Am I nuts or is DH?
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Anonymous
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A plate or a knife or a fork that was just used quickly, and non-stickily, as others have said, and did not grace the dishwasher -- fine.
Something from the dishwasher, and when one's spouse has requested a plate to boot? That sounds almost hostile. |
Anonymous
| Passive aggressive. |
Anonymous
| I think he's overreacting, but if you can just let it go, do so. |
Anonymous
Grabbing a dirty plate from the dishwasher is gross and doesn't make any sense. But your DH's reaction to you getting a clean plate is quite a leap. Makes me wonder if he feels like you micromanage and tell him how to do things, or go around re-doing things the "right" way after him. I know I have to resist that impulse sometimes. 
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Anonymous
| My husband was known in his early twenties for rinsing dishes in his toilet...really. So I think men are not wired the same way when it comes to decide what's clean and what's the proper way to do it. And I hear you for the 2 sponges, I do the same (and I have another one only for the bathroom). It's not related to germs, it's a chemical hazard. |
Anonymous
| He is wrong. Why should you eat from a dirty plate? If it had been sitting on the COUNTER and had previously been used for toast or something dry, then sure. But not an unknown from the dirty dishwasher. And of course a chemically cleaning sponge should not be used to wash dishes. I have two sponges: one for dishes and one for wiping counters and sink. |
Anonymous
Seriously, that was my first thought: "this is something I would do if I were just about to get my period". DH is having a pity party, you are right he is wrong, but maybe you should just treat him with kid gloves for a few days until he gets over it  Back rubs are nice.
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Anonymous
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You are right, and he is wrong.
He was probably just embarrassed he grabbed a dirty dish and was trying to cover his a**...and in so doing made himself sound more ridiculous. Maybe he just feels picked on lately. |
Anonymous
| Of course your DH is crazy, but he's a total slob (not caring about crumbs on the sofa? is he still a frat boy or a grown up married man?). |
Anonymous
| hes a fucking moron, if it were my husband and it was a mistake he would be kind enough to get me another plate rather than have me get up. |
Anonymous
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I think you should simply say "you can call it whatever you want (e.g. germophobe) but it's how I feel, so please respect my feelings about this."
If you were a DCUM princess, you would have had a fit that he wasn't using a clean plate, too. |
Anonymous
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He is wrong. I'd hesitate to eat anything that he served me in the future, if he thinks it's okay to reuse plates that had who-knows-what on them! Blech!
As for the 'germophobe' comment, it sounds like he was just trying to irritate you. |
Anonymous
| You weren't saying he doesn't do anything right, but only that his gross ass did not do that right. MY DH tries this shit sometimes, too. And really, like washing a plate for you is so much harder that MAKING A BATCH OF MUFFINS. I'm pissed at him even if you're not. |
Anonymous
| OP, I think he is over reacting (and being rude about it) but from the way you're describing this exchange I wonder if he doesn't have a genuine complaint with regard to your overall behavior. But only you can be the judge of that. The incident in and of itself - yeah, he should have not gotten upset when you went to get a clean plate. |
Anonymous
| He is. Case closed. |