Am I nuts or is DH?

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02/08/2012 22:35

Subject: Am I nuts or is DH?

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Anonymous

Okay, I need some clarity here because either DH is crazy or I am, and I'm pretty sure it's not me.

And yes, I realize that in the grand scheme of things this is a silly little argument... but I still think he's nuts! Sorry if this post gets a little wordy, but I've gotta know what the DCUM crowd thinks, so please bear with me.

I baked a batch of muffins the other day, and while hanging out and watching TV tonight, DH and I decided to have one this evening. He went to the kitchen to get them and to pop them in the microwave for a few seconds. I asked him to put mine on a plate because they are super crumbly and I didn't want to get crumbs all over the sofa, which DH doesn't care about so he just uses a paper towel. When he handed me the plate with the muffin, I noticed that the plate was really dirty. It turned out that he grabbed a dirty plate from the dishwasher. I figured that it was an accident so I got up and got a clean plate. And then he got offended! He said that by getting a clean plate I was basically accusing him of not being able to do anything right!

I asked him if he was generally okay with eating off of dirty dishes, and he told me that he doesn't see anything wrong with it, especially because I rinse the dishes before loading them into the dishwasher. (Note that he knows that I don't pre-wash them with soap, just rinse them to get big food particles off.) I often use plates to prepare raw chicken, burgers, etc., and he has no way of knowing what the dirty dish was used for. But still, he says that it is perfectly okay to eat off of dirty dishes.

To top it off, he then accused me of being a "mild germaphobe." I'm pretty sure that our messy bathroom discounts that theory, but I asked him if he could give me some examples because no one has ever accused me of being a germaphobe before. He said that besides not wanting to eat from unwashed dishes, I also made us keep two kitchen sponges. One is just our regular sponge to wipe crumbs and spills off the counter, or when we hand-wash dishes, and the other is used when we clean the kitchen with chemical cleaning products (bleached-based, comet, 409, etc.). I thought it was common-sense not to use one sponge for these two different types of tasks. I mean, along with not eating off of a dirty plate, I don't really want to eat off of a plate that was wiped down with a sponge that still has 409 or bleach soaked in, and was previously used to wipe the floor under the stove or something. He said that those were the only two examples of my "germaphobia" that he had. So does this make me a germaphobe? Am I a DCUM princess? If I'm wrong, I want to know it, and I'll ungrudgingly apologize to DH.

P.S. We generally have a great relationship, so I wouldn't say this is a symptom of a larger problem (can you tell that I read DCUM a lot?). Also, he thinks I'm pretty awesome for making delicious baked goods!