How does it make you feel to have someone else just start cooking/baking in your kitchen?
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Anonymous
| So it seems based on the responses, I am just territorial over my kitchen |
Anonymous
| I'm not sure it would bother me unless they were treating my Kitchen Aid or other certain dishes/appliances in a rough manner. It would annoy me if I were getting ready to cook but I'd probably say something or else leave and go out to eat. It does seem strange that she's cooking for DH and not you and the kids. Is she from another country and making something specific to that culture that most Americans wouldn't touch with a 10' pole? |
Anonymous
| Well, I see MIL as a member of the family. So, no problem. She's my guest to take over the kitchen. I assume that she does let you and the kids eat what she cooks? |
Anonymous
| I pray every day for someone to come into my kitchen and start cooking. It's a definite fantasy of mine. Send your MIL over, I'll be glad to host her. |
Anonymous
| She is family. Still, she should have asked. ANYONE should ask before taking over a someone's kitchen. Common courtesy--your MIL misstepped here. |
Anonymous
| If it is something yummy, and they are sharing......I say go tor it! Seriously. |
Anonymous
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OP -- what do you mean, she is making tons of food... but just for your husband? Why not for you and the kids?
If I were the primary cook in the family, and my MIL were here for a visit and just totally took over so I couldn't even cook dinner etc., and she wasn't even cooking dinner for the whole family -- yeah, that would annoy me. |
Anonymous
My MIL does this when she comes to visit. I am happy she can cook my DH things from his childhood and culture that he loves. Of course the rest of of the family gets to eat the food too though! 
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Anonymous
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If it were a gourmet chef hired by my husband to cater to my every desire then I'm all for it. Otherwise, get outta my kitchen!
If it were my MIL I would be even more furious. It is disrepectful if she didn't ask you first and if your husband said it was fine without asking you I find that rude too. For the record, I think there are either MILs posting here or people who have great MILs. If you have a great relationship and the person is usually considerate I could see how it wouldn't be as big a deal. My MIL is an angry spiteful person, but at least she hates cooking so I don't have to worry about her using my kitchen. |
Anonymous
| OP, It's still your house, and she should get your and your husband's permission first. also cooking food just for your DH is odd and reeks of possessive-MIL behavior. |
Anonymous
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I do it to my MIL, and she does it to me.
Of course, she handwashes all knives/pans, and treats things respectfully. We get along well, though, so typically we are cooking together or one of us agreed to watch the kids while the other cooked. We share a lot of meals (they live close by). Don't sweat the small stuff. Whatever your 'rules', your husband ignores them when you're not around. Guaranteed. |
Anonymous
| Not op and I don't care about the kitchen thing, but my mil is not MY family - if Zi got divorced I woul never talk to her again or want to know about her. |
Anonymous
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As long as she treats my walnut countertop and Le Creuset pots with all the care they deserve, and has the common courtesy to ask first, it's fine.
When I had my first child and went back to work, MIL came to visit with her niece. Practically every night of their visit, I returned home to hot, delicious (healthy!) food. I will be eternally grateful
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Anonymous
Well that's just ridiculous. Your husband can't give permission for someone do do something in his house? |