Bat Mitzvah gift amount?

[Anonymous]

DS has his bar mitzvah soon. From out of town family friends who cannot make it, we've gotten: $90, $100, $180, and a gift that appears to be about $60 online.

We went to a bat mitzvah as a family last week and gave $90.

$90-$100 feels about right to me... that's up from $72 a few years ago. $180 seemed very generous.

For the PP that said gift cards are annoying... it's much easier for my kid to spend an Amazon gift card than cash.

[Anonymous]

Nothing for the gift grabber.

[Anonymous]

What about when you are not invited to a small ceremony? We are close to the grandparents but have not seen the celebrant often. Did not expect an invitation, especially when we heard it would be very small (fewer than 40 guests), but would like to honor the child on this auspicious occasion. Does $54 sound right?

[Anonymous]

Give what you would give if the three of you went to a wedding. multiples of 18 are nice but not necessary. I would probably give $180.

[Anonymous]

Family of 4 invited, but didn’t attend. What would you give then? Child is not a close friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Family of 4 invited, but didn’t attend. What would you give then? Child is not a close friend.

Same amount as if you did attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about when you are not invited to a small ceremony? We are close to the grandparents but have not seen the celebrant often. Did not expect an invitation, especially when we heard it would be very small (fewer than 40 guests), but would like to honor the child on this auspicious occasion. Does $54 sound right?

Yes. That’s so nice and is the perfect amount.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Family of 4 invited, but didn’t attend. What would you give then? Child is not a close friend.

People either gave the same as they would have given if they had attended or didn’t send anything. I always send what I would have given if able to attend but totally understand others don’t.

-2024 host

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Family of 4 invited, but didn’t attend. What would you give then? Child is not a close friend.

Same amount as if you did attend.

Really? Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is going to his first one at a local restaurant (not a hall) and feels like $54 is "too much to give a friend."

Um no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Family of 4 invited, but didn’t attend. What would you give then? Child is not a close friend.

Same amount as if you did attend.

I’d give $100 unless you are close to them. If a law partner or something then $180.