Celebrities with surrogates

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All different reasons. I know one celeb who has bipolar disorder and she both didn't want to go off her meds and didn't want to expose a baby to her meds. So, surrogate.

A bipolar individual should not be a parent.

Tell that to my friend who is the mother to two happy and successful boys in college . She has been on medication for 20 plus years, has a supportive husband, a full time job, friends and if she didn’t tell us we would have no idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You women with pregnancy-caused ruined bodies sound *sooo* jealous.

--mom of 3 adopted kids who still has her perfect body

You have a “perfect” body and we have our own kids with perfect bodies, jealous one.

Enough. Granted, the first post about the perfect body suggested earlier posts were implying a different conversation and/or was deflecting attention away from an interesting and burgeoning discussion about surrogacy and cultural norms in favor of a fight.

The earlier conversation will be lost when people are flat out mean. Drop that rope. Instead, pick up the interesting part of the post: how does adoption fit into the larger conversation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am more concerned about the women who agree to do it. Having a baby for money seems
like a character flaw. I don’t know if I’d be able to trust someone like that to care for my child during pregnancy. I’d want to monitor everything but then that feels inhumane, this person is just a vessel that I’m paying to fulfill my need.

I actually totally get why women do it. I had a terrible pregnancy but some women just have really easy and uncomplicated pregnancies. And even with my awful pregnancy I still liked the feeling of being pregnant and was so amazed at what my body was able to do. Obviously the childbirth is the hard part but I again if your body handles pregnancies and childbirth well and you have a history of recovering well it is awesome that a human body can do that and I remember feeling proud of myself after giving birth in a way I had not felt before.

I met a woman with a surrogate pregnancy a few years ago through one of my DC's activities (her DC was in the same one). She was open about it because people kept congratulating her on the pregnancy and she didn't want people being worried or confused when she didn't show up with another child after it was over. She told me that while money had been a factor (what she earned went straight into a college account for her kid) the reason she'd become interested in it was that she and her husband knew they were one and done for themselves but she was really sad not to be able to go through pregnancy again. This was a way fo rher to experience that again while also helping another family and without expanding their family more than they wanted. She was young and in great health and had an easy pregnancy. I think before I met her I also kind of thought "why would anyone do that" (though less judgmental than you) and now I get it. I no longer think it's that weird at all even if it's something I'd personally never do because pregnancy is really hard for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You women with pregnancy-caused ruined bodies sound *sooo* jealous.

--mom of 3 adopted kids who still has her perfect body

You have a “perfect” body and we have our own kids with perfect bodies, jealous one.

Enough. Granted, the first post about the perfect body suggested earlier posts were implying a different conversation and/or was deflecting attention away from an interesting and burgeoning discussion about surrogacy and cultural norms in favor of a fight.

The earlier conversation will be lost when people are flat out mean. Drop that rope. Instead, pick up the interesting part of the post: how does adoption fit into the larger conversation?

I don’t think adoption is even in the same ballpark as surrogacy.

[Anonymous]

Question. Do celeb surrogates also get their expenses taken care? I guess yes right? Is there a ballpark for how much they're usually paid?

I have complex feelings toward it. I don't think it's always about a financial gain. Some women are like pregnancy and want to help others. It'd a dangerous line to be toeing. That imbalance of power feels gross especially if the surrogate is from a lower bracket

[Anonymous]

My body, my choice.

I have one child of my own and I have had a child for my gay brother and his husband. Either I or my sister will carry the sibling. To be determined next month after testing is done. Same egg donor.

Absolutely amazing what science has accomplished.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Question. Do celeb surrogates also get their expenses taken care? I guess yes right? Is there a ballpark for how much they're usually paid?

I have complex feelings toward it. I don't think it's always about a financial gain. Some women are like pregnancy and want to help others. It'd a dangerous line to be toeing. That imbalance of power feels gross especially if the surrogate is from a lower bracket

Celebs pay extra for privacy, discretion, and guaranteed results. There are certain where surrogacy is done because they have stronger laws for the benefit of the paying parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You women with pregnancy-caused ruined bodies sound *sooo* jealous.

--mom of 3 adopted kids who still has her perfect body

I. For one, confirm my jealousy

—mom of two by c- section, never snapped back

I have no problem saying I am jealous too lol I close to my pre pregnancy but my god my body is different

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My body, my choice.

I have one child of my own and I have had a child for my gay brother and his husband. Either I or my sister will carry the sibling. To be determined next month after testing is done. Same egg donor.

Absolutely amazing what science has accomplished.

Manufacturing babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Question. Do celeb surrogates also get their expenses taken care? I guess yes right? Is there a ballpark for how much they're usually paid?

I have complex feelings toward it. I don't think it's always about a financial gain. Some women are like pregnancy and want to help others. It'd a dangerous line to be toeing. That imbalance of power feels gross especially if the surrogate is from a lower bracket

It does feel like it could be exploiting someone from a lower financial bracket but don't a lot of adopted babies' mothers come from same?

[Anonymous]

If a woman isn’t under duress and is willing to do it then fine. Everyone has different morals and beliefs. I personally don’t find it unethical when it’s gestational surrogacy and the woman accepts the risks of pregnancy and delivery. Some women enjoy being pregnant.

I personal don’t care for traditional surrogacy but again some women have no issue being a donor. If they want to do it and be properly compensated then I won’t object.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My body, my choice.

I have one child of my own and I have had a child for my gay brother and his husband. Either I or my sister will carry the sibling. To be determined next month after testing is done. Same egg donor.

Absolutely amazing what science has accomplished.

Y'all have something against orphans? Why not adopt one or two?

[Anonymous]

I too liked being pregnant but that didn't mean I'll keep repeating it for myself or for someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find this so gross unless there are fertility issues.

Agree. Accessory babies. Surrogacy should be illegal.