Can someone explain mediation process to me?

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Anonymous wrote:Just talk to him and try to work things out. 50-50

OP here again. We have a super complicated financial situation going on full mess - self employed, pre nup, SN kids and more. We don’t want to waste money on lawyers, but it’s not super straightforward

Try collaborative divorce. It's more in depth than mediation but not as expensive as litigation. That's the route I wanted to go because we have complex finances. Ex refused to entertain the idea at all so now we're litigating. Not my choice but I have to go along with it. And maybe try a new lawyer - your lawyer should be able to clearly explain the process to you. If he can't explain mediation clearly he's not the right lawyer.

What’s the difference between collaborative divorce and mediation with lawyers? It is just minus the mediator? This sounds like a good option for a complicated situation.

I had a good call with my lawyer today. I think he’s generally more used to hysterical or emotional spouses not someone who wants an excel spreadsheet mapping out all possible outcomes and a checklist of 400 to-do items. He was able to give me a lot of helpful instructions today, but a lot is still up in the air with us waiting for my partner to initiate things

With collaborative you agree from the get-go that you will not litigate the case and if do decide to litigate you are back to square one and need to hire new attorneys. In the collaborative process, they often bring in a forensic accountant. They will also bring in mental health specialists which I found very appealing. Ex wanted nothing to do with this approach. Too bad. He's paying for it all. And a judge might just tell him to get therapy anyway!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just talk to him and try to work things out. 50-50

OP here again. We have a super complicated financial situation going on full mess - self employed, pre nup, SN kids and more. We don’t want to waste money on lawyers, but it’s not super straightforward

Try collaborative divorce. It's more in depth than mediation but not as expensive as litigation. That's the route I wanted to go because we have complex finances. Ex refused to entertain the idea at all so now we're litigating. Not my choice but I have to go along with it. And maybe try a new lawyer - your lawyer should be able to clearly explain the process to you. If he can't explain mediation clearly he's not the right lawyer.

What’s the difference between collaborative divorce and mediation with lawyers? It is just minus the mediator? This sounds like a good option for a complicated situation.

I had a good call with my lawyer today. I think he’s generally more used to hysterical or emotional spouses not someone who wants an excel spreadsheet mapping out all possible outcomes and a checklist of 400 to-do items. He was able to give me a lot of helpful instructions today, but a lot is still up in the air with us waiting for my partner to initiate things

Collaborative divorce is much more expensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just talk to him and try to work things out. 50-50

OP here again. We have a super complicated financial situation going on full mess - self employed, pre nup, SN kids and more. We don’t want to waste money on lawyers, but it’s not super straightforward

Try collaborative divorce. It's more in depth than mediation but not as expensive as litigation. That's the route I wanted to go because we have complex finances. Ex refused to entertain the idea at all so now we're litigating. Not my choice but I have to go along with it. And maybe try a new lawyer - your lawyer should be able to clearly explain the process to you. If he can't explain mediation clearly he's not the right lawyer.

What’s the difference between collaborative divorce and mediation with lawyers? It is just minus the mediator? This sounds like a good option for a complicated situation.

I had a good call with my lawyer today. I think he’s generally more used to hysterical or emotional spouses not someone who wants an excel spreadsheet mapping out all possible outcomes and a checklist of 400 to-do items. He was able to give me a lot of helpful instructions today, but a lot is still up in the air with us waiting for my partner to initiate things

Collaborative divorce is much more expensive.

Not as expensive as litigation!!