Despite loving your kids unconditionally, anything that would really bother you?
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Anonymous
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I hear this all the time from other parents, and would like to think I would always love and be there for my kids, but there are a few things that if they did/were, would definitely irk me.
-Working in porn/prostitution/stripping/posing nude etc -Sell drugs -Not going to college -Getting pregnant irresponsibly (as a teen and/or without a stable partner) -Violent crime |
Anonymous
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i would be really, really upset if my daughter became a loser who smoked marijuana every day and had no ambition. like some people i have known.
i really hate the stuff and i just would not stand for it. |
Anonymous
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I'd be upset if dds
-- got pregnant as teenagers -- ended up in prison for a reason other than civil disobedience -- flunked out of high school or skipped college -- married a loser -- came out as a lesbian -- stole -- became an addict or sold drugs -- DUI -- Failed to launch, i.e. moved back in with me as adults for any length of time -- became heavily indebted. |
Anonymous
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Much of the really illegal stuff, of course. But also, I'd be upset if my daughter went in for serious body modification, like extensive tattoos or piercings.
I would also be upset if she became a mean girl, or adopted a conservative evangelical religion. |
Anonymous
| I would be upset if she was a bully either verbally, through internet/social media or through violence. I couldn't stand it if my DD turned out to be close minded and hateful and hurtful toward others. |
Anonymous
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No ambition to be self-supporting. Would HIGHLY prefer lots of post-graduate education. But will be happy with self-supporting.
Someone who treats his girlfriends (or boyfriends, if that's the case) like crap. Super-conservative or super-religious. Mainstream of either is great. |
Anonymous
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I would not be pleased if he became religious. Doesn't matter which religion.
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Anonymous
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Anonymous
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Bullying/meanness/cruelty/lack of empathy
Teasing other kids for characteristics they can't change (looks, race, disability) Laziness Lack of intellectual curiousity |
Anonymous
NP here. If I'm being honest with myself, I think I would feel that way as well. It's easier to be tolerant and respectful of others; however, it's harder to be tolerant of yourself and those closest to you. Also in the case of skipping college.... I could care less what paths other people have chosen, but I expect my kids to attend college (especially after working so hard to save the money so they can attend without the extra burden of financial stress). I think every parent holds their kids to some degree of standard, and it varies by parent, as evidenced in this topic. |
Anonymous
| LOL @ you being "irked" by violent crime. |
Anonymous
| Teen pregnancy/teen marriage would break my heart. |
Anonymous
Ha, I know, I had the same reaction after posting. Wrong word choice there, but you get my meaning 
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Anonymous
| I know trust fund kids that are useless. Their condo in Georgetown (gorgeous BTW) is paid for by their parents, as was every opportunity given to them. There is no reason for them to be dependent on their parents, yet they have absolutely no capabilities of being on their own. I don't know if the parents (mother) did this on purpose, but it is my greatest fear, really. |
Anonymous
| Really upset if my child grows up fat. |