50/50 with three kids, partially splitting up the kids?

[Anonymous]

you're breaking up your family. don't break up your kids too.

[Anonymous]

I have two older boys who are v close to each other and a younger girl. Frankly, we split them up like this even in our intact family sometimes. I could see it happening if we got divorced too.

[Anonymous]

Horrible idea. Either work it out or share custody of ALL THREE children.

[Anonymous]

You need to do whats best for your kids. Not all siblings get along so if they don't, its a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG totally unfair to the kids who are really going to need each other to get through this. The approach you suggest would eliminate any stability at all for them.

This. Let the kids lean on each other. It’s all they will have as things become uncertain in their world.

That only works if the siblings are good to each other. My sibling was just pure mean to me. I would have loved to be separated from them.

[Anonymous]

When we told our kids we were divorcing, they initially freaked out bc they thought they were going to get separated from each other. Ie one kid would go with one parent, one with the other. The thought of being apart from each other upset them more than the thought of their parents divorcing.

[Anonymous]

I have 2 kids not three, but each one gets a 1-1 night once a month with each parent. For us it’s a weeknight, because weekends are harder to coordinate either travel, sports, etc. our kids like getting a break from each other sometimes.

It does feel like this is a lot more logistically complicated with 3 though.

[Anonymous]

You are divorcing the kids amongst each other.

I seriously doubt any judge will allow this.

[Anonymous]

I think this is well intentioned, but will be a disaster in practice. If you co parent well, you could make sure each kid gets 1 on 1 time each month without anything this formal. If you don’t, a complicated schedule like this will be disastrous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three young kids, trying to figure out custody. Both parents want (and want the other to have) 50/50. Considering having one parent take one kid and the other parent the other two certain days a week, then switching. Anyone do this? I know a lot of the responses will be about what a logistical nightmare this is, but there are mitigating factors that will make it easier (houses five minutes away from each other, flexible work schedules, all kids in same school, local family support).

The divorce is both your faults. Why would you punish your kids like this?

[Anonymous]

A judge isn't going to allow this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A judge isn't going to allow this.

Of course they would if its best for the kids and the kids don't get along.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three young kids, trying to figure out custody. Both parents want (and want the other to have) 50/50. Considering having one parent take one kid and the other parent the other two certain days a week, then switching. Anyone do this? I know a lot of the responses will be about what a logistical nightmare this is, but there are mitigating factors that will make it easier (houses five minutes away from each other, flexible work schedules, all kids in same school, local family support).

The divorce is both your faults. Why would you punish your kids like this?

I don't understand how you can unequivocally say this to a complete stranger based off a few sentences. Is it my fault my husband cheated on a with an associate and work and is leaving me for her? Seriously please think through your words before you shit on someone in a vulnerable moment. I hope your life never goes sideways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A judge isn't going to allow this.

A judge won't allow a kid spending one night a week away from their siblings?