Did your 3 year old want to start preschool?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My child recently turned 3 and I’ve been thinking we’d start preschool later this fall or next spring. She is adamant she doesn’t want to go, and she wants to stay home (with nanny, baby, and work from home mom and dad). Do other 3 year olds show more enthusiasm for preschool? She was at an in home daycare a year ago for a few months and didn’t like it.

We have the option to do just 1 or 2 days a week (3 hours a day) at a place that’s more like daycare with other 3 year olds and then transition her to a real preschool. That’s probably a bad idea since it’ll mean another transition, right? The preschool is only 3 hours a day, 3 days a week.

Why do you have to say that you and spouse wfh?
This just demonstrates that those who work from home are not working.

[Anonymous]

No my kid was like yours -- wanted to stay home and not excited about preschool. She got a reprieve because of Covid and started at 3.5 just three days a week. She did fine but it was a struggle every time. We thought switching to 5 days a week would be easier (thinking the inconsistencies of just three days a week kept her from getting comfortable. Nope. She still had serious separation anxiety until she was 4.5 even with two wonderfully kind and supportive preschool teachers and a terrific playbased curriculum.

She did eventually get over it and by K she was heading into school happily most days (some exceptions). But now at age 8 she's still a homebody. I do think at 3 it was a lot about not wanting to be away from us and being scared to get used to new people. But in retrospect I also think she's just someone who likes being home and also likes smaller groups of people and more quiet. She's a good student but is always happy to come home at the end of the school day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child recently turned 3 and I’ve been thinking we’d start preschool later this fall or next spring. She is adamant she doesn’t want to go, and she wants to stay home (with nanny, baby, and work from home mom and dad). Do other 3 year olds show more enthusiasm for preschool? She was at an in home daycare a year ago for a few months and didn’t like it.
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We have the option to do just 1 or 2 days a week (3 hours a day) at a place that’s more like daycare with other 3 year olds and then transition her to a real preschool. That’s probably a bad idea since it’ll mean another transition, right? The preschool is only 3 hours a day, 3 days a week.

No 3 year old has any ideas about preschool. They are too young to grasp the concept. Of course your 3 year old wants what she's used to. At that age they tend to not like change. What they may show "liking" for is playing in the company of other children.

My 2.5 year old just started preschool. I did not consult his opinion. The transition was fairly easy. A little crying the first week of drop offs but by the fourth day he was asking for "more school."

Yes, my 3 year old had no idea it was any kind of “school.” It was just another fun activity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child recently turned 3 and I’ve been thinking we’d start preschool later this fall or next spring. She is adamant she doesn’t want to go, and she wants to stay home (with nanny, baby, and work from home mom and dad). Do other 3 year olds show more enthusiasm for preschool? She was at an in home daycare a year ago for a few months and didn’t like it.

We have the option to do just 1 or 2 days a week (3 hours a day) at a place that’s more like daycare with other 3 year olds and then transition her to a real preschool. That’s probably a bad idea since it’ll mean another transition, right? The preschool is only 3 hours a day, 3 days a week.

Why do you have to say that you and spouse wfh?
This just demonstrates that those who work from home are not working.

DP but of course not. If you WFH with small kids the kids do see you at various points throughout the day though and it is comforting to them to have you in the house. We had a full time nanny but WFH meant I could eat lunch with my kids. Also as they outgrew naps they were allowed to come relax on the floor of my office with a book or quiet toy in the afternoons while I worked. It was really nice. But I was working all day which is why we had full time childcare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child recently turned 3 and I’ve been thinking we’d start preschool later this fall or next spring. She is adamant she doesn’t want to go, and she wants to stay home (with nanny, baby, and work from home mom and dad). Do other 3 year olds show more enthusiasm for preschool? She was at an in home daycare a year ago for a few months and didn’t like it.

We have the option to do just 1 or 2 days a week (3 hours a day) at a place that’s more like daycare with other 3 year olds and then transition her to a real preschool. That’s probably a bad idea since it’ll mean another transition, right? The preschool is only 3 hours a day, 3 days a week.

