Forgetting Birthday Parties

[Anonymous]

Evite went to my spam often so when a parent checked in I assumed it went to spam. It turns out I had already opened it but was in the middle of something that made me forget entirely before I could respond or really register it (like right before being called to board a plane and go on a trip). I sometimes need to check emails as they come but it'd be better to do at a desk with calendar when I can focus for a moment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep, son came home last Monday with a Saturday party invite notice. SMH

What difference does it make? You can either make it or not. By Monday you should have a pretty good idea what your Saturday looks like. Even if it get an evite 2-3 weeks out I wait until the week of to RSVP once I knew our full schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yep, son came home last Monday with a Saturday party invite notice. SMH

What difference does it make? You can either make it or not. By Monday you should have a pretty good idea what your Saturday looks like. Even if it get an evite 2-3 weeks out I wait until the week of to RSVP once I knew our full schedule.

Yes, I don’t think OP’s excuse makes any sense. It should not have mattered if the party was one week away or three weeks away. She could have RSVPd and taken her child or not if they weren’t available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Possibly a b list invite in which case I wouldn't feel bad not going

This, I assume when my kid comes home with or I get in my email/text a same week invite that they already had a lot of declines and now they’re looking into the B list. The thing is if I got more than a few days notice I could probably rearrange his schedule to accommodate but it’s impossible on a few days notice.

+1 I’d assume it’s B list (unless you are family friends, ran into someone from the past, etc) and would not feel bad turning down such an afterthought invite because we are so busy and the birthday person is probably not a close friend of my DC. No hard feelings.

[Anonymous]

Monday invite poster here. Attended that Saturday party and turns out the late invite thing was cultural. There were only 10 kids in attendance and not everyone from class was even invited. Very glad I rearranged my plans so my child could attend and celebrate with the birthday kid.

[Anonymous]

One week is definitely too short of notice.

[Anonymous]

It's just you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's just you.

+1. Most people are capable of managing their schedule. It’s being an adult

[Anonymous]

One week prior is fine for a bday invite. Its 2024. Put it on your phone calendar and setva reminder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One week is definitely too short of notice.

No it’s not. Order any gift on Amazon or Target and its there in two days. Rsvp Yes or No and keep it moving. Most people dont RAVP til week before anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I add DS's parties to my calendar just like I add his appointments or school events. If something comes up or he can't go then I delete it.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One week is definitely too short of notice.

No it’s not. Order any gift on Amazon or Target and its there in two days. Rsvp Yes or No and keep it moving. Most people dont RAVP til week before anyway.

Or just don't give a gift.

Non-issue.

Teach your kids to organize their files so they tell you about birthday invites.

[Anonymous]

No need to cast aspersions on the hosts for OP's mistake.

OP, I'd have a plan to prevent this going forward, it will impact your child socially.