Hairy legs in an office setting

[Anonymous]

Matter for what though? She's in HS, not looking for a full time job (I assume). She's checking a box. She's not asking for a recommendation from them, just the opportunity and she's already received that. I may feel differently if she was in college all she needs to do is dress appropriately. No need to shave her legs if she doesn't want to.

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Anonymous wrote:Without having read all the back and forth in this thread, it boils down to this: SHOULD it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? No, it shouldn’t. WILL it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? Yes, it will. The people in her office will be Millennials, Gen Xers, and Boomers. It’s an unfortunate reality that in a traditional, professional office setting she will stand out in a negative way. Anyone arguing against this fact doesn’t know what they are talking about and certainly hasn’t set foot in a traditional office. It may not be ideal, but it is the reality. Make sure she knows this and then she can make her own choice.

How will it matter? Factually, what will happen? They will see her legs and fire her? They will see her legs and reprimand her? They will see her legs and criticize her body and ask her to shave? No, none of these. That would probably be illegal. So what will actually happen? They will occasionally see some leg hair and then move on with their day? Is that really what all this hand wringing is about?

You’re probably right, but a partner at my law firm once told a group of us to stop wearing open toed shoes because it made us look like “party girls” and then commented on our shoe choices again every time she saw us thereafter. So yes, people might say something.

And when was that? 20 years ago?

Again, it is very clear you haven't worked in an environment that PP is describing.

And again, you are incorrect. Do I believe this happened? Yes. Do I believe it happened in this century? No.

+1 “party girls”, lol

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Anonymous wrote:Without having read all the back and forth in this thread, it boils down to this: SHOULD it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? No, it shouldn’t. WILL it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? Yes, it will. The people in her office will be Millennials, Gen Xers, and Boomers. It’s an unfortunate reality that in a traditional, professional office setting she will stand out in a negative way. Anyone arguing against this fact doesn’t know what they are talking about and certainly hasn’t set foot in a traditional office. It may not be ideal, but it is the reality. Make sure she knows this and then she can make her own choice.

How will it matter? Factually, what will happen? They will see her legs and fire her? They will see her legs and reprimand her? They will see her legs and criticize her body and ask her to shave? No, none of these. That would probably be illegal. So what will actually happen? They will occasionally see some leg hair and then move on with their day? Is that really what all this hand wringing is about?

You’re probably right, but a partner at my law firm once told a group of us to stop wearing open toed shoes because it made us look like “party girls” and then commented on our shoe choices again every time she saw us thereafter. So yes, people might say something.

And when was that? 20 years ago?

Again, it is very clear you haven't worked in an environment that PP is describing.

And again, you are incorrect. Do I believe this happened? Yes. Do I believe it happened in this century? No.

+1 “party girls”, lol

Then you know nothing about law firm life in DC.

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Anonymous wrote:Without having read all the back and forth in this thread, it boils down to this: SHOULD it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? No, it shouldn’t. WILL it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? Yes, it will. The people in her office will be Millennials, Gen Xers, and Boomers. It’s an unfortunate reality that in a traditional, professional office setting she will stand out in a negative way. Anyone arguing against this fact doesn’t know what they are talking about and certainly hasn’t set foot in a traditional office. It may not be ideal, but it is the reality. Make sure she knows this and then she can make her own choice.

How will it matter? Factually, what will happen? They will see her legs and fire her? They will see her legs and reprimand her? They will see her legs and criticize her body and ask her to shave? No, none of these. That would probably be illegal. So what will actually happen? They will occasionally see some leg hair and then move on with their day? Is that really what all this hand wringing is about?

You’re probably right, but a partner at my law firm once told a group of us to stop wearing open toed shoes because it made us look like “party girls” and then commented on our shoe choices again every time she saw us thereafter. So yes, people might say something.

And when was that? 20 years ago?

Again, it is very clear you haven't worked in an environment that PP is describing.

And again, you are incorrect. Do I believe this happened? Yes. Do I believe it happened in this century? No.

+1 “party girls”, lol

Then you know nothing about law firm life in DC.

And you know nothing about life outside of the 1900's in the workplace apparently.

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Anonymous wrote:Without having read all the back and forth in this thread, it boils down to this: SHOULD it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? No, it shouldn’t. WILL it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? Yes, it will. The people in her office will be Millennials, Gen Xers, and Boomers. It’s an unfortunate reality that in a traditional, professional office setting she will stand out in a negative way. Anyone arguing against this fact doesn’t know what they are talking about and certainly hasn’t set foot in a traditional office. It may not be ideal, but it is the reality. Make sure she knows this and then she can make her own choice.

