Remind me of how insignificant I am...

[Anonymous]

Tell me that I am merely one of 7 billion people on a speck of dust in a galaxy among millions of other galaxies in our universe. That my existence doesnt really impact anything. That greater, bigger, more spectacular things have come before me. Tell me anything that takes this hurt out of my heart. That it won't matter that I divorce. That it doesn't matter that its 11:30 pm on a Sunday night and I have no idea where DH is. That he went out for drinks and dinner while I got to stay home with little DC, as I do every night. Oh but wait, I signed up for it because I SAH.

Tell me something that dulls the pain. Please.

[Anonymous]

I'm afraid all I really have, is that I'm sorry that you're hurting.

Vent and let it all out here anonymously.

[Anonymous]

Today doesn't matter. Not because you are insignificant, but because you have the potential that all humans have to change and to grow. Now is a bad time. There will be more bad times, as you move forward, separate, divorce, build a new life, watch as DC deals with the pain of these changes and grows past it into a child, and adolescent, an adult, and you will feel pain because that is part of life, but joy is a part of life, too. You choose which will have more power in your story: the pain or the joy.

[Anonymous]

You may feel insignificant to your DH but not to your little one. Never forget that- you are a mom. DH may be taking "I work" liberties but your baby needs YOU. Never forget that..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You may feel insignificant to your DH but not to your little one. Never forget that- you are a mom. DH may be taking "I work" liberties but your baby needs YOU. Never forget that..

+1

And you are not insignificant to the god of your choice either. HAng in there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You may feel insignificant to your DH but not to your little one. Never forget that- you are a mom. DH may be taking "I work" liberties but your baby needs YOU. Never forget that..

And remember, to your little one - YOU are his/her universe. So, yes, you are significant.

[Anonymous]

If you are on the rocks, remember the tide will lift you again. Most of the people in this world are born, live and die in obscurity. And that is fine, too. Little acts of good count also, not just big acts.

[Anonymous]

Every life has the potential to touch countless others. Have you ever tossed a rock into a pond and seen the ripples? Then tossed another and noticed how the ripples from the first rock intersect with the ripples from the second? The interactions we have with others are like those ripples...the reach a long way out and often intersect with others. Hang in there OP. Ask for help when you need it, offer when you have it to give and go on living your life the best way you know how. And know that no matter what your DH does, you are still loved. You are loved by your child, your family, your friends and your god.

[Anonymous]

The fender bender that happened at 10am which caused a slow down of onlookers affects the evening rush hour. Every little bit adds up. Nothing is insignificant.

[Anonymous]

I love this thread. What kind words. GL OP.

[Anonymous]

I would never tell a mom staying at home on any night of the week that she is insignificant. I would tell her that she's a lion of strength, putting her child's needs first, and I would absolutely echo the PPs that you are anything but insignificant to your child. You could find a cure for cancer, and you would still be more in that child's mind because you are mommy than anything else. If your spouse chooses not to form that same relationship with your child, that makes HIM insignificant. And weak. OP, I can understand that you are hurting, but I guarantee you're a great person - because you're YOU and YOU MATTER.

[Anonymous]

I think there's a support group that may be helpful to you.

Check out yahoo groups for GoMomGo - you'll have to apply to be admitted, because it's a support group for divorcing/separating/divorced/high-stress-relationship moms/women. Many of the women have been in abusive relationships, so the security around the group is tight, but once you write the moderator and are screened, I think you'd find it really helpful. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and learning from other women who have been - or are - there can be incredibly helpful.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gomomgo/

[Anonymous]

OP You do matter! You are taking care and shaping a child while providing nurture and love to the child. I'm sorry you are hurting; please either join a support group as the PP mentioned or get therapy if possible. It's hard being at SAHM. I'm one too and at times, I get tired and depressed that what I do during the day just doesn't matter. Hang in there and take care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are not insignificant, rather your husband is a shithead who has made you feel that way. You are there for your child. He is not. If you think that there is a divorce in your future, consult a lawyer and focus your energies on setting yourself up as favorably as possible for that battle. Keep track of these occasions when he's being Mr. Shithead. Good luck, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP - come to the relationship forum and let us give you specific advice. Your situation is not hopeless and you are not alone.