what do teenager children do to make you mad?
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Anonymous
| On facebook, we have a few friends who already have teenage children. they post comments about how their child is infuriating them or just venting about a fight they just had. with grade school kids, it is hard to imagine what they will do to really piss me off or put us at odds against each other one day. please enlighten me with what i will be facing. |
Anonymous
| Lying, possibly drinking alcohol, possibly smoking pot, not talking, being secretive, being argumentative, thinking they know more than you, thinking you are old and "out of touch" arguing with sensible things you tell them, not doing what you say, being more loyal to their "bad influence" friends. Need I go on? |
Anonymous
| Sex, sex, sex. |
Anonymous
| as a parent if you talk to your child and often listen of what they have to say you probably will not have to deal with a lot of trouble. |
Anonymous
| I have two teens, I hate when I am talking and they are texting!! |
Anonymous
| I hate when my teenage daughter complains about how thoughtless her teen brother is, then she turns around and does something equally thoughtless...and has no clue that her behaviors are similar to his! I try to gently point it out, but it does not go over very well! |
Anonymous
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They try to make me feel like I'm a complete nag one minute, and yet depend on me to tell them where they have left things or what time they have to be somewhere. They lie by omission. And they cannot give a simple 'yes' or 'no' answer, it's something like 'yes, why wouldn't I?' or 'no, i never said that'. The attitude they dish out gets old very quickly.
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Anonymous
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Totally self absorbed
Lazy No concept of $$$ Know it all |
Anonymous
| I hated it when dd continued to act like she was in middle school - telling one friend what another friend said about them that was mean with constant drama about who said what to whom. I think she has finally gotten beyond that but it drove me crazy! |
Anonymous
| All of the above. Then the most infuriating thing is that they eventually become really nice, interesting people who are a pleasure to have around . . . just before they leave for college! |
Anonymous
| So... those of you who are there now, what would you recommend to those of us with younger children? Both to retain our sanity later and to help them turn into nice kids? |
Anonymous
| Balance tough love -- reasonable limits clearly stated and enforced firmly, but without lecturing or personal attacks -- with letting them know that you believe in them. Get to know their culture and their friends -- not by snooping, but through genuine interest. Ask their opinions about things -- politics, books, movies, school policies, etc. Respect them, but expect them to respect you as well. When things get tough, walk away for a while and find your own means of escape -- running, yoga, funny movies. |
Anonymous
| My teen is pretty good so far. She doesn't use drugs or have sex and she tells me everything. But she has terrible mood swings and a really bad attitude sometimes. She feels like she doesn't have to do what I say anymore and she refuses sometimes. No punishment makes a difference because she is perfectly happy when she's grounded or when I take her phone or iPod away. Nothing fazes her because the important thing to her is winning an argument and that means she will just adapt when she loses privileges. |
Anonymous
My children are in college. Snooping is needed. Otherwise you are not going to know the real life of your kids. Nor their friends. |
Anonymous
| I have one in college and zero desire to snoop. But snooping on a collega age kid? Really? How? Why? Maybe if I had very serious concerns about her well being or safety, but otherwise no way. |