How will it matter? Factually, what will happen? They will see her legs and fire her? They will see her legs and reprimand her? They will see her legs and criticize her body and ask her to shave? No, none of these. That would probably be illegal. So what will actually happen? They will occasionally see some leg hair and then move on with their day? Is that really what all this hand wringing is about?

You’re probably right, but a partner at my law firm once told a group of us to stop wearing open toed shoes because it made us look like “party girls” and then commented on our shoe choices again every time she saw us thereafter. So yes, people might say something.

And when was that? 20 years ago?

Again, it is very clear you haven't worked in an environment that PP is describing.

And again, you are incorrect. Do I believe this happened? Yes. Do I believe it happened in this century? No.

+1 “party girls”, lol

Then you know nothing about law firm life in DC.

Neither does OP’s kid, most likely. I’m sorry you chose to work in such an old-fashioned environment.

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Anonymous wrote:Without having read all the back and forth in this thread, it boils down to this: SHOULD it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? No, it shouldn’t. WILL it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? Yes, it will. The people in her office will be Millennials, Gen Xers, and Boomers. It’s an unfortunate reality that in a traditional, professional office setting she will stand out in a negative way. Anyone arguing against this fact doesn’t know what they are talking about and certainly hasn’t set foot in a traditional office. It may not be ideal, but it is the reality. Make sure she knows this and then she can make her own choice.

How will it matter? Factually, what will happen? They will see her legs and fire her? They will see her legs and reprimand her? They will see her legs and criticize her body and ask her to shave? No, none of these. That would probably be illegal. So what will actually happen? They will occasionally see some leg hair and then move on with their day? Is that really what all this hand wringing is about?

You’re probably right, but a partner at my law firm once told a group of us to stop wearing open toed shoes because it made us look like “party girls” and then commented on our shoe choices again every time she saw us thereafter. So yes, people might say something.

And when was that? 20 years ago?

Again, it is very clear you haven't worked in an environment that PP is describing.

And again, you are incorrect. Do I believe this happened? Yes. Do I believe it happened in this century? No.

+1 “party girls”, lol

Then you know nothing about law firm life in DC.

And you know nothing about life outside of the 1900's in the workplace apparently.

Again, tell us what you do and where you do it? Otherwise, stop with your agenda.

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Anonymous wrote:Without having read all the back and forth in this thread, it boils down to this: SHOULD it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? No, it shouldn’t. WILL it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? Yes, it will. The people in her office will be Millennials, Gen Xers, and Boomers. It’s an unfortunate reality that in a traditional, professional office setting she will stand out in a negative way. Anyone arguing against this fact doesn’t know what they are talking about and certainly hasn’t set foot in a traditional office. It may not be ideal, but it is the reality. Make sure she knows this and then she can make her own choice.

How will it matter? Factually, what will happen? They will see her legs and fire her? They will see her legs and reprimand her? They will see her legs and criticize her body and ask her to shave? No, none of these. That would probably be illegal. So what will actually happen? They will occasionally see some leg hair and then move on with their day? Is that really what all this hand wringing is about?

You’re probably right, but a partner at my law firm once told a group of us to stop wearing open toed shoes because it made us look like “party girls” and then commented on our shoe choices again every time she saw us thereafter. So yes, people might say something.

And when was that? 20 years ago?

Again, it is very clear you haven't worked in an environment that PP is describing.

And again, you are incorrect. Do I believe this happened? Yes. Do I believe it happened in this century? No.

+1 “party girls”, lol

Then you know nothing about law firm life in DC.

Neither does OP’s kid, most likely. I’m sorry you chose to work in such an old-fashioned environment.

But isn't that why we are telling her? And don't feel sorry for me. I do quite all right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm an old millennial in a line of work that leans both a little military and a little crunchy, and I've seen a change in norms.

Really curious what this is.

[Anonymous]

17 pages on this and still going strong. Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:17 pages on this and still going strong. Wow.

The fact that this one thing gets people so up in arms makes me want to salute OP’s daughter all the more. It is so trivial.

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Anonymous wrote:Without having read all the back and forth in this thread, it boils down to this: SHOULD it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? No, it shouldn’t. WILL it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? Yes, it will. The people in her office will be Millennials, Gen Xers, and Boomers. It’s an unfortunate reality that in a traditional, professional office setting she will stand out in a negative way. Anyone arguing against this fact doesn’t know what they are talking about and certainly hasn’t set foot in a traditional office. It may not be ideal, but it is the reality. Make sure she knows this and then she can make her own choice.

How will it matter? Factually, what will happen? They will see her legs and fire her? They will see her legs and reprimand her? They will see her legs and criticize her body and ask her to shave? No, none of these. That would probably be illegal. So what will actually happen? They will occasionally see some leg hair and then move on with their day? Is that really what all this hand wringing is about?

