Topics that you shouldn't talk to friends about?

[Anonymous]

Do you have any advice on this? If someone is a friend, should I feel comfortable talking about any and everything?

I feel like I am a bit guarded with those I consider friends. For instance, I feel like in the work discussions I make sure not to mention my salary, a few of my friends will hint around or I have had one say, " Do you make a lot of money doing that?". I feel like a subject shifter on this.

What have you learned NOT to talk about in your experiences?

[Anonymous]

My friends don't know my salary. Even my sisters don't know my salary, and one of them asked recently and I wouldn't tell her. only my husband knows.

I have a few close friends. I share what I want to share with them, and if I feel like I'm being pressured to share, I probably don't.

It's the friends who care the least about what I tell them that wind up finding out the most, usually.

It sounds like you have one particularly nosy "friend" OP. Why do you feel guilty not telling them your salary? Ask yourself, why do they need to know?

[Anonymous]

politics, abortion, and how to raise kids

[Anonymous]

Nothing is ever completely off the table, but generally I don't believe in saying much about my sex life (at least when married or in a really committed relationship), telling anyone my salary or how much I have in the bank, or telling people about the amount of an inheritance.

[Anonymous]

With my closest friends there is very little that is taboo. With my best friend we even talk salary, although I do avoid that with everyone else. I've never had anyone ask me if I make a lot of money at what I do, although I perhaps they (wrongly) assume I do. Other than that, with my best friends we talk about sex, relationships, parenting, politics, religion.... we're all pretty open people.

[Anonymous]

Money (specifics) and Details of married life, especially if its not good.

[Anonymous]

If my friends ask, I will talk about salary (as long as they tell me their's - only fair , but otherwise I'm not comfortable bringing up financial matters. I also don't like to talk about religion, and never bring up any diagreements with DH or family.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the friend. I only have one friend with whom I dish about my (and her) sex life. But that same friend would not be someone I would ever discuss money issues with.

I have another friend who never shares about her marriage, or really anything negative, so I don't share as much with her as I used to. She's also way politically conservative, so we do not talk politics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friends don't know my salary. Even my sisters don't know my salary, and one of them asked recently and I wouldn't tell her. only my husband knows.

I have a few close friends. I share what I want to share with them, and if I feel like I'm being pressured to share, I probably don't.

It's the friends who care the least about what I tell them that wind up finding out the most, usually.

It sounds like you have one particularly nosy "friend" OP. Why do you feel guilty not telling them your salary? Ask yourself, why do they need to know?

Op here, when I was younger I was just out of college and an older friend asked my salary and I told her, but from that point forward she would make comments when we were out about what I could or co,uld not afford. It was my first corporate job and she was a successful business woman so it made me feel so horrible inside. From then on, its a guarded topic for me.

[Anonymous]

I am a fed worker, so my salary isnt a secret, but I really only share my salary with people in the same financial place as me. If I know someone makes a lot more or a lot less, I dont share.

Dont talk about sex as much as I'd like, or as much as we did when I was single.

We pretty much talk about everything else.

[Anonymous]

we are swingers and don't talk about it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:we are swingers and don't talk about it

Really? Cool.

[Anonymous]

-Salary-no good comes of talking about this.
-Politics-I try to avoid because things can erupt.
-In-laws. my friends have met mine and they think my in-laws are atrocious. I do too, but I feel like it just fuels my anxiety to talk about them, let alone hear they really are that awful. I also can't stand talking to people who pull the family is family and we let them treat us like shit because they are now family stuff so with those people I avoid the topic.
-Sex. Pre-marriage we may have talked about this, but I think in marriage sex is between us.

[Anonymous]

Abortion. Never ever ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:we are swingers and don't talk about it

I know some of my friends are swingers and they haven't told me. More awkward than not knowing!