Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority

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Anonymous wrote:The way I see it, there are two types of SAHMs. Those that have to because their salary will not cover childcare and those who are lucky enough to be in a financial situation that allows them to stay home.

To the latter I say, embrace your choice and recognize this is a luxury. If I could check out of the daily 9-5 grind I would in a heartbeat. Of course what you do is difficult, most people realize caring for kids is hard, which is why we pay people to do it. It's just that being a working parent is more difficult and it's okay to accept that you wanted a less difficult path. As a SAHM, you will never have to worry about backup care on a snow day, getting out of a meeting because you have a sick child, prepping dinners/lunches the night before, grocery shopping on a lunch break, etc.

FWIW, many of my SAHM friends seem to have less tolerance for stress. I think being a working mom makes you better organized and more able to handle unexpected situations because you have to be. What kills me is when SAHMs post about needing more respect and how what they do is hard when the rest of us think gee how nice it would be to not have to balance my work life and kid's schedule. And when you make comments about "outsourcing" our kids, it comes off as sanctimonious because the whole reason you get to SAH is because of someone else's hard work to pay your bills.

FWIW, we all make the easier choice in life at times. I chose a lesser paying government attorney job than my friends who went into big law. I was blessed with no student loans, so I was able to make that choice. Never in a million years would I gripe to my big law friends about how stressful my job is when it pales in comparison to theirs.

So basically I say to SAHMs, just rock your decision and acknowledge it is a luxury not some huge sacrifice. And don't throw it in the face of working moms and expect us to fawn over what a martyr you are.

As soon as WOHMs rock their decision and acknowledge that they really are NOT with their kids most of the day. There isn't necessarily anything wrong with that - doesn't mean you're not bonded or have a great relationship. But don't act like being away all day long is EXACTLY the same as being home all day.

You act like your kids will be home with you forever. They will go to school and then what will you do with you time? Planning to go to work?

What the fuck difference does it make to you what i do with my time???! How is it your business??? Who are you people the fucking time police? Aaarghhh

And you don't think the previous comment is at all provocative? That PP seems to have forgotten that children will eventually go to school and WOHMs with school age children aren't exactly missing their whole day with their kids. And WOHMs that don't have a choice about working aren't exactly super excited to be told that they are missing their child's entire day.

Perhaps the other PP should not have responded the way they did - but you really don't see why they might have?

I don't see why anyone cares how other people spend their time. I don't go to work while my children are in school and do not need to justify this to strangers on the Internet or IRL.

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Leave it to DCUM to transform yet another thread into a WOHM vs SAHM debate. Who the fuck cares?

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Anonymous wrote:Here is an opinion that it is in the minority, especially today. I love snow days! People seem to hate taking days off for them and even more of them seem to hate being at home with their kids. I live them, even more than my kids. I get do much done and my kids have fun doing whatever- playing outside, Legos, board games, etc. It is a beautiful day today and I think we will go out for a walk. God knows our dog needs one.

I'm with you. I am always the one hoping for a big snowstorm.

Me too.

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Anonymous wrote:The way I see it, there are two types of SAHMs. Those that have to because their salary will not cover childcare and those who are lucky enough to be in a financial situation that allows them to stay home.

To the latter I say, embrace your choice and recognize this is a luxury. If I could check out of the daily 9-5 grind I would in a heartbeat. Of course what you do is difficult, most people realize caring for kids is hard, which is why we pay people to do it. It's just that being a working parent is more difficult and it's okay to accept that you wanted a less difficult path. As a SAHM, you will never have to worry about backup care on a snow day, getting out of a meeting because you have a sick child, prepping dinners/lunches the night before, grocery shopping on a lunch break, etc.

FWIW, many of my SAHM friends seem to have less tolerance for stress. I think being a working mom makes you better organized and more able to handle unexpected situations because you have to be. What kills me is when SAHMs post about needing more respect and how what they do is hard when the rest of us think gee how nice it would be to not have to balance my work life and kid's schedule. And when you make comments about "outsourcing" our kids, it comes off as sanctimonious because the whole reason you get to SAH is because of someone else's hard work to pay your bills.

FWIW, we all make the easier choice in life at times. I chose a lesser paying government attorney job than my friends who went into big law. I was blessed with no student loans, so I was able to make that choice. Never in a million years would I gripe to my big law friends about how stressful my job is when it pales in comparison to theirs.

