Do you tell his wife?
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Anonymous
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A married man whom I am friends with his wife recently asked me if I wanted to have an affair. I have known the couple for years. Their daughter is my daughter's age. I see them at social and school events. I have flirted with him and he has flirted back before, but I never intended to go down that road. I am in a happy relationship with my DH.
Do I tell my friend, and if so, how? If you were the wife would you want to know? Do I just keep it to myself and tell nobody? Do I tell my DH knowing that he would blow his stack and confront the man? |
Anonymous
| Do NOT tell!!!!!! |
Anonymous
| Why on earth would you? What is the purpose of telling? |
Anonymous
| Not Op, but why not? |
Anonymous
| Keep your upper trap shut and maybe the lower trap open. You may need it if times get rocky with DH. |
Anonymous
| You are wrong to flirt with him. You lead him on, trap him, and then attack him. Some women are so trashy. |
Anonymous
| TELL. Wouldn't you want to know if it was you? |
Anonymous
| 10 bucks says that she won't say that she flirted with him when she tells her DH. |
Anonymous
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keep it to yourself.
If you tell the wife, there's no guarantee that she'll believe you. If you tell your husband, what do you gain? Nothing. I hope you're not one for those people who likes to create drama. There are two families with children here. |
Anonymous
| I say don't tell but do stay away from him. Limit contact as much as humanely possible. Avoid him like the plague. Seriously. |
Anonymous
| Will you also be telling your husband about how you led him on? |
Anonymous
Agreed. If you flirted with him, he probably assumed you were fishing. pretend to be a nice person, even if you aren't! |
Anonymous
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Do not tell. It will ruin the friendship between you and his wife. It will also hurt your relationship with your husband if he finds out that you engaged in flirting with this man (and don't think that if confronted, the other man won't gladly tell your husband about that).
I agree with PP who said to stay away from him, and seriously, think twice before flirting with other married men. He might not have even thought about having an affair until he thought he had found someone interested in him (you). Harmless flirting is not always so harmless. |
Anonymous
| What did your husband say when you confessed you flirted with a married friend? |
Anonymous
| You sound catty. The person you need to be talking to is your DH. |