Dated for 2 months, didn’t work out. Now…we’re expecting.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in exactly the same situation many years ago. Seriously considered abortion, but didn’t have stomach for it. I felt like it would haunt me for the rest of my life and I would always be counting birthdays of my unborn child. It absolutely gives me chills right now to think I could have done that, and not have the gift of having DC in my life.

OP if you go with abortion, make sure you are going to be ok living with that decision. It will not undo your pregnancy. You will still have to mention it at every new doctor’s appointment.

Don’t listen to anyone (ESPECIALLY on this board) but listen to you heart and gut feeling. And don’t rush into any decisions! You have time to think it over.

Don’t lie. You absolutely do not have to mention an abortion at doctor’s appointments. I have had one, have not had the need to mention it to anyone in decades.
No regrets about my decision by the way.
Have a family and two lovely DCs that are my everything.

Every new doctor asks me how many pregnancies and how many children. Aborted pregnancy is still a pregnancy.

I’ve never had a doctor ask me this. And you don’t have to share any information that you don’t want to.

Every OB asks this.

But you don’t have to share the info if you don’t what to.

Exactly. WTF? It's a question not a demand under duress. You share what you choose to share.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in exactly the same situation many years ago. Seriously considered abortion, but didn’t have stomach for it. I felt like it would haunt me for the rest of my life and I would always be counting birthdays of my unborn child. It absolutely gives me chills right now to think I could have done that, and not have the gift of having DC in my life.

OP if you go with abortion, make sure you are going to be ok living with that decision. It will not undo your pregnancy. You will still have to mention it at every new doctor’s appointment.

Don’t listen to anyone (ESPECIALLY on this board) but listen to you heart and gut feeling. And don’t rush into any decisions! You have time to think it over.

Don’t lie. You absolutely do not have to mention an abortion at doctor’s appointments. I have had one, have not had the need to mention it to anyone in decades.
No regrets about my decision by the way.
Have a family and two lovely DCs that are my everything.

Every new doctor asks me how many pregnancies and how many children. Aborted pregnancy is still a pregnancy.

I’ve never had a doctor ask me this. And you don’t have to share any information that you don’t want to.

Every OB asks this.

But you don’t have to share the info if you don’t what to.

Exactly. WTF? It's a question not a demand under duress. You share what you choose to share.

This. I’ve had more than one abortion, never told any of my doctors, and it hasn’t affected my health or medical care one bit.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in exactly the same situation many years ago. Seriously considered abortion, but didn’t have stomach for it. I felt like it would haunt me for the rest of my life and I would always be counting birthdays of my unborn child. It absolutely gives me chills right now to think I could have done that, and not have the gift of having DC in my life.

OP if you go with abortion, make sure you are going to be ok living with that decision. It will not undo your pregnancy. You will still have to mention it at every new doctor’s appointment.

Don’t listen to anyone (ESPECIALLY on this board) but listen to you heart and gut feeling. And don’t rush into any decisions! You have time to think it over.

Don’t lie. You absolutely do not have to mention an abortion at doctor’s appointments. I have had one, have not had the need to mention it to anyone in decades.
No regrets about my decision by the way.
Have a family and two lovely DCs that are my everything.

Every new doctor asks me how many pregnancies and how many children. Aborted pregnancy is still a pregnancy.

So what? You can answer any way you want. You don't have to tell anyone.

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God some of you people are so snobbish and cruel. Many people in this world do not have a perfect life where they meet their spouse, get married, have 100k in the bank and then plan to get pregnant .

I got pregnant in a similar situation to op and kept the baby. We got back together after baby was born - that was 7 years ago and we are about as happy as the other couples I know who had babies on purpose. We both have good jobs and are providing a nice stable life for our child. But I guess a lot of you think I ought to have had an abortion? My body, my choice and luckily there is no law about how much money you have to have in the bank to become a mom.

Op also keep in mind some of these posters are jealous infertile harpies - they can’t get pregnant even though they “deserve it” and it enrages them a woman who “doesn’t deserve it” gets to have a baby when they don’t.

[Anonymous]

Do the baby a favor and abort. Both of you will never be able to raise the child well and all you'll do is make the kid's life miserable.

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Anonymous wrote:God some of you people are so snobbish and cruel. Many people in this world do not have a perfect life where they meet their spouse, get married, have 100k in the bank and then plan to get pregnant .

I got pregnant in a similar situation to op and kept the baby. We got back together after baby was born - that was 7 years ago and we are about as happy as the other couples I know who had babies on purpose. We both have good jobs and are providing a nice stable life for our child. But I guess a lot of you think I ought to have had an abortion? My body, my choice and luckily there is no law about how much money you have to have in the bank to become a mom.

