Would you date a man who

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Paid for everything and wanted you to move in with him but wouldn’t marry you or allow you any equity in the house you both live in?

Yes.

In fact, if I was the one with the house and he was moving in, I wouldn’t give him any quite either.

Why do you think you’re entitled to his assets?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would date him but I wouldn’t move in to house I have no rights to.

What do you mean by "rights" - it seems to me that you'd be paying no rent that that would give you the "right" to save and invest the money you'd otherwise have to spend on rent/mortgage. That's gonna be 20-30k a year right there.

Assuming I would be contributing to the household in some form, so I would want the house to be mine also.

Oh yes, all the “emotional labor” you exerted remembering that Thursday is garbage day. Of course you should be entitled to an equity stake in the house.

[Anonymous]

No. I wouldn’t settle like that. I want to be with someone who respects me.

[Anonymous]

no he clearly doesn't value you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no he clearly doesn't value you.

. Value her for what? Just because she’s nice and he wants to date her, she’s entitled to half his biggest asset? A bunch of gold diggers in this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Paid for everything and wanted you to move in with him but wouldn’t marry you or allow you any equity in the house you both live in?

Insufficient data provided. Am I attracted to him? Is he kind/does he treat me well? What does our life look like? What does "everything" include?

Given the info provided, all I can say is "it's not a hard no, but it's not a yes, so maybe."

Ask a better question, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Paid for everything and wanted you to move in with him but wouldn’t marry you or allow you any equity in the house you both live in?

Would I date a woman or allow her to move in with me who deman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Paid for everything and wanted you to move in with him but wouldn’t marry you or allow you any equity in the house you both live in?

Would I date a woman who wanted to move in with me and demanded that I give her equity in my house that I paid for and owned? F no.

[Anonymous]

I have my own job, income, savings, and house (which I could rent out in this scenario). So as long as his house is in a location that I could acceptably live in, sure.

Personally, I would not enter into this situation if it meant full financial dependency with no protections.

[Anonymous]

I did move in with a man who paid for everything and didn't want to get married. But we had already been together eight years, and he was paying for everything because I was going to grad school. And we rented.

We did buy a house a year later and he absolutely did put my name on the deed for my own protection, and I got half of the equity in the house. That said, I can see where it might be reasonable not to do that under certain circumstances. For example, it sounds like you, OP, aren't contributing financially to the living expenses at all, so not sure why you would expect to build equity.

Eventually my DH changed his mind about marriage and we got married.

You haven't really given enough details for any of us to have a real opinion here.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I surely would. I would rent my house, keep my job, and stack money until the inevitable break-up occurs. If done right, this arrangement could be very advantageous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I did that. Mid 40s, both divorced, both had grown kids, both employed and self supporting, had been dating for two years, he asked me to move in with him at his house so I did. He paid for all the housing expenses, groceries and going out to eat. I paid my own other bills. We broke up about a year later and I rented a small house and moved. It was difficult getting over the relationship but it was not difficult getting on with the mechanics of my life.

I'm curious why it ended?

[Anonymous]

Only if I was okay with being out on my ear when the relationship ended.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Paid for everything and wanted you to move in with him but wouldn’t marry you or allow you any equity in the house you both live in?

It depends on what you want in life. If you are okay with it, save and invest your income separately or find someone who wants an equal partner in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you have equity in the house if you didn’t put money into it? Not marrying you and him paying for everything is a different issue.

This^. He pays all mortgage, home insurance and property tax. You pay an appropriate amount as rent and utilities and both equally divide other expenses like groceries etc.

If you don't like that, don't move in.