If your kid changed their first name in middle school....

[Anonymous]

We have a family rule that you can have whatever nickname you want with your friends, but your parents took time and effort to choose your given name and as long as we are alive, it’s what we will call you.

It’s not a gender thing. We have a child who is bisexual. Her friends call her a gender neutral name. We are 100% okay with it.

When I was in middle school, my friends called me a different name when I announced that is what I wanted — in 1990. I don’t know if it was a trend then, but it’s what I wanted. It’s still my nickname with old friends but my professional name is back to my given name.

TDLR: middle school is hard and we all had to find ourselves. This generation had so much pressure to label themselves and use their names to define who they are. Let them do it. In our house, we will support but your, “your mama named you Clay, I’m gonna call you Clay.”

It helps we have a big family so the kids all know the deal together. It’s not personal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this due to changing genders or more like using a middle name?

was name
Alexandria
changed to
Alejandrina. she was 5th grade legal changed in the DMV at 18, shes 25 now. she calls by Alex. Hispanic we gave her a so called "white girl name" and wanted her name to be Hispanic since her dad has a common white name.

Your family is not “Hispanic.” The correct term is LatinX.

Please try to use the correct term.

Did you just try and correct someone on how to refer to their own ethnicity? Is this real?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dd now goes by a nickname of her middle name at school. Love her middle name but hate the new nickname. She lets us call her by her first name at home because she said it was “too weird” to have us call her by her middle/new name. In fact, everyone who know her by her first name continues to call her that. We’ll see if it continues into college or if she gets tired of constantly correcting people.

As someone who always went by their middle name, I don’t know why anyone would choose to, it’s so annoying!

Same. I love Gabriella and it was a perfect middle name. I can't stand that she is now called "Gabby."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a family rule that you can have whatever nickname you want with your friends, but your parents took time and effort to choose your given name and as long as we are alive, it’s what we will call you.

It’s not a gender thing. We have a child who is bisexual. Her friends call her a gender neutral name. We are 100% okay with it.

When I was in middle school, my friends called me a different name when I announced that is what I wanted — in 1990. I don’t know if it was a trend then, but it’s what I wanted. It’s still my nickname with old friends but my professional name is back to my given name.

TDLR: middle school is hard and we all had to find ourselves. This generation had so much pressure to label themselves and use their names to define who they are. Let them do it. In our house, we will support but your, “your mama named you Clay, I’m gonna call you Clay.”

It helps we have a big family so the kids all know the deal together. It’s not personal.

You picked a new nickname but don't let your kids do the same?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this due to changing genders or more like using a middle name?

was name
Alexandria
changed to
Alejandrina. she was 5th grade legal changed in the DMV at 18, shes 25 now. she calls by Alex. Hispanic we gave her a so called "white girl name" and wanted her name to be Hispanic since her dad has a common white name.

Your family is not “Hispanic.” The correct term is LatinX.

Please try to use the correct term.

Did you just try and correct someone on how to refer to their own ethnicity? Is this real?

No, I corrected them (and you) on the anachronistic and transphobic term “Latinos,” which you cannot use anymore (unless you are a MAGA/ bigot).

[Anonymous]

It’s not always a gender thing. My family and extended family called me by my first and middle name together when I was young. Think of something like Mary Beth. I decided I wanted to just be Mary and really resented the entire thing, thinking it sounded babyish. I am almost 50 and just Mary now. Some extended cousins occasional slip Mary Beth but that’s it.

Same with DH. He was a Jimmy from birth to around middle school, when he changed to Jim. When he goes to his hometown, we hear lots of Jimmy.

These aren’t really name changes like you mean but they seem it to us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids do this? Aside from gender identity issues, I don’t know of any teens that have totally changed their name

It’s a gender thing. Was super common the year before last when my youngest was still in an FCPS middle school.

The policy was unlimited name-changes, and lots of kids took advantage of that. Some even changed gender/ names from month to month.

Two pages of people telling their stories from 10-15-20+ years ago, but sure. Blame it on the gender thing. @@

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this due to changing genders or more like using a middle name?

was name
Alexandria
changed to
Alejandrina. she was 5th grade legal changed in the DMV at 18, shes 25 now. she calls by Alex. Hispanic we gave her a so called "white girl name" and wanted her name to be Hispanic since her dad has a common white name.

Your family is not “Hispanic.” The correct term is LatinX.

Please try to use the correct term.

Did you just try and correct someone on how to refer to their own ethnicity? Is this real?

No, I corrected them (and you) on the anachronistic and transphobic term “Latinos,” which you cannot use anymore (unless you are a MAGA/ bigot).

Ignore this person who is obviously trolling. Please please please don't take the bait

[Anonymous]

A knew a girl that went from Patty to Tricia in college. It seems like it was for a new beginning/new persona and it has stuck for 30 years.