So basically I say to SAHMs, just rock your decision and acknowledge it is a luxury not some huge sacrifice. And don't throw it in the face of working moms and expect us to fawn over what a martyr you are.

As soon as WOHMs rock their decision and acknowledge that they really are NOT with their kids most of the day. There isn't necessarily anything wrong with that - doesn't mean you're not bonded or have a great relationship. But don't act like being away all day long is EXACTLY the same as being home all day.

You act like your kids will be home with you forever. They will go to school and then what will you do with you time? Planning to go to work?

What the fuck difference does it make to you what i do with my time???! How is it your business??? Who are you people the fucking time police? Aaarghhh

And you don't think the previous comment is at all provocative? That PP seems to have forgotten that children will eventually go to school and WOHMs with school age children aren't exactly missing their whole day with their kids. And WOHMs that don't have a choice about working aren't exactly super excited to be told that they are missing their child's entire day.

Perhaps the other PP should not have responded the way they did - but you really don't see why they might have?

I don't see why anyone cares how other people spend their time. I don't go to work while my children are in school and do not need to justify this to strangers on the Internet or IRL.

+1,000,000
End of story.

[Anonymous]

On a lighter note, it's funny that whether we WOH or SAH, I bet we all have things in common and might even like each other IRL. Maybe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The way I see it, there are two types of SAHMs. Those that have to because their salary will not cover childcare and those who are lucky enough to be in a financial situation that allows them to stay home.

To the latter I say, embrace your choice and recognize this is a luxury. If I could check out of the daily 9-5 grind I would in a heartbeat. Of course what you do is difficult, most people realize caring for kids is hard, which is why we pay people to do it. It's just that being a working parent is more difficult and it's okay to accept that you wanted a less difficult path. As a SAHM, you will never have to worry about backup care on a snow day, getting out of a meeting because you have a sick child, prepping dinners/lunches the night before, grocery shopping on a lunch break, etc.

FWIW, many of my SAHM friends seem to have less tolerance for stress. I think being a working mom makes you better organized and more able to handle unexpected situations because you have to be. What kills me is when SAHMs post about needing more respect and how what they do is hard when the rest of us think gee how nice it would be to not have to balance my work life and kid's schedule. And when you make comments about "outsourcing" our kids, it comes off as sanctimonious because the whole reason you get to SAH is because of someone else's hard work to pay your bills.

FWIW, we all make the easier choice in life at times. I chose a lesser paying government attorney job than my friends who went into big law. I was blessed with no student loans, so I was able to make that choice. Never in a million years would I gripe to my big law friends about how stressful my job is when it pales in comparison to theirs.

So basically I say to SAHMs, just rock your decision and acknowledge it is a luxury not some huge sacrifice. And don't throw it in the face of working moms and expect us to fawn over what a martyr you are.

As soon as WOHMs rock their decision and acknowledge that they really are NOT with their kids most of the day. There isn't necessarily anything wrong with that - doesn't mean you're not bonded or have a great relationship. But don't act like being away all day long is EXACTLY the same as being home all day.

Who the Hell wants to be with kids all day? SAHM's don't even want to be with their kids all day.

I know, right? I top out at 1-2 hrs/day and then I'm DONE. Thank God I have a job/escape.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On a lighter note, it's funny that whether we WOH or SAH, I bet we all have things in common and might even like each other IRL. Maybe.

LOL!!! You know, I think you may be right!

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Anonymous wrote:There is no "WOHM mafia," you are deeply delusional about that. What an odd statement to make.

Here on DCUM there certainly is. This thread is a perfect example of it. I have never heard/read such seriously hateful and ignorant comments regarding SAHMs. I thought the mommy wars were long over, but I guess some WOHMs feel differently.

No, there's really not. If you see working moms, heaven forbid, defending themselves, it's because of ridiculous accusations like "You outsource raising your kids" and "You value material comforts over spending time with your family." That's patently wrong. Also I would guess given the higher incomes in this area that the majority of moms work so you're also insulting a very large group of people. But I promise there is no WORKING MOMS BAT-SIGNAL.

Are you in DC? Maybe go smoke some legal weed and chill out for a bit.

Then please explain who is raising your toddler when you are working 10+ hours a day

And people keep saying SAHM are playing nice!

