Therapist for gender dysphoria

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need a gender affirming therapist that treads the whole child and not just the gender aspects. The risk of self harming and suicide isn’t worth it.

A gender affirming therapist did more harm than help for my teen. She completely missed the ocd symptoms, one of which was gender dysphoria. We even told her about intrusive thoughts, compulsions and tics and she blew us off. She encouraged him to buy a dress on amazon and research hormone therapy. His depression and anxiety increased under her "care." Thankfully, we were able to convince him to take a break and start with someone new a year later. He has received competent therapy from an ocd specialist, who is also helping with the trauma the first therapist caused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Censoring the common sense comments again.

*sigh*

This. So frustrating.

[Anonymous]

Op, how old is you child?

[Anonymous]

The point of therapy for your child is not for YOU to understand “why“, it’s to support your child in whatever they are going through. If your child has gender dysphoria, there is very likely no reason why. At least no “why” that you’re going to find from some psychologist looking to report to mom and dad

[Anonymous]

I actually found the gender clinic at Children’s Hospital not to be super affirming up front, they actually looked at so many different things first before believing it’s truly what my child was going through. I don’t mean that as a criticism at all, I appreciated the professional skepticism and thoroughness of their assessment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The point of therapy for your child is not for YOU to understand “why“, it’s to support your child in whatever they are going through. If your child has gender dysphoria, there is very likely no reason why. At least no “why” that you’re going to find from some psychologist looking to report to mom and dad

The psychologist absolutely has to report to mom. When minors are involved, therapy has to be a group effort: the child, the parent(s) and the therapist. No one knows ops dc better than she does. Her observations, insights and knowledge of her dc should be considered by a therapist. There is a why for dysphoria, but the better question is how to address it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually found the gender clinic at Children’s Hospital not to be super affirming up front, they actually looked at so many different things first before believing it’s truly what my child was going through. I don’t mean that as a criticism at all, I appreciated the professional skepticism and thoroughness of their assessment.

We’ve had the same experience.

[Anonymous]

OP here, thank you for all your insights.

My daughter is 11.

I was just looking at the neuropsychological assessment dept at Children's Hospital and plan to call them tmrw.

I have been a single mom since my daughter was little. I am the one who knows her the most and supports her the most. I absolutely will be involved in this and take it as a call to move even closer with love.

I appreciate all your insight so much ❤️🙏

[Anonymous]

OP with update - Children's Hospital neuropsychology dept is not taking new patients over 4yrs old. They suggest me to MedStar where I filled out an intake. I also filled out an intake for the Zen Psychology. Thank you all so much!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP with update - Children's Hospital neuropsychology dept is not taking new patients over 4yrs old. They suggest me to MedStar where I filled out an intake. I also filled out an intake for the Zen Psychology. Thank you all so much!

I would contact the gender clinic at children’s, not the neuropsych department. I know for a fact they are taking new patients.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP with update - Children's Hospital neuropsychology dept is not taking new patients over 4yrs old. They suggest me to MedStar where I filled out an intake. I also filled out an intake for the Zen Psychology. Thank you all so much!

I would contact the gender clinic at children’s, not the neuropsych department. I know for a fact they are taking new patients.

If you read the thread, you'd understand that it's best not to start with the perhaps-false assumption that gender is the primary issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP with update - Children's Hospital neuropsychology dept is not taking new patients over 4yrs old. They suggest me to MedStar where I filled out an intake. I also filled out an intake for the Zen Psychology. Thank you all so much!

I would contact the gender clinic at children’s, not the neuropsych department. I know for a fact they are taking new patients.

If you read the thread, you'd understand that it's best not to start with the perhaps-false assumption that gender is the primary issue.

And if you read the thread you would know the gender click at children’s doesn’t operate that way.

[Anonymous]

Just remember, you don’t have to take her to a therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP with update - Children's Hospital neuropsychology dept is not taking new patients over 4yrs old. They suggest me to MedStar where I filled out an intake. I also filled out an intake for the Zen Psychology. Thank you all so much!

Good for you, op, for starting the process. Hang in there and keep us posted as you are able and as you learn more. Many of us have been through it with our kids and can advise or at least support a fellow parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP with update - Children's Hospital neuropsychology dept is not taking new patients over 4yrs old. They suggest me to MedStar where I filled out an intake. I also filled out an intake for the Zen Psychology. Thank you all so much!

I would contact the gender clinic at children’s, not the neuropsych department. I know for a fact they are taking new patients.

If you read the thread, you'd understand that it's best not to start with the perhaps-false assumption that gender is the primary issue.

And if you read the thread you would know the gender click at children’s doesn’t operate that way.

Even the name of the place is off putting. Op knows her kid and is on a path which makes sense right now. A gender clinic is not the first stop in addressing trauma, abandonment, puberty related, etc concerns. True transgenderism is less than 1% of the population and is typically apparent in toddlerhood. It is extremely unlikely that it is the source of the child's dysphoria.