How far should we "Lean In?"

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Not the PP, but what you've said is truly astounding to me. "Nannies impact a very small segment of society... a nanny's contribution is less valuable to society than the contributions of a lawyer or doctor." This is the person you've entrusted your own children to. The person who is supposed to keep them safe from harm, every minute that you're not with them. I'm appalled at your complete lack of empathy towards your own children. I guess anyone with a pulse and a driver's license will do just fine.

No matter how much I love my children and want them to be well taken care of, a pediatric cardiac surgeon who saves ten lives a day, every day, is objectively more important to society than my nanny. It has nothing to do with how much empathy I have for my children. It has everything to do with recognizing there are other things - besides my children - that are important to this world. If my nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is two children who had mediocre care. The impact of a surgeon not doing his job is ten dead children a day. I think we can all do the math.

Again - wow. Now you're attempting to use hyperbole to illustrate the ridiculous example of the hypothetical surgeon not doing his job, resulting in "ten dead children a day". If your nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is YOUR two children having had mediocre care. But that seems to be just fine with you.

We were discussing relative importance of different jobs to society, not to me or any one personally. In the context of societal good, ten children kept alive are more valuable than two children raised well.

Children who end up dealing with mental illness or addiction issues as a result of being poorly raised is a drain on society. Two children raised well will, in turn, raise their children well, contribute meaningfully to society, and likely be fully realized people - these metrics are invaluable.

What is the evidence that poor nanny care is the reason children end up with "mental illness" or addiction issues ?

[Anonymous]

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Not the PP, but what you've said is truly astounding to me. "Nannies impact a very small segment of society... a nanny's contribution is less valuable to society than the contributions of a lawyer or doctor." This is the person you've entrusted your own children to. The person who is supposed to keep them safe from harm, every minute that you're not with them. I'm appalled at your complete lack of empathy towards your own children. I guess anyone with a pulse and a driver's license will do just fine.

No matter how much I love my children and want them to be well taken care of, a pediatric cardiac surgeon who saves ten lives a day, every day, is objectively more important to society than my nanny. It has nothing to do with how much empathy I have for my children. It has everything to do with recognizing there are other things - besides my children - that are important to this world. If my nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is two children who had mediocre care. The impact of a surgeon not doing his job is ten dead children a day. I think we can all do the math.

Again - wow. Now you're attempting to use hyperbole to illustrate the ridiculous example of the hypothetical surgeon not doing his job, resulting in "ten dead children a day". If your nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is YOUR two children having had mediocre care. But that seems to be just fine with you.

We were discussing relative importance of different jobs to society, not to me or any one personally. In the context of societal good, ten children kept alive are more valuable than two children raised well.

Children who end up dealing with mental illness or addiction issues as a result of being poorly raised is a drain on society. Two children raised well will, in turn, raise their children well, contribute meaningfully to society, and likely be fully realized people - these metrics are invaluable.

What is the evidence that poor nanny care is the reason children end up with "mental illness" or addiction issues ?

Most nanny/sitter care is horribly unstable, unfortunately.
Have you any idea of the probable consequences of repeated severed bonds during the first three years of life? Did anyone ever discuss with you the critical importance of bonding, and maintaining that bond with your child?

[Anonymous]

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Not the PP, but what you've said is truly astounding to me. "Nannies impact a very small segment of society... a nanny's contribution is less valuable to society than the contributions of a lawyer or doctor." This is the person you've entrusted your own children to. The person who is supposed to keep them safe from harm, every minute that you're not with them. I'm appalled at your complete lack of empathy towards your own children. I guess anyone with a pulse and a driver's license will do just fine.

No matter how much I love my children and want them to be well taken care of, a pediatric cardiac surgeon who saves ten lives a day, every day, is objectively more important to society than my nanny. It has nothing to do with how much empathy I have for my children. It has everything to do with recognizing there are other things - besides my children - that are important to this world. If my nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is two children who had mediocre care. The impact of a surgeon not doing his job is ten dead children a day. I think we can all do the math.

Again - wow. Now you're attempting to use hyperbole to illustrate the ridiculous example of the hypothetical surgeon not doing his job, resulting in "ten dead children a day". If your nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is YOUR two children having had mediocre care. But that seems to be just fine with you.

We were discussing relative importance of different jobs to society, not to me or any one personally. In the context of societal good, ten children kept alive are more valuable than two children raised well.

Children who end up dealing with mental illness or addiction issues as a result of being poorly raised is a drain on society. Two children raised well will, in turn, raise their children well, contribute meaningfully to society, and likely be fully realized people - these metrics are invaluable.

What is the evidence that poor nanny care is the reason children end up with "mental illness" or addiction issues ?

Most nanny/sitter care is horribly unstable, unfortunately.
Have you any idea of the probable consequences of repeated severed bonds during the first three years of life? Did anyone ever discuss with you the critical importance of bonding, and maintaining that bond with your child?

Stop hand-wringing and post evidence if you have it.

