Is it unsportsmanlike/rude for parents to only attend games -

[Anonymous]

For me, it was a decision about what my kid wants/needs. My DD never played (soccer) her junior year except in a blowout situation, and it was a frustrating and difficult experience. She would have never told me she expected me to be at all the games, but I know my kid and felt that she needed to feel supported, even if she couldn’t express it. So I sat there and quietly suffered along with her. She started senior year, much more fun!

[Anonymous]

Yup. DC never plays. Like, hasn't seen a single minute. Kid gets it and has no problem if we don't come to games.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my kid wasn’t getting playing time she wouldn’t be at the game. This benching kids business is nonsense.
Now if she’s injured or something that’s different, she can be supportive.

This isn’t rec soccer. Once kids get to a certain age/level the best kids play period. I’d be pretty mad if my kid was taken off the field so that a player who isn’t as good got minutes with the exception of when we are winning by a lot.

[Anonymous]

I stopped going to games because I got too angry over playing time. I know, I get it. My kid is okay with it, too. But watching him not play was bringing out anger issues I didn't think I had, so I stopped going to games.

[Anonymous]

I could have written the same thing except my son is a freshman and started the year playing. None of us can figure out what happened. He wasn’t hitting great, but his fielding was fine. He laced a double in his last at bat before be benched for two weeks. His return was in the last inning of a blowout. The team isn’t very strong, but had a winning record two weeks ago. They lost all the games in the two weeks he didn’t play. The kids that replaced him were also underclassman, hit about the same and fielded worse. This is one of the few times I haven’t enjoyed going to see his teams play and he’s seen some limited playing time on some travel teams.

At least one of us has gone to each home game to show support, but skipped the away games. It’s been brutal to watch and irritating to miss his younger siblings’ games where they actually play. I’ve stayed away from the other parents, but I don’t really know any of them so it’s been easy to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS plays baseball, and I don't go the extra mile to get myself to a game unless he's pitching. I don't care what anyone thinks about that.

Same here...in fact my kid would find it a little odd to attend a game where he isn't playing. He would find it insane to attend an away game where he isn't playing.

In fact, he has even skipped some games where he isn't pitching. Says he has homework or something...games where he knows the team will win and they just play the non-starters the entire game anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:that they know their kid will be playing in?

My kid is a HS junior. We've attended every single game my kid has ever played since freshman year, whether he gets playing time or not, to support the team. And there is a coterie of parents who show up every time as well - I think most are boosters or graduates of this high school. (We are not.)

My kid is a junior this year and I'm so over it now. This year has been the worst. He has played in 2 of 6 games so far. Ironically, the game he played as starter (and not switching out with the other senior kid at his position, who is usually the starter) was against the most difficult highest-ranked team that they have faced, and is the only game that they won. Not saying they won because of my kid, but clearly he is not a drag on the team. After winning that game, my kid hasn't played at all - is riding the bench, not even switching out with the other kid.

Would you feel obligated to attend games where your kid has been told ahead of time he's not playing. I don't want to appear to be in "sour grapes" mode and want to support the team, but also don't want to waste time sitting around watching my kid ride the bench while the team is also getting mostly slaughtered.

Honey, what about going to support your son? If he is used to you going to all of his games but suddently you aren't, what are you going to tell him? "We'd go if you played." How is he going to hear that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:that they know their kid will be playing in?

My kid is a HS junior. We've attended every single game my kid has ever played since freshman year, whether he gets playing time or not, to support the team. And there is a coterie of parents who show up every time as well - I think most are boosters or graduates of this high school. (We are not.)

My kid is a junior this year and I'm so over it now. This year has been the worst. He has played in 2 of 6 games so far. Ironically, the game he played as starter (and not switching out with the other senior kid at his position, who is usually the starter) was against the most difficult highest-ranked team that they have faced, and is the only game that they won. Not saying they won because of my kid, but clearly he is not a drag on the team. After winning that game, my kid hasn't played at all - is riding the bench, not even switching out with the other kid.

Would you feel obligated to attend games where your kid has been told ahead of time he's not playing. I don't want to appear to be in "sour grapes" mode and want to support the team, but also don't want to waste time sitting around watching my kid ride the bench while the team is also getting mostly slaughtered.

Honey, what about going to support your son? If he is used to you going to all of his games but suddently you aren't, what are you going to tell him? "We'd go if you played." How is he going to hear that?

"Honey"? Are you my 90-year-old grandpa, or is this your best attempt at condescension?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS plays baseball, and I don't go the extra mile to get myself to a game unless he's pitching. I don't care what anyone thinks about that.

Obviously the coach must tell kids ahead of time they're pitching? Our coach does not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS plays baseball, and I don't go the extra mile to get myself to a game unless he's pitching. I don't care what anyone thinks about that.

Obviously the coach must tell kids ahead of time they're pitching? Our coach does not.

