Has anyone heard teens/tweens use "brick" as an insult or as slang?

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Anonymous wrote:It just means "we don't like you". It doesn't matter if someone thinks I means far or stupid or ugly.

Those kids need the snot beat out of them.
Your kid needs to grey rock them or lay one of them on the floor, depending on ability.

It’s my DD (no idea why I left gender out, sorry) and these are boys who are messing with her. DH and I gave her permission to fight back in a physical way. They deserve a punch to the face or a kick in the crotch.

It disgusts me but I think these are the sort of kids that only understand physical violence. She claims she can’t do it, but in case she is brave enough, I told her to punch them and go straight to the main office and self-report what she did, and we’ll come to pick her up as soon as they call us.

Ok knowing she's female- yes they mean fat (whether she is or not). Terrible, I'm sorry OP.

:roll: This is not the 1970s, people no longer use "brick" like "brick house". Please search "bricked up" on Urban Dictionary or Tiktok. It's a very common phrase among young people meaning to have an erection. People use it literally all the time to describe a guy who is turned on. Calling her a brick is almost certainly a derivative of that, nothing to do with weight, other than I guess an implication that they like whatever weight she's at and view her through a sexual lens. Gross to be sure, when directed at your young daughter, but that's middle school boys for you.

OP here and unfortunately they’re not even in middle school. DD is in 4th grade and these boys are in 4th and 5th grade. I just had to email school about it and already felt violated on her behalf and now that I am seeing this meaning I feel gross for even typing it into an email.

Also, I’m sure you didn’t intend it like that but I feel strongly that even dismissing it as standard middle school boy behavior in a thread like this is the kind of excuse-making and “boys will be boys” stuff that allows boys to keep doing it and gives teachers and parents the excuse to look away and avoid uncomfortable conversations about inappropriate behavior that leads to or is sexual harassment.

You seem to have a lot of hang ups about men. These are children, you need to adjust and relax.

I like men and boys just fine as long as they’re not targeting my daughter for insults and comments with implied or explicit sexual meaning!

Look, I am not defending the behavior and have girls too, but these boys have no idea what they are saying. They are young children repeating crap they have heard, they are not in any way thinking of your daughter sexually. I really hope you did not imply that in your email. Yikes.

I didn’t imply anything in my email. I actually said that I didn’t know what the word meant and if it was actual slang, but it was clearly being used as an insult. I’m truly hoping that this is nothing sexualized, but this is a group that also has done things in the past like making groping gestures, talking about big butts, thrusting their crotches and making moaning noises. At some point it’s not just “oh they’re copying things and don’t realize what they’re doing.” They have older siblings and YouTube and I don’t think they’re the innocents we wish they were so we wouldn’t have to think about the implications of all of this.

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Anonymous wrote:"Brick" is also a term used to describe an ugly, non-passing transgender woman. She needs to hit those boys with a brick.

Ugh seriously? I’m so mad now.

OP here and one of the boys went around last year telling everyone that a new girl was actually a boy, so that checks out. A parent even repeated it.

(She is a girl in all possible ways but was athletic and beat that boy in sports in PE so she became his target for a while).

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Bricked is….getting hard. That’s the only reference I know that a teen/tween would use.

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Anonymous wrote:"Brick" is also a term used to describe an ugly, non-passing transgender woman. She needs to hit those boys with a brick.

Ugh seriously? I’m so mad now.

OP here and one of the boys went around last year telling everyone that a new girl was actually a boy, so that checks out. A parent even repeated it.

(She is a girl in all possible ways but was athletic and beat that boy in sports in PE so she became his target for a while).

You just proved these kids don’t understand a word they’re saying. It describes a man that doesn’t pass as a woman. Seriously OP, these are CHILDREN! Stop with the out to get them attitude. When adults can’t agree what it means and now you want to rake them over hot coals for saying a word you don’t even understand? This is why your daughters will grow up to hate men and end up divorced single moms before they are 40.

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Anonymous wrote:"Brick" is also a term used to describe an ugly, non-passing transgender woman. She needs to hit those boys with a brick.

Ugh seriously? I’m so mad now.

OP here and one of the boys went around last year telling everyone that a new girl was actually a boy, so that checks out. A parent even repeated it.

(She is a girl in all possible ways but was athletic and beat that boy in sports in PE so she became his target for a while).

You just proved these kids don’t understand a word they’re saying. It describes a man that doesn’t pass as a woman. Seriously OP, these are CHILDREN! Stop with the out to get them attitude. When adults can’t agree what it means and now you want to rake them over hot coals for saying a word you don’t even understand? This is why your daughters will grow up to hate men and end up divorced single moms before they are 40.

Ok, that makes sense. I’ll email school and tell them never mind. It is better if they are allowed to say whatever comes to mind with impunity and I’ll remind DD that they’re just children. I definitely would not want to risk her ability to be married off in a timely manner.

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Anonymous wrote:"Brick" is also a term used to describe an ugly, non-passing transgender woman. She needs to hit those boys with a brick.

Ugh seriously? I’m so mad now.

OP here and one of the boys went around last year telling everyone that a new girl was actually a boy, so that checks out. A parent even repeated it.

(She is a girl in all possible ways but was athletic and beat that boy in sports in PE so she became his target for a while).

You just proved these kids don’t understand a word they’re saying. It describes a man that doesn’t pass as a woman. Seriously OP, these are CHILDREN! Stop with the out to get them attitude. When adults can’t agree what it means and now you want to rake them over hot coals for saying a word you don’t even understand? This is why your daughters will grow up to hate men and end up divorced single moms before they are 40.

