Not invited to hang with the girls. Ouch.

[Anonymous]

The ladies in my circle of friends are having some event this weekend. I heard them talking about it a while ago. I wasn't invited. Now they're talking about it on facebook. I don't know if I would have even considered going, but... ouch. Am I being too sensitive?

[Anonymous]

No. I'd be hurt, too.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you're being sensitive but this is yet another reason I stay far away from Facebook.

[Anonymous]

this is why I hate FB for things like this. What ever happened to the rule of not letting others know about parties they are not invited to?

Is there one particular friend that you think would have invited you to the event? i'm sorry, just know that you aren't the first person that this has happened to.

[Anonymous]

I'd be hurt too. Not to mention find it rude they are talking about it in front of me when they know I'm not invited. At times Facebook causes people to lose all manners.

[Anonymous]

maybe they assumed you wouldnt go (which you hinted at) and didnt bother asking. it still wouldnt have hurt for them to ask so they can confirm their thought that you werent going.

also, do your friends not have kids and you do? plays into first part of my statement

[Anonymous]

do you say no to invitations a lot? people can only ask--and get shot down--so many times.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I do have a little one, and the majority of these friends do as well. I think it's very possible they thought I would just say no and decided not to ask. I'm actually okay with that and understand it, but it still hurts that they'd talk about it within 5 feet of me without even asking if I was interested, and to a lesser extent sound off about it on facebook.

I'll get over it. Focusing on spending a relaxing weekend with my family.

[Anonymous]

It's really appalling.

[Anonymous]

Find new friends

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP that would really upset me.

Actually the mom in my mom's group are known to talk about their plans together and I just sit there smiling. Some days I feel like saying something, but what's the point?

[Anonymous]

adult facebook is for losers.

[Anonymous]

I agree with 12:51. I have a couple of friends who I've invited to stuff a lot and they'd never respond, or they'd say "maybe" and and not show up, or say nothing and show up at the same event with someone else. It became a pattern - clearly they were going out, but just not with me (though they were *asking* me what was going on this night or that night) so I stopped inviting them anywhere. People stop including people who don't seem to want to be included.

if you want to go, you should say "Hey, turns out I'm free that night - is there room for one more?" or something. If you're not interested but just wanted to be invited - you've gotta get over that. we're adults.

[Anonymous]

It would hurt my feelings too.

[Anonymous]

Agree that Facebook is for loser adults. So much like being back in high school. Who cares if you "just checked in from Starbucks."