough with the gaslighting crap

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they are taught from the moment they are born they are worthless without having a man/ husband.

Making money is hard as a woman especially since most are steered into lower paying positions long before they are even wives and mothers.

I am a 50 year old woman and I have never even heard that sentiment let alone been taught it. Maybe it was just your parents. I don’t know any women who think they are worthless without a man.

It’s not explicit. It’s the general message from our culture.

Pp. Knows that. It's a male troll who.likes to gaslight women and pretend men are the real victims cries misandry all the time

[Anonymous]

It’s not explicit. It’s the general message from our culture.

Pp. Knows that. It's a male troll who.likes to gaslight women and pretend men are the real victims cries misandry all the time

Look, it is the crazy "you're an incel, you're an incel" poster showing up for the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are women willing to sacrifice so much for love? Do they get a different physical/mental sensation from being in love compared to men?

I am asking because one my coworker was telling me that he recently attended a wedding where the bride was a 42 years divorced with 2 kids very successful making close to $300k but remarried to a guy who works overnight at an amazon factory moving boxes. I have noticed that for love women will sacrifice so much..they will marry a guy who makes significantly less. They will marry an unemployed man and financially take care of him and the house. They will start feeling pressure when they are the last yet to be married in their group in of friends. They will ignore red flags starting at them and get go ahead. Why?

The only thing that is remarkable about this is the overnight work schedule, which seems at odds with what I would assume is a more traditional schedule for the bride, but that's an assumption on my part. Everything else can be gender swapped, as noted by PPs, and is only problematic if it doesn't work for the couple.

I was a SAHM for years and nobody thought that was a red flag or a sacrifice on the part of my DH. If anything, the sacrifice was seen as mine – giving up my career and financial independence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It’s not explicit. It’s the general message from our culture.

Pp. Knows that. It's a male troll who.likes to gaslight women and pretend men are the real victims cries misandry all the time

Look, it is the crazy "you're an incel, you're an incel" poster showing up for the day.

+1. And it's funny because using incel as an insult like that is explicitly saying that a man who can't attract a woman is less worthy than one who can.

But we're supposed to believe in some "general message" that lots of women don't believe in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are women willing to sacrifice so much for love? Do they get a different physical/mental sensation from being in love compared to men?

I am asking because one my coworker was telling me that he recently attended a wedding where the bride was a 42 years divorced with 2 kids very successful making close to $300k but remarried to a guy who works overnight at an amazon factory moving boxes. I have noticed that for love women will sacrifice so much..they will marry a guy who makes significantly less. They will marry an unemployed man and financially take care of him and the house. They will start feeling pressure when they are the last yet to be married in their group in of friends. They will ignore red flags starting at them and get go ahead. Why?

Because I had terrible self esteem and thought I was really in love with this guy who didn't have a penny to his name and wasn't fazed by $100k in credit card debt back in the 90s.

I can't undo what was done but I know I thought this person loved me and I didn't believe I deserved someone who was also at least somewhat financially responsible. He did eventually start to make money but that would never have happened if I had not been there to hold his hand and use my money to bail us out along the way. And then the financial success went to his head and it all went up in flames. I don't beat myself up because I can't change my poor decision in the husband department.

You answered OP's question. Don't blame yourself for falling in love. You sacrificed a lot for love because like most women you genuinely believe in true love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are women willing to sacrifice so much for love? Do they get a different physical/mental sensation from being in love compared to men?

I am asking because one my coworker was telling me that he recently attended a wedding where the bride was a 42 years divorced with 2 kids very successful making close to $300k but remarried to a guy who works overnight at an amazon factory moving boxes. I have noticed that for love women will sacrifice so much..they will marry a guy who makes significantly less. They will marry an unemployed man and financially take care of him and the house. They will start feeling pressure when they are the last yet to be married in their group in of friends. They will ignore red flags starting at them and get go ahead. Why?

She is 42 so in pre menopause, is divorced, has two kids and demanding job. What's wrong with going for a man who can offer what she doesn't have, time, sex, affection, involved parenting, home management. Sounds like she made a calculated decision.

She made a terrible decision. She is 42 not that far off from retirement..why would she risk her financial future in exchange of what you have listed as benefits? The risks outweigh the benefits. So she sacrificed her financial future for love. Crazy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are women willing to sacrifice so much for love? Do they get a different physical/mental sensation from being in love compared to men?

I am asking because one my coworker was telling me that he recently attended a wedding where the bride was a 42 years divorced with 2 kids very successful making close to $300k but remarried to a guy who works overnight at an amazon factory moving boxes. I have noticed that for love women will sacrifice so much..they will marry a guy who makes significantly less. They will marry an unemployed man and financially take care of him and the house. They will start feeling pressure when they are the last yet to be married in their group in of friends. They will ignore red flags starting at them and get go ahead. Why?

She is 42 so in pre menopause, is divorced, has two kids and demanding job. What's wrong with going for a man who can offer what she doesn't have, time, sex, affection, involved parenting, home management. Sounds like she made a calculated decision.

She made a terrible decision. She is 42 not that far off from retirement..why would she risk her financial future in exchange of what you have listed as benefits? The risks outweigh the benefits. So she sacrificed her financial future for love. Crazy

Women will always take risks when they fall in love with someone. Ask all the divorced women here who knew about their ex's red flags and yet took a chance. Women love to love.

[Anonymous]

I think a woman can create her energy and happiness. she doesn't need aan for that. and I say that as a man. However, is it sexist if I say that perhaps women are more "wired" to seek true love compared to men. For example, both men and women cheat. But we can safely conclude that married men are more likely to cheat. So maybe a woman who loves her husband can't cheat on him? Maybe for her that's a big betrayal. I don't think we men see it as betrayal