Can't stand my best friend's husband

[Anonymous]

Here is why: 1. doesn't have a job. Got fired from the last one for insubordination. He's 40. They already spent her money to put him in massage and he lost the one masseuse job he had. Now, he is thinking about a career change and I imagine my friend will pay for whatever training he needs. always makes excuses!
2. sleeps until 11:00 or 12:00.
3. self absorbed to the point where he just won't do something that he doesn't want to do, even if my friend wants to
4. always talking about politics, global warming, the 1%, the white man ( he is so white, it's not even funny) erases real history at school for kids. But, he does nothing about it like getting involved or even just voting.
5. is a terrible host and I don't mean to say that he should wait on his guests hand and foot. But, I think being a good host shows some sort of generosity of spirit. He came to stay at my house and woke up asking for coffee. No biggie, as that is expected. I stayed at their house and he was making tea and I asked him if there was coffee. He said he wasn't planning on making it but told me there was a Starbucks and Dunkin Donuts down the street. And, if I were going, could I pick him up an Americano.
6. Gets irritated and impatient very easily.

My best friend adores him and seems pretty happy. They have a baby and he does nothing useful, especially during the night wakings because he needs his sleep.

There! I feel so much better because it's all I can do to hold my tongue and not say anything at all. It feels good to get it out. I never would since she married him and hasn't voiced any unhappiness, except an ongoing general concern about future finances.

[Anonymous]

I've seen worse OP. It depends how much you like your friend. Or if your friend is just using you (sends the kids and DH over without herself), then kick them both to the curb.

[Anonymous]

I find it completely impossible to do "couple" things when I have no respect for the spouse.

Furthermore, I find it impossible to listen to my friend bitch and moan about her loser/abusive DH and then do nothing to change her situation. i just can't be bothered with people like that.

[Anonymous]

From your description, I can't stand him either!

[Anonymous]

I also have a friend who married a loser. She thinks that taking care of him is "teamwork."

[Anonymous]

Consider yourself lucky. I have a crush on mine.

[Anonymous]

OP, I hear you. I have a couple of friends like this. I call them "lunch and dinner" friends. We meet for lunch or dinner during the week without our spouses. It's too bad the couples thing won't work, but at least I get to enjoy my friend's company rather than sacrificing the friendship.

[Anonymous]

Take all that and add verbally abusive asshole drunk and you have npmy BFFs ex. He's her ex now. After he tried to kill himself and blame her. After he put her through hell for years, she finally got away. Not without paying him alimony or covering all his legal fees, but she got away.

So sit and wait. She will likely get fed up, shit will hit the fan, and she will need you.

[Anonymous]

My friends don't care for my husband. He is socially awkward, a bit abrasive, and he doesn't like people. I have couple friends but I go to functions alone and take care of guests alone.

[Anonymous]

You're very petty, op. Stop judging your friend.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, sounds like a real winner there. I don't know how your friend is happy with him, because I honestly don't think anyone else would be.

[Anonymous]

He sounds dumb. I thought women like to talk up their husband's intelligence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds dumb. I thought women like to talk up their husband's intelligence.

On this board, women like to talk up their husband's salary.

[Anonymous]

I guarantee your husband's best friend cannot stand you.

[Anonymous]

Yup, know someone like that too. I also don't see them anymore because its just a frustrating situation. Him for taking advantage and her for enabling the behavior.