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08/02/2022 19:51

Subject: Ding dong ditching and cops brought home

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Anonymous wrote:^and I wouldn’t think anything of them going out at 10pm. It wouldn’t occur to me they would ding dong ditch.

The the PP. I would. What would they possibly be up to at 10 pm outside that isn’t trouble? I wouldn’t allow it. If they want to hang out outside at 10pm, they can stay on the patio and around the yard. Not roam around the neighborhood

OP here. I guess in my mind walking to the park (basically a small little pocket park) half a block a way at 10 pm is not roaming. Again, it is on me for thinking they would just do that and I should have kept a closer watch. I will be honest and say that I tend to approach things like this from a POV of letting kids feel some sense of freedom and fun rather than one of constant suspicion. These kids didn't warrant concern in that way. That is on me, yes. Honestly, I was just glad they were not cooped up in his room gaming. Now I know better.

I'm in my 50s and was, as were all my friends, free range kids. My parents had no idea where I was during the day. Yet, the rule for us and all the kids I hung out with were that we had to be home by dark. In the summer time where I grew up, that was about 9PM. Just why do you think that was? Even in the 'good old days', our parents knew nothing good came of young teens being out after dark. I can't believe your naiveté and poor judgment.

80s kid. We always had to be home when the street lights came on.

This has zero to do with free range parenting.

How did you hunt for nightcrawlers before dark? How did you catch lightning bugs before dark?

Lightning bugs are best caught at dusk and worms in the morning after rain.

Not nightcrawlers.

How about flashlight tag?

These kids weren’t playing flashlight tag. And they’re almost in high school. If your teenage son and his friends say they’re heading out to play flashlight tag after the adults go to bed, I have a bridge to sell you.

Our kids play man hunt, capture the flag, hunt for night crawlers, flashlight tag, hide and seek… etc at night.

Y’all are insane helicopter parents.

And really if they are kissing at the park or ding dong ditching I’m not going to lose my sh!t because it’s age appropriate.

Yes they are almost in HS, next year they will be going to parties and football games and dinner after dark and I won’t be able to track their every move.

It’s not helicopter parenting to have basic respect for your neighbors, and all of those nighttime activities you described can be done on your own property. This “age appropriate” line of argument falls flat - it’s rude behavior and it’s not justified just because they are boys.

Yes, it's rude behavior. Kids try out rude behavior sometimes. Do you think with perfect parenting children behave perfectly until they're adults? The answer is NO. Growing up is a process. It's normal.

You and others don't seem to understand that there's a difference between "normal" or common and appropriate or acceptable. Just because pre-teen boys are generally idiots doesn't mean that behavior like this should be waved off with a "boys will be boys". It's okay to condemn the commonplace.

Nobody said it’s boys will be boys. It’s kids do stupid things. I’m sure girls ding dong ditch too when they are not playing spin the bottle.

DP. The behavior should be addressed by the parents, and not waved off with a “kids do stupid things” either. It’s rude, full stop, and like the police have said, can have dangerous consequences if you do it to the wrong person.

Yes, it's rude. If it weren't rude, there would be no point in doing it. Were you born 45 years old?

NP but a good prank isn't rude. It's funny. If it's just being rude to someone, what is funny about that? Even as a teenager I didn't see the fun in just being rude to someone for no reason. Where is the punchline, it sounds like the teens don't even wait to see if the poor person opens their door or not. So they literally just run up and down the street bothering everyone at 10pm, just for the pleasure of the internal knowledge that they've scared/ woken up/ bothered their neighbors? Think of how upset someone must have been to have called the POLICE. Now think of how low key upset many , many other people were but not to the point of alerting the police. Did they call the cops because they wanted the kids to get in trouble for prankign them? Did they call the cops because they thought someone was trying to break into their home? Who knows. But most likely it was the latter, and just sit for a moment and think how NOT harmless it is to scare someone like that. It's beyond rude.

It's funny to them because it's rude. Farting is also rude and isn't funny to adults but it is to young children. Lighten up.

If a teenager farted near me and ran away, I'd think they were immature but harmless. Not the same for a teenager approaching my home at 10pm and knocking on my door with a group of other teenage male friends. In many, many areas of our country that sort of thing sets of massive alarm bells for a gang of young men luring people out of their homes to assault or rob them, or casing the home for a break in, etc etc. And if your "kids" are too privileged to realize that, then they need a wakeup call before they pretend to break into the wrong person's home at 10pm as a "harmless prank"

You need to get a more complicated life, so your outrage will make a bit more sense. What a waste.

This made me laugh because of the complexity of my life right now.

I'd argue that your life must be pretty vanilla to think that there's no way a bunch of teenage boys banging on doors after 10pm could be scary or harmful. Like what kind of world have you lived in to where groups of roaming young men after dark, trespassing on property that isn't theirs, solely for to cause trouble, is just a harmless prank?

99.99999999999% of the time a ding dong ditch is a harmless prank.

You clearly have some mental heath issues, I’m sorry! Thoughts and prayers.

Look, I am sure we are going to agree to disagree here, but judging by the number of people who have vocalized that 1) yes, 10pm is too late for them to want their doorbell rung as part of a prank, 2) they'd be scared or anxious about a group of teenage guys sneaking around their yard after dark, 3) they don't think this is a funny prank to do to strangers, you surely know that at best the opinion is split on whether or not this is a funny, cute thing for a bunch of 14 year old dudes to be up to at nighttime. You might not mind it , but you see now that many others would mind it for a variety of reasons. I hope that's enough to discourage your own kids from pranking their unknown neighbors in the middle of the night. Not because they might get shot- although they might!- but because it's mean.