Why do you have to say that you and spouse wfh?
This just demonstrates that those who work from home are not working.

DP but of course not. If you WFH with small kids the kids do see you at various points throughout the day though and it is comforting to them to have you in the house. We had a full time nanny but WFH meant I could eat lunch with my kids. Also as they outgrew naps they were allowed to come relax on the floor of my office with a book or quiet toy in the afternoons while I worked. It was really nice. But I was working all day which is why we had full time childcare.

You were not working earnestly.

[Anonymous]

If she doesn't want to go, then wait. Do you need her out of your hair for 3 hours a day 3 days a week? Then ask the nanny to take her somewhere. That's what the nanny is for. There will be plenty of kids at the park on any given day.

And if you think your kid needs to start learning academics now, then get some preschool-schooly stuff on Amazon and ask the nanny to play alphabet and number games or whatever. Again, that's what the nanny is for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child recently turned 3 and I’ve been thinking we’d start preschool later this fall or next spring. She is adamant she doesn’t want to go, and she wants to stay home (with nanny, baby, and work from home mom and dad). Do other 3 year olds show more enthusiasm for preschool? She was at an in home daycare a year ago for a few months and didn’t like it.

We have the option to do just 1 or 2 days a week (3 hours a day) at a place that’s more like daycare with other 3 year olds and then transition her to a real preschool. That’s probably a bad idea since it’ll mean another transition, right? The preschool is only 3 hours a day, 3 days a week.

Why do you have to say that you and spouse wfh?
This just demonstrates that those who work from home are not working.

DP but of course not. If you WFH with small kids the kids do see you at various points throughout the day though and it is comforting to them to have you in the house. We had a full time nanny but WFH meant I could eat lunch with my kids. Also as they outgrew naps they were allowed to come relax on the floor of my office with a book or quiet toy in the afternoons while I worked. It was really nice. But I was working all day which is why we had full time childcare.

You were not working earnestly.

NP here.

You do seem to think you know a lot about someone you (checks notes) don’t know!

What a riot.

[Anonymous]

Please don’t let your kid decide this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t let your kid decide this.

In this situation I disagree because OP has a nanny. It won't make much difference to OP if the nanny occupies the 3 yo during the times the preschool runs, or if the nanny takes the 3 yo to preschool. Either way, OP is not caring for this kid during those times. So might as well leave the decision to the one who will be most affected by it.

[Anonymous]

Both of mine thought they wanted to go, but then had a very hard time adjusting. I am a SAHM, so this was just church preschool a couple mornings a week.

[Anonymous]

The child feels safe at home
Pre-K is not a requirement. Young kids should learn socio emotional skills, not academics.

That's why so many preschoolers are the most kicked out from preschools

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My child recently turned 3 and I’ve been thinking we’d start preschool later this fall or next spring. She is adamant she doesn’t want to go, and she wants to stay home (with nanny, baby, and work from home mom and dad). Do other 3 year olds show more enthusiasm for preschool? She was at an in home daycare a year ago for a few months and didn’t like it.

We have the option to do just 1 or 2 days a week (3 hours a day) at a place that’s more like daycare with other 3 year olds and then transition her to a real preschool. That’s probably a bad idea since it’ll mean another transition, right? The preschool is only 3 hours a day, 3 days a week.

Why do you have to say that you and spouse wfh?
This just demonstrates that those who work from home are not working.

DP but of course not. If you WFH with small kids the kids do see you at various points throughout the day though and it is comforting to them to have you in the house. We had a full time nanny but WFH meant I could eat lunch with my kids. Also as they outgrew naps they were allowed to come relax on the floor of my office with a book or quiet toy in the afternoons while I worked. It was really nice. But I was working all day which is why we had full time childcare.

You were not working earnestly.

NP here.

You do seem to think you know a lot about someone you (checks notes) don’t know!

What a riot.

NP too - do you never chat with coworkers during the day? Go out to get coffee? Online shop? Dare I say scroll on DCUM?