Op also keep in mind some of these posters are jealous infertile harpies - they can’t get pregnant even though they “deserve it” and it enrages them a woman who “doesn’t deserve it” gets to have a baby when they don’t.

99.9% of people are not like you. Good for you the situation turned out well. That's not the norm and clearly OP and her ex do not get along nor do they want to be connected FOR LIFE raising a baby they don't want. They knew each for TWO MONTHS. You really think it's the best "Hey, let's just take a chance and have a baby and maybe we'll get together again...". This isn't a pet. It's a baby that needs real parents. Neither OP or her ex are ready for that.

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Anonymous wrote:God some of you people are so snobbish and cruel. Many people in this world do not have a perfect life where they meet their spouse, get married, have 100k in the bank and then plan to get pregnant .

I got pregnant in a similar situation to op and kept the baby. We got back together after baby was born - that was 7 years ago and we are about as happy as the other couples I know who had babies on purpose. We both have good jobs and are providing a nice stable life for our child. But I guess a lot of you think I ought to have had an abortion? My body, my choice and luckily there is no law about how much money you have to have in the bank to become a mom.

Op also keep in mind some of these posters are jealous infertile harpies - they can’t get pregnant even though they “deserve it” and it enrages them a woman who “doesn’t deserve it” gets to have a baby when they don’t.

99.9% of people are not like you. Good for you the situation turned out well. That's not the norm and clearly OP and her ex do not get along nor do they want to be connected FOR LIFE raising a baby they don't want. They knew each for TWO MONTHS. You really think it's the best "Hey, let's just take a chance and have a baby and maybe we'll get together again...". This isn't a pet. It's a baby that needs real parents. Neither OP or her ex are ready for that.

You are making judgemental assumptions. People change after having a kid together.

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Op, what did you decide?

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Anonymous wrote:God some of you people are so snobbish and cruel. Many people in this world do not have a perfect life where they meet their spouse, get married, have 100k in the bank and then plan to get pregnant .

I got pregnant in a similar situation to op and kept the baby. We got back together after baby was born - that was 7 years ago and we are about as happy as the other couples I know who had babies on purpose. We both have good jobs and are providing a nice stable life for our child. But I guess a lot of you think I ought to have had an abortion? My body, my choice and luckily there is no law about how much money you have to have in the bank to become a mom.

Op also keep in mind some of these posters are jealous infertile harpies - they can’t get pregnant even though they “deserve it” and it enrages them a woman who “doesn’t deserve it” gets to have a baby when they don’t.

99.9% of people are not like you. Good for you the situation turned out well. That's not the norm and clearly OP and her ex do not get along nor do they want to be connected FOR LIFE raising a baby they don't want. They knew each for TWO MONTHS. You really think it's the best "Hey, let's just take a chance and have a baby and maybe we'll get together again...". This isn't a pet. It's a baby that needs real parents. Neither OP or her ex are ready for that.

You are making judgemental assumptions. People change after having a kid together.

Many of those people change for the worse.

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Anonymous wrote:God some of you people are so snobbish and cruel. Many people in this world do not have a perfect life where they meet their spouse, get married, have 100k in the bank and then plan to get pregnant .

I got pregnant in a similar situation to op and kept the baby. We got back together after baby was born - that was 7 years ago and we are about as happy as the other couples I know who had babies on purpose. We both have good jobs and are providing a nice stable life for our child. But I guess a lot of you think I ought to have had an abortion? My body, my choice and luckily there is no law about how much money you have to have in the bank to become a mom.

Op also keep in mind some of these posters are jealous infertile harpies - they can’t get pregnant even though they “deserve it” and it enrages them a woman who “doesn’t deserve it” gets to have a baby when they don’t.

99.9% of people are not like you. Good for you the situation turned out well. That's not the norm and clearly OP and her ex do not get along nor do they want to be connected FOR LIFE raising a baby they don't want. They knew each for TWO MONTHS. You really think it's the best "Hey, let's just take a chance and have a baby and maybe we'll get together again...". This isn't a pet. It's a baby that needs real parents. Neither OP or her ex are ready for that.

You are making judgemental assumptions. People change after having a kid together.

This is laughable. It's two people who dated for two months and realized they didn't like each other. Now, just because a baby is coming they are going to fall in love? LOL, you need to stop watching movies. The fact OP got pregnant two months into dating is a red flag she's not ready to raise a kid.

