Therapist for gender dysphoria
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Anonymous
| Any recommendations for a therapist that works with adolescents who have gender dysphoria? Not looking for affirmative care but someone who will get to the heart of the matter (eg she thinks she might be a boy, her dad has bpd and chose to stop seeing her when she was 5yo, examining this connection etc) |
Anonymous
| I don't have suggestions, but before sending your child, I would ask the provider if they have information about the percentage of patients who went on to live a different gender. Could be a good way to suss out whether they're pushing too hard one way or the other. |
Anonymous
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Well anyone reputable will be affirming, so I am not sure I can help.
Anyone reputable will also work with her on healing from her father’s abandonment. |
Anonymous
They don’t collect that info bc they don’t follow patients once they stop care - there isn’t money or resources for that sort of tracking. |
Anonymous
Anyone reputable will be affirming? Really? I would expect anyone reputable would be nonjudgmental but isn’t the point to see where the dysphoria comes from and whethet it is stable? |
Anonymous
| I agree to work on the trauma. A lot of people seem to think they need or get strength from their gender but what it really is is trying to capture what hasn't been present in their lives or hasn't been managed well (strength overused). If you come at it from a self help trauma recovery angle and let the gender part slide a bit into the background maybe it will be less of something to lean on for strength. I would consider a life coach to get interested in doing things the child has a passion for and a therapist that deals with mood regulation and trauma recovery and maybe some sort of neural stimulation to help regulate the nerves. |
Anonymous
| OP I've seen too many therapists focus on the negative in the world and the child. Find a way to help the child without dwelling there. |
Anonymous
It is very difficult to find a non-affirming therapist, because their professional standing is potentially at risk for not affirming. You might have success finding someone who advertises as a Christian counselor. But you do need to be careful with therapy these days. Friend's daughter got put in a bad way for a while because her therapist convinced her that the root of her problems wasn't due to being sexually abused, she was having problems because she was actually a boy. Took quite a while to get over the damage that therapist did. |
Anonymous
| One specializing in OCD and who is familiar with Tocd. Look up Zen Psychological. They take insurance and screen and treat ocd. Their website has descriptions of the various subtypes. Read them to see if this sounds like your dc. |
Anonymous
You want a therapist who is ok with you sitting in on appointments - at least initially. It is within your rights (and is your responsibility, imo) to be present in your minor child's sessions. Many therapists are kooky and will validate and affirm extremely unlikely things (such as being trans) in order to support their clients. With an adolescent, I'd be very careful in vetting. |
Anonymous
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I would find a top psychiatrist who does NOT specialize in gender dysphoria. The ones who specialize are basically activists who will affirm your daughter.
A psychoanalyst (not all psychiatrists are psychoanalysts) is likely a good fit, because they will have her closely examine her early childhood. IMO, you’re very much on the right track in suspecting that she’s trying to feel closer to her father with this “transition”. She needs to explore that. |
Anonymous
Agreed |
Anonymous
| You need a gender affirming therapist that treads the whole child and not just the gender aspects. The risk of self harming and suicide isn’t worth it. |
Anonymous
| https://www.therapyfirst.org/ might have some names |
Anonymous
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Censoring the common sense comments again.
*sigh* |