Persistent Mormons coming to doorstep
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Anonymous
| A couple of young adult boys have come twice to talk to us about Mormonism. My DH usually answers the door, and tries to be polite in brushing them off and saying goodbye. About 730 this evening, there was a knock at the door, and it was the two boys and they said "can we use the restroom?" DH said yes (I was angered by this); one of them used the restroom and when he finished, they lingered in the foyer and tried to strike up conversations about Mormonism and asking DH if he'd like an opportunity to learn more about it, etc. The restroom thing was clearly a ruse to get them into the house and that made me very angry! I know what DH needs to do -- needs to be firm and tell them to stop coming around, but he doesn't want to hurt their feelings. I am angry about the 'using the bathroom' thing because I feel like they crossed a line. We've got two kids under the age of 2 - it could have been much worse - they could have just been dressed as Mormons and then pulled out guns as soon as DH let them in. When the doorbell rang, I said to DH, "Don't answer it, it's too late at night!" He said, "I think it's [our next-door neighbor/friend]" and opened the door. I've already told him again, next time, do not open the door. |
Anonymous
| I agree about the safety issue--it's just bad practice to let people in, anyone. It would be a good ruse. Just don't answer the door. |
Anonymous
| Is your DH a child who was taken advantage of by the big bad Mormons? That's the way you are presenting this, FYI. |
Anonymous
OP here. What? I don't understand what you mean, and don't see how what I wrote suggests that DH was taken advantage of by Mormons... |
Anonymous
| I don't know, we had some persistent young mormon men coming to our door, and my husband got to talking with them (a little about Mormonism, which we have no intention of converting to, but more about their lives and families) and I think they were just kind of lonely. It sounded like a lot of people were mean to them and they were away from their families and could only write letters, not even call regularly. We felt sorry for them. |
Anonymous
| Your DH is being way too polite. I'm sure they were using it as a ruse to talk up their religion, but a woman I know was visited by a door-to-door Christian group of some sort. She was new to this country, and let them use her bathroom only to find one of them in her daughter's bedroom. |
Anonymous
What an idiotic post! That is so not what she said. |
Anonymous
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My mother kept being bothered by Jehovah's witnesses. Finally she told them to stop fucking coming to her house.
They haven't been back since. |
Anonymous
Never can be too careful. I read about a guy who posed as a flower delivery guy on Valentine's Day. He robbed the woman who opened the door in broad daylight. It could have been much worse. |
Anonymous
This makes me laugh |
Anonymous
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I just open the door, say "no thanks" and shut it before they have a chance to say anything.
Or I tell them I'm not Christian. Or I tell them I'm Buddhist. They never seem to have anything to say after that. . . |
Anonymous
| I am a mormon, and I completely understand that the proselytizing is a bit much for most people. However, it seems a bit absurd to me that you are blaming these young men for your husband's actions. While it's totally valid for you not to want strangers in your house, there is a simple solution: don't answer the door. If you and your husband aren't on the same page, that's no one's fault but your own. As for the accusation that their desire to use the bathroom is "clearly a ruse," I find that laughable. If they have been by twice, they probably live nearby or otherwise are frequently in the neighborhood. It is possible that he actually had to pee, and thought he'd go to the only house on the street where someone had let them in and been nice to them. Take it down a notch. |
Anonymous
It is, actually. The idea that a couple of mormon missionaries pose a threat is hilarious. And her offense is really offensive. She sounds shrill and the dh sounds like a better soul. |
Anonymous
OP here. I think this is kind of how DH feels - he feels bad and doesn't want to be rude to them. Also, he enjoys theological discussions, and so sometimes he gets to talking. My position is that this just gives them false hopes that they actually have a chance at converting him, and so they make a note of our address and keep coming around. And now I'm pretty irritated with them for using this "can we use your bathroom" trick to get inside the door. |
Anonymous
I agree with this. If she had phrased it as "DH lets anybody in the door who asks to use the bathroom" this would be a different thread. As one example, it wouldn't have prompted the totally random teenager who just bashed Jehovah's Witnesses. In this particular instance, the problem is not the mormons, who can be gotten rid of. It's her DH, who opened the door to the house and then the bathroom. |