Oh ffs, the working day goes from 9 AM to 5 PM. Add in an hour of commute and you get 10 hours. Now please tell us where you get the time to do the things you say you do

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way I see it, there are two types of SAHMs. Those that have to because their salary will not cover childcare and those who are lucky enough to be in a financial situation that allows them to stay home.

To the latter I say, embrace your choice and recognize this is a luxury. If I could check out of the daily 9-5 grind I would in a heartbeat. Of course what you do is difficult, most people realize caring for kids is hard, which is why we pay people to do it. It's just that being a working parent is more difficult and it's okay to accept that you wanted a less difficult path. As a SAHM, you will never have to worry about backup care on a snow day, getting out of a meeting because you have a sick child, prepping dinners/lunches the night before, grocery shopping on a lunch break, etc.

FWIW, many of my SAHM friends seem to have less tolerance for stress. I think being a working mom makes you better organized and more able to handle unexpected situations because you have to be. What kills me is when SAHMs post about needing more respect and how what they do is hard when the rest of us think gee how nice it would be to not have to balance my work life and kid's schedule. And when you make comments about "outsourcing" our kids, it comes off as sanctimonious because the whole reason you get to SAH is because of someone else's hard work to pay your bills.

FWIW, we all make the easier choice in life at times. I chose a lesser paying government attorney job than my friends who went into big law. I was blessed with no student loans, so I was able to make that choice. Never in a million years would I gripe to my big law friends about how stressful my job is when it pales in comparison to theirs.

So basically I say to SAHMs, just rock your decision and acknowledge it is a luxury not some huge sacrifice. And don't throw it in the face of working moms and expect us to fawn over what a martyr you are.

As soon as WOHMs rock their decision and acknowledge that they really are NOT with their kids most of the day. There isn't necessarily anything wrong with that - doesn't mean you're not bonded or have a great relationship. But don't act like being away all day long is EXACTLY the same as being home all day.

You act like your kids will be home with you forever. They will go to school and then what will you do with you time? Planning to go to work?

What the fuck difference does it make to you what i do with my time???! How is it your business??? Who are you people the fucking time police? Aaarghhh

And you don't think the previous comment is at all provocative? That PP seems to have forgotten that children will eventually go to school and WOHMs with school age children aren't exactly missing their whole day with their kids. And WOHMs that don't have a choice about working aren't exactly super excited to be told that they are missing their child's entire day.

Perhaps the other PP should not have responded the way they did - but you really don't see why they might have?

Aren't they? Kids are tired after after school care, you make dinner and they go to bed.

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I just don't understand why wohm's don't post an hour by hour schedule to back up their claims.

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Anonymous wrote:I just don't understand why wohm's don't post an hour by hour schedule to back up their claims.

As soon as SAHM post their schedules proving enriching activities and not mani/pedis and Starbucks runs all day

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Apparently my opinion is a minority opinion. I am totally, completely and absolutely NOT the least bit interested in how Internet strangers spend their time. Sorry, not to be rude but these long diatribes about chopping veggies, scheduling plenty of free time, outsourcing errands, personal training sessions, "date" night, working on math with your 3 yr old and making bento boxes (wtf is a bento box anyway) ..... Blah blah blah i DON'T CARE.

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Anonymous wrote:I just don't understand why wohm's don't post an hour by hour schedule to back up their claims.

As soon as SAHM post their schedules proving enriching activities and not mani/pedis and Starbucks runs all day

How about I post a photo of my neglected nails and hands trembling from caffeine withdrawal? LOL. I'd LOVE to go to Starbucks and get a mani/pedi. Maybe when my kids are older and I haven't quite gone back to work.

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Anonymous wrote:Apparently my opinion is a minority opinion. I am totally, completely and absolutely NOT the least bit interested in how Internet strangers spend their time. Sorry, not to be rude but these long diatribes about chopping veggies, scheduling plenty of free time, outsourcing errands, personal training sessions, "date" night, working on math with your 3 yr old and making bento boxes (wtf is a bento box anyway) ..... Blah blah blah i DON'T CARE.

LOVE YOU!

[Anonymous]

Illegal immigrant criminals and their criminal children should NOT have access to any government education program that operates under a lottery or admissions process until Americans and legal immigrants are served.

ie. choice schools and their programs (immersion, APP)
college

General education and community college will be just fine for them. ... or leave....