Why do White People seem so happy most of the time?

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If you were at a playground with your child, and your child accidentally bugged another kid, and didn't say sorry, and so the other kid said, "I am going to kick your bike!" which kid do you think was more in the wrong? I say the one who threatened the kick.

And I say it's 100X worse in the Metro situation b/c we are talking abotu adults, not children. Who kicks? Outside of like, karate class? Strangest thing I ever ever heard of.

Why is this being turned into the victimhood Olympics? They were both wrong. When you physically bother someone and rudely dismiss their concerns, then it's not unreasonable to think they will threaten to physically remove the object that is bothering them.

Both are wrong. But so many people are focusing on the young lady's threat of bad behavior instead of the man's actual bad behavior. If everyone behaves themselves and has manners, situations like these will be politely resolved. That is what kids need to learn.

This! She threatened to remove the object that was continuously assaulting her away

Good insight. What I don't understand is, why didn't she simply bite the tire hard and puncture it? THAT would teach the biker how to properly behave with ladies in the future.

Or pick up the bike and heave it through the window? Now there's a lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After this thread, I am staying away from all black people on the Metro. Not even looking at them. Don't want to appear to be doing anything to them, against them, be THINKING about doing anything to them, against them, nothing. Unless I am serving them tea on a silver platter, they will likely think that anything less is a personal affront.

Black man here. Black tea for me. No cream, no sugar. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:White people, please address-

1. low self-esteem SEEMS LIKE THE PRECISE OPPOSITE, SIMPLY BY READING THIS THREAD. I'm going to believe research over self-reports in a DCUM thread. Actually, even self-reported polls found that white women have lower self-esteem.
2. high rates of eating disorders DO YOU INCLUDE OBESITY RATES? 62 percent of white US adults are overweight/obese. 73 percent of black US adults are overweight/obese. The black rate of overweight/obesity is higher than the white rate. I don't find statistics absurd- like a PP feels about statistics that indicate negative things about her race. I think it is a problem that needs to be addressed, not ignored or dismissed as absurd or taken personally.
3. high rates of depression ACCESS TO PSYCHOLOGISTS, AND A CULTURE THAT DOESN'T HIDE (AS MANY) PROBLEMS? Access to mental health services is part of the equation. But black culture doesn't tend to hide problems more than white culture. Even controlling for access to mental health services, black people cope with depression better than whites. However, you're right that there is a stigma about mental illness and that doctors tend to take white symptoms of depression more seriously than blacks who have the same symptoms. A study by University of Michigan and Indiana University found that.
4. high rates of antidepressant use SEE ABOVE, PLUS MEDICAL COMMUNITY BIASED TOWARDS QUICK FIXES See above.
5. high suicide rates (one of the leading causes of death for whites) AS SEEN IN CHART, THE REAL QUESTION IS WHY DO MEN OF EVERY RACES HAVE HIGHER SUICIDE RATES THAN WOMEN OF RESPECTIVE RACE? Yes, gender is a factor. But if you're going to ignore the racial factor you're being ignorant. The white suicide rate is several times higher than the black suicide rate, regardless of gender. It's higher than every ethnicity than Native Americans, who have high rates due to poverty, stress, and discrimination.
6. weaker interpersonal bonds ARE YOU INCLUDING AS "INTERPERSONAL BONDS" WHEN GRANDMAS HAVE TO HELP SINGLE MOTHERS BECAUSE DAD IS MISSING IN ACTION? Well, yes, that would be an example if white grandparents are less likely to help out their children who are single mothers. But the support network is stronger overall- which is why the government is studying the interpersonal bonds of black women to see if there is a way to replicate that support for military members.
7. tendency for white American males to commit mass murders DO YOU KNOW WHAT "TENDENCY" MEANS? Yes.

And then tell me that as a race, you're happier.

NO ONE HERE IS TELLING YOU THAT, OTHER THAN OP. WHO I DON'T THINK IS WHITE.

Now, can you (not "black people"), address why you are so obsessed with this?

Several (white) people have stated that they're happier because they don't walk around with a "chip on [their] shoulder."

I responded to your comments in bold.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After this thread, I am staying away from all black people on the Metro. Not even looking at them. Don't want to appear to be doing anything to them, against them, be THINKING about doing anything to them, against them, nothing. Unless I am serving them tea on a silver platter, they will likely think that anything less is a personal affront.

Black man here. Black tea for me. No cream, no sugar. Thanks!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After this thread, I am staying away from all black people on the Metro. Not even looking at them. Don't want to appear to be doing anything to them, against them, be THINKING about doing anything to them, against them, nothing. Unless I am serving them tea on a silver platter, they will likely think that anything less is a personal affront.

I suppose that's easier than just being polite.

Are basic manners not part of your culture?

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And, again, this is very, very childish. We tell our kids that it doesn't matter "who started it." They should be the ones to "end it."

And how many adults on here are saying it's ok, b/c the kicking lady didn't "start it"????

Has anyone said it was okay? If so, please quote. It's possible I just missed it. I've seen several say that it was not okay, but if you're being rude, it's not a surprise if someone is rude back.