That’s bad coaching. Not that hard to let kids know a day ahead who is in the rotation. Everybody looks at gamechanger and understands the opponent.

[Anonymous]

My daughter plays two high school sports. - both of which she loves. I try to make it to at least one or two games per season, but that's about all I can do.

Life involves a lot of commitments and I just can't make it to many games.

Do I care in the slightest what any other parents think?

Does my daughter care that I'm not at every game?

nope and nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:that they know their kid will be playing in?

My kid is a HS junior. We've attended every single game my kid has ever played since freshman year, whether he gets playing time or not, to support the team. And there is a coterie of parents who show up every time as well - I think most are boosters or graduates of this high school. (We are not.)

My kid is a junior this year and I'm so over it now. This year has been the worst. He has played in 2 of 6 games so far. Ironically, the game he played as starter (and not switching out with the other senior kid at his position, who is usually the starter) was against the most difficult highest-ranked team that they have faced, and is the only game that they won. Not saying they won because of my kid, but clearly he is not a drag on the team. After winning that game, my kid hasn't played at all - is riding the bench, not even switching out with the other kid.

Would you feel obligated to attend games where your kid has been told ahead of time he's not playing. I don't want to appear to be in "sour grapes" mode and want to support the team, but also don't want to waste time sitting around watching my kid ride the bench while the team is also getting mostly slaughtered.

Honey, what about going to support your son? If he is used to you going to all of his games but suddently you aren't, what are you going to tell him? "We'd go if you played." How is he going to hear that?

"Honey"? Are you my 90-year-old grandpa, or is this your best attempt at condescension?

Honey is a term of endearment where I'm from. No need for unnecessary virtue signaling. If you attack honey, you should be a very busy keyboard warrior, because these forums are full of informal forms of address and good luck with that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:that they know their kid will be playing in?

My kid is a HS junior. We've attended every single game my kid has ever played since freshman year, whether he gets playing time or not, to support the team. And there is a coterie of parents who show up every time as well - I think most are boosters or graduates of this high school. (We are not.)

My kid is a junior this year and I'm so over it now. This year has been the worst. He has played in 2 of 6 games so far. Ironically, the game he played as starter (and not switching out with the other senior kid at his position, who is usually the starter) was against the most difficult highest-ranked team that they have faced, and is the only game that they won. Not saying they won because of my kid, but clearly he is not a drag on the team. After winning that game, my kid hasn't played at all - is riding the bench, not even switching out with the other kid.

Would you feel obligated to attend games where your kid has been told ahead of time he's not playing. I don't want to appear to be in "sour grapes" mode and want to support the team, but also don't want to waste time sitting around watching my kid ride the bench while the team is also getting mostly slaughtered.

I did not gaf when in this situation. My child was better than one of the other kids at the position but the other kid was related to the coach and got far more playing time. (And before you scream that I'm biased, the accolades received and metrics prove how good my kid is. As the starter, eventually, MANY parents discretely came to me and expressed their thoughts on the matter to me, in favor of my kid). It was really hard on my child. And so, no, I did not go to every game (as moral support for my kid). I went to some but def not all.

[Anonymous]

Yeah - we were in the situation with my DS last year. He played club soccer, started for that team. He never meshed with his HS coach and road the bench pretty much the entire season.

I made it a point to go to the games, regardless if be played. I did that more to support him and his team. My spouse got frustrated and pretty much stopped going after senior night.

Also, equally frustrating was the fact that his team did get slaughtered most games and the coach just wouldn't switch things up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:that they know their kid will be playing in?

My kid is a HS junior. We've attended every single game my kid has ever played since freshman year, whether he gets playing time or not, to support the team. And there is a coterie of parents who show up every time as well - I think most are boosters or graduates of this high school. (We are not.)

My kid is a junior this year and I'm so over it now. This year has been the worst. He has played in 2 of 6 games so far. Ironically, the game he played as starter (and not switching out with the other senior kid at his position, who is usually the starter) was against the most difficult highest-ranked team that they have faced, and is the only game that they won. Not saying they won because of my kid, but clearly he is not a drag on the team. After winning that game, my kid hasn't played at all - is riding the bench, not even switching out with the other kid.

Would you feel obligated to attend games where your kid has been told ahead of time he's not playing. I don't want to appear to be in "sour grapes" mode and want to support the team, but also don't want to waste time sitting around watching my kid ride the bench while the team is also getting mostly slaughtered.

Honey, what about going to support your son? If he is used to you going to all of his games but suddently you aren't, what are you going to tell him? "We'd go if you played." How is he going to hear that?

"Honey"? Are you my 90-year-old grandpa, or is this your best attempt at condescension?

Honey is a term of endearment where I'm from. No need for unnecessary virtue signaling. If you attack honey, you should be a very busy keyboard warrior, because these forums are full of informal forms of address and good luck with that!

The post was clearly condescending. lol
Im sure most readers on here could tell that. The post was likely from a bored mamma judging someone for not attending every game their child plays.