Looks like one of the boys' parents has joined the chat.

Bug off. Kids don't get a free pass to say mean things. It's part of the deal of parenting; you are supposed to teach them not to be disrespectful little prats. And if they act up at school, there should be consequences. No one is saying suspend them, but you don't just turn a blind eye and say boys will be boys.

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Anonymous wrote:It just means "we don't like you". It doesn't matter if someone thinks I means far or stupid or ugly.

Those kids need the snot beat out of them.
Your kid needs to grey rock them or lay one of them on the floor, depending on ability.

It’s my DD (no idea why I left gender out, sorry) and these are boys who are messing with her. DH and I gave her permission to fight back in a physical way. They deserve a punch to the face or a kick in the crotch.

It disgusts me but I think these are the sort of kids that only understand physical violence. She claims she can’t do it, but in case she is brave enough, I told her to punch them and go straight to the main office and self-report what she did, and we’ll come to pick her up as soon as they call us.

If she throws the first punch she should be prepared to get her ass kicked.

Oh god sexist. Great message to your girl. Don’t fight back because you’ll lose is a great prep for your child to be a rape victim.

-strong woman.

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Anonymous wrote:"Brick" is also a term used to describe an ugly, non-passing transgender woman. She needs to hit those boys with a brick.

Ugh seriously? I’m so mad now.

OP here and one of the boys went around last year telling everyone that a new girl was actually a boy, so that checks out. A parent even repeated it.

(She is a girl in all possible ways but was athletic and beat that boy in sports in PE so she became his target for a while).

You just proved these kids don’t understand a word they’re saying. It describes a man that doesn’t pass as a woman. Seriously OP, these are CHILDREN! Stop with the out to get them attitude. When adults can’t agree what it means and now you want to rake them over hot coals for saying a word you don’t even understand? This is why your daughters will grow up to hate men and end up divorced single moms before they are 40.

No. Yes, these are children. Children need to be taught kindness and have unacceptable behavior corrected in safe spaces like schools. That’s how they become compassionate adults and grow up to have stable relationships.

If my kid was calling a girl names and laughing about it, I’d want to know.

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I am sorry OP. I would be worried. For the “goodness they are children!” PP look into the average age boys first encounter p*rn. It’s totally possible (and sad) these boys have been exposed to way more than you think.

OP can’t control that but given how she’s described their previous behavior I would be very concerned about my kid being spoken to like that. I was a highly sheltered and naive kid growing up (we didn’t have a tv during a time most kids were watching hours a day) and I vividly remember being teased with terms I didn’t understand- I think they thought it was funny that I didn’t even know what they were talking about. Luckily for me it was mostly one offs but if there’s a group of kids doing this repeatedly I would definitely get the school involved. Good luck.

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These boys know exactly what they’re doing. The exact words they use almost don’t matter. It’s the intent and cruelty that are the point.

A simple test to confirm this: have the school administration talk to them and educate them about the word’s meaning(s) and effect on DD. If they are horrified and apologetic, then they truly didn’t know what it meant and will hopefully stop using that word in the future. If they double down or don’t show any remorse, well, there’s your answer.

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10 to 11 years old? Why haven't you emailed the principal about it since it's bothering her so much to the point that you're encouraging her to physically hit them in response?

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OP, you sound a little unhinged and obsessed with these young boys being sexual deviants who are out to get your daughter. Encouraging her to address the problem with physical violence is also disturbing. Maybe the problem is you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound a little unhinged and obsessed with these young boys being sexual deviants who are out to get your daughter. Encouraging her to address the problem with physical violence is also disturbing. Maybe the problem is you.

Psychopaths who try to gaslight while advocating for emotional abuse are worse than people who occasionally shuffle.

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Anonymous wrote:"Brick" is also a term used to describe an ugly, non-passing transgender woman. She needs to hit those boys with a brick.

Ugh seriously? I’m so mad now.

OP here and one of the boys went around last year telling everyone that a new girl was actually a boy, so that checks out. A parent even repeated it.

(She is a girl in all possible ways but was athletic and beat that boy in sports in PE so she became his target for a while).

You just proved these kids don’t understand a word they’re saying. It describes a man that doesn’t pass as a woman. Seriously OP, these are CHILDREN! Stop with the out to get them attitude. When adults can’t agree what it means and now you want to rake them over hot coals for saying a word you don’t even understand? This is why your daughters will grow up to hate men and end up divorced single moms before they are 40.

I guess we found the Trump voter. I wondered why women would vote for someone that was taking away women’s rights, regularly called women dogs and nasty and was found liable for sexual assault in court. It’s because they think standing up to bullying (for a girl) isn’t allowed.

This is why I send my kid to an all girls school, so she doesn’t have to deal with misogynistic low class parents.

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Anonymous wrote:"Brick" is also a term used to describe an ugly, non-passing transgender woman. She needs to hit those boys with a brick.

Ugh seriously? I’m so mad now.

OP here and one of the boys went around last year telling everyone that a new girl was actually a boy, so that checks out. A parent even repeated it.

(She is a girl in all possible ways but was athletic and beat that boy in sports in PE so she became his target for a while).

It definitely means this with trans women. It's an intra-community slur (unfortunately one of many). It's not used too often any longer but if you want to see it used in a TV show, here's Pose.

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