Do men become more deferential to their wives as they get older and wealthier?

[Anonymous]

It's almost as if declining testosterone tracks with agreeable behavior...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Cheaper to keep her

+1. Plus they already won the major battle of sidelining their wife’s career and outside aspirations.

This hits so close to home and I am not even a SAHM.

Yes, what victims, having to live with someone who is agreeable and wealthy. How selfless of these women to agree to let someone else earn all the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think men, especially wealthy men get more laid back about $$ when we get older.

I’m already more laid back at 40 than I was at 30. In part because we’ve done really well. In another 10 years I’ll care even less, I hope. “Sure, new cabinets sound great sweetie.” So my net worth would go down from 7.3 million to 7.27 million or whatever. Not an issue.

This is such a cringey response. Would be hilarious if this were satire.

Poor lady gets her panties in a bunch because she can't drop whatever she wants on cabinets whenever she wants. Sad.

[Anonymous]

What the heck is OP even talking about?

Is he submissive when he's banging his secretary on the corporate jet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the heck is OP even talking about?

Is he submissive when he's banging his secretary on the corporate jet?

Yeah, was just about to post this.

Being forgiven of adultery buys a lot of deference. Ask me how I know. She could have blown up our family and didn't.

[Anonymous]

I can't for the life of me fathom hopping on the internet to be smug about my wealth and talking about cabinets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Deferential in what ways? Maybe I married wrong, because we're wealthy, and we've had a power struggle since the beginning, and it hasn't changed.

Why on earth are wealthy women hanging out on DCUM? Some weird kind of flex, eternally gossipy, or just nothing to do?

[Anonymous]

Wives are exhausting. After awhile you just give them whatever the hell they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Deferential in what ways? Maybe I married wrong, because we're wealthy, and we've had a power struggle since the beginning, and it hasn't changed.

Why on earth are wealthy women hanging out on DCUM? Some weird kind of flex, eternally gossipy, or just nothing to do?

I suspect the only real ones are the moms who started out on this board back in the day. Now they're all 50's+ and they/their spouses have reached the peak of their lifetime earning potential. There's no one around to brag to because everyone in their social circle is similarly well off. Even a middle of the pack corporate ladder climber is going to have some decent wealth. Big woop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Deferential in what ways? Maybe I married wrong, because we're wealthy, and we've had a power struggle since the beginning, and it hasn't changed.

Politically. I’ve seen men who started out as conservative republicans become more liberal over time, and usually they’re married to a very liberal feminist type woman.

Now you could argue these men simply wised up and became enlightened, or it could be the fact they don’t want to destroy their marriage by getting into political debates with their spouse in an era of extreme polarization.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Selection bias. The ones who don’t become deferential get left as was the case in my marriage. Ex became increasingly entitled and generally insufferable the more he earned.

My ex became worse and worse with more money and I left him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Deferential in what ways? Maybe I married wrong, because we're wealthy, and we've had a power struggle since the beginning, and it hasn't changed.

Politically. I’ve seen men who started out as conservative republicans become more liberal over time, and usually they’re married to a very liberal feminist type woman.

Now you could argue these men simply wised up and became enlightened, or it could be the fact they don’t want to destroy their marriage by getting into political debates with their spouse in an era of extreme polarization.

My wife just became more conservative. A much better solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I noticed a trend with men in my family, the wealthier men started out being more independent and less aligned with their wives views at the start of the marriage but as they get older they basically go into full submission mode to their wives and there seems to be barely any conflict because they adopt the mindset of their wife being right about everything. These are men with net worths ranging from $10-50M. I kind of wonder why they’re like this, but it seems like it’s because they have a lot to lose in a divorce the older and richer they become. Men who are less wealthy have a different mindset where they will more readily butt heads with their spouse.

This has just been my observation. Anyone else see this pattern?

Its not because they want to protect their money from the wife but from the next woman. They know by now that wife is faithful and would care for them if they got sick and protect money for the kids.