Bat Mitzvah gift amount?

[Anonymous]

My daughter was invited to a good friends bat mitzvah, and the family also invited my husband and I. This is the first bat mitzvah for our family, and I am unsure of the appropriate amount to give. Any help would be appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Multiples of 18. When just my daughter attends we give $54. The ones she has attended have been dual ones, so $54 per B’nai Mitzvah child.

I attended one for the child of a very close friend solo and gave $252. It was fancier than any wedding I’ve attended. If my spouse and child had attended I probably would have upped that to $450. The $252 seemed a lot for one person, but my spouse was also invited, just couldn’t attend.

[Anonymous]

Please search for the myriad of posts on this topic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please search for the myriad of posts on this topic.

Seriously. There are SO many.

[Anonymous]

We give $54 as well!

[Anonymous]

If it’s DC’s friend and the family was nice enough to invite DH and I, too, we usually give $118.

[Anonymous]

My husband’s side is Jewish but we just give even amounts of money. If you are close enough to get an adult invitation, I’d give no less than $200. We give $500 to our nieces and nephews.

[Anonymous]

My kid is going to his first one at a local restaurant (not a hall) and feels like $54 is "too much to give a friend."

[Anonymous]

My kids Mitzvah were 10 years ago, amd most frie ds fave $54, close friends $108, family more. Ignore those who say you need to give massive amounts - I promise you, the family just wants your kid and you there to celebrate this life-cycle event.

There will be a hater who comes to every one of these threads to claim a Mitzvah is a money grab, but they are being an antisemitic jerk, and it's not true. I promise you, the Mitzvah costs way more than whatever the gifts are, and the family does not care, because it's not about the gift.

[Anonymous]

Does the gift have to be money, can it be a gift card for a clothes store or Sephora or Amazon. And why this number 54$. What about inflation? I am surely don’t know but I am also invited but I am a Christian. If the number has a sweet meeting, can it be 77? Or 70 or a nice 100 like perfect.

[Anonymous]

Honestly the expensive gives are unpleasant, because it promotes this culture of people passing large amounts of money back and forth, and worrying about staying balanced.

If you are rich and the honored person is not, if it's are an older generation and want to pass money to the next generation, then give a lot. Otherwise, $18 to $54 per guest. If you are Jewish, give more than non-Jewish. For non-Jews, sitting through the service is part of the gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly the expensive gives are unpleasant, because it promotes this culture of people passing large amounts of money back and forth, and worrying about staying balanced.

If you are rich and the honored person is not, if it's are an older generation and want to pass money to the next generation, then give a lot. Otherwise, $18 to $54 per guest. If you are Jewish, give more than non-Jewish. For non-Jews, sitting through the service is part of the gift.

Thank you for your response 🙏 I will follow your guidance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly the expensive gives are unpleasant, because it promotes this culture of people passing large amounts of money back and forth, and worrying about staying balanced.

If you are rich and the honored person is not, if it's are an older generation and want to pass money to the next generation, then give a lot. Otherwise, $18 to $54 per guest. If you are Jewish, give more than non-Jewish. For non-Jews, sitting through the service is part of the gift.

This is so sweet. And so true!!! ❤️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly the expensive gives are unpleasant, because it promotes this culture of people passing large amounts of money back and forth, and worrying about staying balanced.

If you are rich and the honored person is not, if it's are an older generation and want to pass money to the next generation, then give a lot. Otherwise, $18 to $54 per guest. If you are Jewish, give more than non-Jewish. For non-Jews, sitting through the service is part of the gift.

Agree this sounds appropriate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please search for the myriad of posts on this topic.

Seriously. There are SO many.

But not for when parents are also invited