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Anonymous wrote:God some of you people are so snobbish and cruel. Many people in this world do not have a perfect life where they meet their spouse, get married, have 100k in the bank and then plan to get pregnant .

I got pregnant in a similar situation to op and kept the baby. We got back together after baby was born - that was 7 years ago and we are about as happy as the other couples I know who had babies on purpose. We both have good jobs and are providing a nice stable life for our child. But I guess a lot of you think I ought to have had an abortion? My body, my choice and luckily there is no law about how much money you have to have in the bank to become a mom.

Op also keep in mind some of these posters are jealous infertile harpies - they can’t get pregnant even though they “deserve it” and it enrages them a woman who “doesn’t deserve it” gets to have a baby when they don’t.

99.9% of people are not like you. Good for you the situation turned out well. That's not the norm and clearly OP and her ex do not get along nor do they want to be connected FOR LIFE raising a baby they don't want. They knew each for TWO MONTHS. You really think it's the best "Hey, let's just take a chance and have a baby and maybe we'll get together again...". This isn't a pet. It's a baby that needs real parents. Neither OP or her ex are ready for that.

You are making judgemental assumptions. People change after having a kid together.

Many of those people change for the worse.

100% correct. Most people who are irresponsible become worse not better. Also, you think the kid wants to be raised by two people who never wanted it? Sorry, not everyone is going to be Tim Tebow. 99.9% of these situations turn out for the worse. Also, raising a kid isn't just about money. It's about time, energy, responsibility, and overall a good personality as a parent.

I don't think OP or her ex have all of these, especially since they dislike each other.

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Anonymous wrote:God some of you people are so snobbish and cruel. Many people in this world do not have a perfect life where they meet their spouse, get married, have 100k in the bank and then plan to get pregnant .

I got pregnant in a similar situation to op and kept the baby. We got back together after baby was born - that was 7 years ago and we are about as happy as the other couples I know who had babies on purpose. We both have good jobs and are providing a nice stable life for our child. But I guess a lot of you think I ought to have had an abortion? My body, my choice and luckily there is no law about how much money you have to have in the bank to become a mom.

Op also keep in mind some of these posters are jealous infertile harpies - they can’t get pregnant even though they “deserve it” and it enrages them a woman who “doesn’t deserve it” gets to have a baby when they don’t.

99.9% of people are not like you. Good for you the situation turned out well. That's not the norm and clearly OP and her ex do not get along nor do they want to be connected FOR LIFE raising a baby they don't want. They knew each for TWO MONTHS. You really think it's the best "Hey, let's just take a chance and have a baby and maybe we'll get together again...". This isn't a pet. It's a baby that needs real parents. Neither OP or her ex are ready for that.

You are making judgemental assumptions. People change after having a kid together.

Many of those people change for the worse.

100% correct. Most people who are irresponsible become worse not better. Also, you think the kid wants to be raised by two people who never wanted it? Sorry, not everyone is going to be Tim Tebow. 99.9% of these situations turn out for the worse. Also, raising a kid isn't just about money. It's about time, energy, responsibility, and overall a good personality as a parent.

I don't think OP or her ex have all of these, especially since they dislike each other.

It's actually the opposite. You only noticed the ones with bad outcomes. The normal people blend in with everyone else.

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Anonymous wrote:God some of you people are so snobbish and cruel. Many people in this world do not have a perfect life where they meet their spouse, get married, have 100k in the bank and then plan to get pregnant .

I got pregnant in a similar situation to op and kept the baby. We got back together after baby was born - that was 7 years ago and we are about as happy as the other couples I know who had babies on purpose. We both have good jobs and are providing a nice stable life for our child. But I guess a lot of you think I ought to have had an abortion? My body, my choice and luckily there is no law about how much money you have to have in the bank to become a mom.

Op also keep in mind some of these posters are jealous infertile harpies - they can’t get pregnant even though they “deserve it” and it enrages them a woman who “doesn’t deserve it” gets to have a baby when they don’t.

99.9% of people are not like you. Good for you the situation turned out well. That's not the norm and clearly OP and her ex do not get along nor do they want to be connected FOR LIFE raising a baby they don't want. They knew each for TWO MONTHS. You really think it's the best "Hey, let's just take a chance and have a baby and maybe we'll get together again...". This isn't a pet. It's a baby that needs real parents. Neither OP or her ex are ready for that.

You are making judgemental assumptions. People change after having a kid together.

Interesting. I certainly didn't find that to be the case for my ex-dh.

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A good example for why people shouldn't be sleeping together until married.

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Anonymous wrote:A good example for why people shouldn't be sleeping together until married.

... if you are anti-abortion.