How does it make you feel to have someone else just start cooking/baking in your kitchen?
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Anonymous
| Okay Ladies--I am wanting to take a generalized poll--to see if I am just crazy/possessive about my kitchen as my turf--how would you feel if let's say someone (not a friend or your family member) just started with a huge cooking/baking project in your kitchen without you personally giving the "okay"? It really gets under my skin when my MIL just takes it upon herself to make enormous amounts of food, not for me and the kids, but my DH. |
Anonymous
| I have to say, this is the OP, that I would like to add the women in my family have all agreed that this would drive them insane. I am wondering if other women feel the same or are we all just territorial and possessive about our kitchens? |
Anonymous
| Really? It's your kitchen and DH's wishes aren't satisfactory approval? Of all the things to dislike a MIL for, cooking seems to be about the pettiest. |
Anonymous
| I'd be happy if someone was cooking. Then I'd wait for it to be done and enjoy in the feast with the family! Glass half full view. |
Anonymous
| Well last year I had a baby two weeks before Christmas and stepmother IL busts in like a tornado taking over. At the moment I was fine with it until Christmas Eve when I sat in the kitchen, half hr before guests arrived and she started a fire inside my oven. She then proceeded to throw a whole box of baking powder all over the room trying to pug it out. After that incident I became possessive.... |
Anonymous
| I would frickin' love it. |
Anonymous
| My dh does all the cooking and he would never want his mother in the kitchen, let alone mine. There's a real power struggle over kitchens between those two. |
Anonymous
| Wouldn't be able to stand it, but my MIL doesn't cook, so the thing that it's all about is a tussle over cleaning up. |
Anonymous
I would guess your MIL , DH, DC's consider the MIL a family member. Part of being a married or partnered adult or parent is realizing the others [including DC's] have independent relationships with others in the extended family. Wait until you have teens or young adults using the kitchen. |
Anonymous
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My SILs came to visit awhile back and decided to tackle a big cooking project. Initially, I fully intended to participate, but the kitchen couldn't really accommodate all of us and I found myself getting silently annoyed at a lot of things they were doing.... so I nominated myself Event Photographer and took a big step back.
Never really had anyone else take over my kitchen, but based on that experience.... don't think I'd be OK with it. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, you need to count your MIL as a family member. Would you have a problem if yoir mom did this? What did MIL make? Was it good? |
Anonymous
| Your MIL is your family member, and it's your husband's kitchen, too. That said, she should share the food with you and the kids, and ask first to be sure you were not about to cook/need the kitchen. |
Anonymous
| Wouldn't care either way. |
Anonymous
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As long as they treated my knives like the precious delicate darlings they are (do not cut directly on the countertop! do not put them in the dishwasher!) and didn't make a giant mess for me to clean up, I'd be cool with it.
But seriously, I'm really touchy about my knives. |
Anonymous
| I'd be pissed. |