This is why I'm just nice to people. I say please and thank you. I say sorry when I'm wrong. That way I don't have to rely on anyone to "end it," but I don't start anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After this thread, I am staying away from all black people on the Metro. Not even looking at them. Don't want to appear to be doing anything to them, against them, be THINKING about doing anything to them, against them, nothing. Unless I am serving them tea on a silver platter, they will likely think that anything less is a personal affront.

I suppose that's easier than just being polite.

Are basic manners not part of your culture?

Well, we don't kick, but I might tap you by accident if the Metro is crowded, so best to just stay away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After this thread, I am staying away from all black people on the Metro. Not even looking at them. Don't want to appear to be doing anything to them, against them, be THINKING about doing anything to them, against them, nothing. Unless I am serving them tea on a silver platter, they will likely think that anything less is a personal affront.

Black man here. Black tea for me. No cream, no sugar. Thanks!

+1

I might trip and spill the tea on you, esp. if the Metro stops and starts suddenly, so best to keep my distance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After this thread, I am staying away from all black people on the Metro. Not even looking at them. Don't want to appear to be doing anything to them, against them, be THINKING about doing anything to them, against them, nothing. Unless I am serving them tea on a silver platter, they will likely think that anything less is a personal affront.

Black man here. Black tea for me. No cream, no sugar. Thanks!

+1

(But how do I know it's you?)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After this thread, I am staying away from all black people on the Metro. Not even looking at them. Don't want to appear to be doing anything to them, against them, be THINKING about doing anything to them, against them, nothing. Unless I am serving them tea on a silver platter, they will likely think that anything less is a personal affront.

Black man here. Black tea for me. No cream, no sugar. Thanks!

+1

I might trip and spill the tea on you, esp. if the Metro stops and starts suddenly, so best to keep my distance.

Good idea, because I might say "ouch" when the hot tea spills scalds my skin, to which you would respond "calm down!"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After this thread, I am staying away from all black people on the Metro. Not even looking at them. Don't want to appear to be doing anything to them, against them, be THINKING about doing anything to them, against them, nothing. Unless I am serving them tea on a silver platter, they will likely think that anything less is a personal affront.

Black man here. Black tea for me. No cream, no sugar. Thanks!

+1

(But how do I know it's you?)

I'll be the one that's smiling

[Anonymous]

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OP, please save us. Is this exchange helping answer your existential question

OP Here. Nope, this exchange about manners on the Metro is not helping to answer my question.

Perhaps I should have used a different example.

I actually listened to what some of the earlier posters wrote and when I went out during my lunch break today I attempted to put the 'fake it til I make it' advise into use. When I stood in line at Potbellys to get a mixed berry smoothie the white lady who wrung up my order was so cheerful. She smiled plenty, was upbeat while taking my order and even thanked me for ordering afterwards. No matter how hard I tried to muster up the energy to smile back and return the cheer I just couldn't. It was an Epic failure!

[Anonymous]

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OP, please save us. Is this exchange helping answer your existential question

OP Here. Nope, this exchange about manners on the Metro is not helping to answer my question.

Perhaps I should have used a different example.

I actually listened to what some of the earlier posters wrote and when I went out during my lunch break today I attempted to put the 'fake it til I make it' advise into use. When I stood in line at Potbellys to get a mixed berry smoothie the white lady who wrung up my order was so cheerful. She smiled plenty, was upbeat while taking my order and even thanked me for ordering afterwards. No matter how hard I tried to muster up the energy to smile back and return the cheer I just couldn't. It was an Epic failure!

OP, do you think you could be bordeline depressed?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP, please save us. Is this exchange helping answer your existential question

OP Here. Nope, this exchange about manners on the Metro is not helping to answer my question.

Perhaps I should have used a different example.

I actually listened to what some of the earlier posters wrote and when I went out during my lunch break today I attempted to put the 'fake it til I make it' advise into use. When I stood in line at Potbellys to get a mixed berry smoothie the white lady who wrung up my order was so cheerful. She smiled plenty, was upbeat while taking my order and even thanked me for ordering afterwards. No matter how hard I tried to muster up the energy to smile back and return the cheer I just couldn't. It was an Epic failure!

OP, do you think you could be bordeline depressed?

(Maybe not, but I Just find it really hard not to smile back if someone is being smiley and helpful to me. And I think most people are that way: it's human nature (animal nature, really) to mirror what we see!)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
OP, please save us. Is this exchange helping answer your existential question

OP Here. Nope, this exchange about manners on the Metro is not helping to answer my question.

Perhaps I should have used a different example.

I actually listened to what some of the earlier posters wrote and when I went out during my lunch break today I attempted to put the 'fake it til I make it' advise into use. When I stood in line at Potbellys to get a mixed berry smoothie the white lady who wrung up my order was so cheerful. She smiled plenty, was upbeat while taking my order and even thanked me for ordering afterwards. No matter how hard I tried to muster up the energy to smile back and return the cheer I just couldn't. It was an Epic failure!

OP, this doesn't seem like a racial happiness issue. This seems like a personal happiness issue. I second the poster who suggested you are perhaps suffering from depression.

I'm black and I'm quite chipper. Sometimes I don't walk around smiling because I'm lost in my thoughts, but most of the time I am. I'm always cheerful with cheerful employees (and even with the sourpuss employees).