You’re probably right, but a partner at my law firm once told a group of us to stop wearing open toed shoes because it made us look like “party girls” and then commented on our shoe choices again every time she saw us thereafter. So yes, people might say something.

And when was that? 20 years ago?

Again, it is very clear you haven't worked in an environment that PP is describing.

And again, you are incorrect. Do I believe this happened? Yes. Do I believe it happened in this century? No.

+1 “party girls”, lol

Then you know nothing about law firm life in DC.

Neither does OP’s kid, most likely. I’m sorry you chose to work in such an old-fashioned environment.

But isn't that why we are telling her? And don't feel sorry for me. I do quite all right.

You think you’re going to inspire a 17 year old girl to aim for some crotchety old law firm by insisting she shave her legs? Well then thank you for your service, I guess?

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Anonymous wrote:17 pages on this and still going strong. Wow.

The lengths some women and men will go to to shame young women is quite remarkable!

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Anonymous wrote:Without having read all the back and forth in this thread, it boils down to this: SHOULD it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? No, it shouldn’t. WILL it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? Yes, it will. The people in her office will be Millennials, Gen Xers, and Boomers. It’s an unfortunate reality that in a traditional, professional office setting she will stand out in a negative way. Anyone arguing against this fact doesn’t know what they are talking about and certainly hasn’t set foot in a traditional office. It may not be ideal, but it is the reality. Make sure she knows this and then she can make her own choice.

How will it matter? Factually, what will happen? They will see her legs and fire her? They will see her legs and reprimand her? They will see her legs and criticize her body and ask her to shave? No, none of these. That would probably be illegal. So what will actually happen? They will occasionally see some leg hair and then move on with their day? Is that really what all this hand wringing is about?

You’re probably right, but a partner at my law firm once told a group of us to stop wearing open toed shoes because it made us look like “party girls” and then commented on our shoe choices again every time she saw us thereafter. So yes, people might say something.

And when was that? 20 years ago?

Again, it is very clear you haven't worked in an environment that PP is describing.

And again, you are incorrect. Do I believe this happened? Yes. Do I believe it happened in this century? No.

+1 “party girls”, lol

Then you know nothing about law firm life in DC.

Neither does OP’s kid, most likely. I’m sorry you chose to work in such an old-fashioned environment.

But isn't that why we are telling her? And don't feel sorry for me. I do quite all right.

You think you’re going to inspire a 17 year old girl to aim for some crotchety old law firm by insisting she shave her legs? Well then thank you for your service, I guess?

Crotchety old law firm? You mean one of the top 5 in the world?

Please, you sound ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:17 pages on this and still going strong. Wow.

The lengths some women and men will go to to shame young women is quite remarkable!

NO ONE IS SHAMING HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But if you think your hairy legs are not talked about you are clueless. Go women's rights!!! Woo hooo!!!!! You do you, boo. More power to you. Wear a tank top and show everyone your hairy pits too while you're at it.

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Anonymous wrote:Without having read all the back and forth in this thread, it boils down to this: SHOULD it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? No, it shouldn’t. WILL it matter that she doesn’t shave her legs? Yes, it will. The people in her office will be Millennials, Gen Xers, and Boomers. It’s an unfortunate reality that in a traditional, professional office setting she will stand out in a negative way. Anyone arguing against this fact doesn’t know what they are talking about and certainly hasn’t set foot in a traditional office. It may not be ideal, but it is the reality. Make sure she knows this and then she can make her own choice.

How will it matter? Factually, what will happen? They will see her legs and fire her? They will see her legs and reprimand her? They will see her legs and criticize her body and ask her to shave? No, none of these. That would probably be illegal. So what will actually happen? They will occasionally see some leg hair and then move on with their day? Is that really what all this hand wringing is about?

You’re probably right, but a partner at my law firm once told a group of us to stop wearing open toed shoes because it made us look like “party girls” and then commented on our shoe choices again every time she saw us thereafter. So yes, people might say something.

And when was that? 20 years ago?

Again, it is very clear you haven't worked in an environment that PP is describing.

And again, you are incorrect. Do I believe this happened? Yes. Do I believe it happened in this century? No.

+1 “party girls”, lol

Then you know nothing about law firm life in DC.

Neither does OP’s kid, most likely. I’m sorry you chose to work in such an old-fashioned environment.

But isn't that why we are telling her? And don't feel sorry for me. I do quite all right.

You think you’re going to inspire a 17 year old girl to aim for some crotchety old law firm by insisting she shave her legs? Well then thank you for your service, I guess?

Crotchety old law firm? You mean one of the top 5 in the world?

Please, you sound ridiculous.

Now I’m really not impressed.