[Anonymous]

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Not the PP, but what you've said is truly astounding to me. "Nannies impact a very small segment of society... a nanny's contribution is less valuable to society than the contributions of a lawyer or doctor." This is the person you've entrusted your own children to. The person who is supposed to keep them safe from harm, every minute that you're not with them. I'm appalled at your complete lack of empathy towards your own children. I guess anyone with a pulse and a driver's license will do just fine.

No matter how much I love my children and want them to be well taken care of, a pediatric cardiac surgeon who saves ten lives a day, every day, is objectively more important to society than my nanny. It has nothing to do with how much empathy I have for my children. It has everything to do with recognizing there are other things - besides my children - that are important to this world. If my nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is two children who had mediocre care. The impact of a surgeon not doing his job is ten dead children a day. I think we can all do the math.

Again - wow. Now you're attempting to use hyperbole to illustrate the ridiculous example of the hypothetical surgeon not doing his job, resulting in "ten dead children a day". If your nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is YOUR two children having had mediocre care. But that seems to be just fine with you.

We were discussing relative importance of different jobs to society, not to me or any one personally. In the context of societal good, ten children kept alive are more valuable than two children raised well.

Children who end up dealing with mental illness or addiction issues as a result of being poorly raised is a drain on society. Two children raised well will, in turn, raise their children well, contribute meaningfully to society, and likely be fully realized people - these metrics are invaluable.

What is the evidence that poor nanny care is the reason children end up with "mental illness" or addiction issues ?

Most nanny/sitter care is horribly unstable, unfortunately.
Have you any idea of the probable consequences of repeated severed bonds during the first three years of life? Did anyone ever discuss with you the critical importance of bonding, and maintaining that bond with your child?

Stop hand-wringing and post evidence if you have it.

Stop posting on dcum and get a basic book on early childhood development. It's posts like this that give WOHMs a bad rep about their childcare.

[Anonymous]

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Not the PP, but what you've said is truly astounding to me. "Nannies impact a very small segment of society... a nanny's contribution is less valuable to society than the contributions of a lawyer or doctor." This is the person you've entrusted your own children to. The person who is supposed to keep them safe from harm, every minute that you're not with them. I'm appalled at your complete lack of empathy towards your own children. I guess anyone with a pulse and a driver's license will do just fine.

No matter how much I love my children and want them to be well taken care of, a pediatric cardiac surgeon who saves ten lives a day, every day, is objectively more important to society than my nanny. It has nothing to do with how much empathy I have for my children. It has everything to do with recognizing there are other things - besides my children - that are important to this world. If my nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is two children who had mediocre care. The impact of a surgeon not doing his job is ten dead children a day. I think we can all do the math.

Again - wow. Now you're attempting to use hyperbole to illustrate the ridiculous example of the hypothetical surgeon not doing his job, resulting in "ten dead children a day". If your nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is YOUR two children having had mediocre care. But that seems to be just fine with you.

We were discussing relative importance of different jobs to society, not to me or any one personally. In the context of societal good, ten children kept alive are more valuable than two children raised well.

Children who end up dealing with mental illness or addiction issues as a result of being poorly raised is a drain on society. Two children raised well will, in turn, raise their children well, contribute meaningfully to society, and likely be fully realized people - these metrics are invaluable.

What is the evidence that poor nanny care is the reason children end up with "mental illness" or addiction issues ?

Most nanny/sitter care is horribly unstable, unfortunately.
Have you any idea of the probable consequences of repeated severed bonds during the first three years of life? Did anyone ever discuss with you the critical importance of bonding, and maintaining that bond with your child?

Stop hand-wringing and post evidence if you have it.

Stop posting on dcum and get a basic book on early childhood development. It's posts like this that give WOHMs a bad rep about their childcare.

You believe stable bonds are irrelevant? You need a little education.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Not the PP, but what you've said is truly astounding to me. "Nannies impact a very small segment of society... a nanny's contribution is less valuable to society than the contributions of a lawyer or doctor." This is the person you've entrusted your own children to. The person who is supposed to keep them safe from harm, every minute that you're not with them. I'm appalled at your complete lack of empathy towards your own children. I guess anyone with a pulse and a driver's license will do just fine.

No matter how much I love my children and want them to be well taken care of, a pediatric cardiac surgeon who saves ten lives a day, every day, is objectively more important to society than my nanny. It has nothing to do with how much empathy I have for my children. It has everything to do with recognizing there are other things - besides my children - that are important to this world. If my nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is two children who had mediocre care. The impact of a surgeon not doing his job is ten dead children a day. I think we can all do the math.

Again - wow. Now you're attempting to use hyperbole to illustrate the ridiculous example of the hypothetical surgeon not doing his job, resulting in "ten dead children a day". If your nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is YOUR two children having had mediocre care. But that seems to be just fine with you.

We were discussing relative importance of different jobs to society, not to me or any one personally. In the context of societal good, ten children kept alive are more valuable than two children raised well.

Children who end up dealing with mental illness or addiction issues as a result of being poorly raised is a drain on society. Two children raised well will, in turn, raise their children well, contribute meaningfully to society, and likely be fully realized people - these metrics are invaluable.

What is the evidence that poor nanny care is the reason children end up with "mental illness" or addiction issues ?

Most nanny/sitter care is horribly unstable, unfortunately.
Have you any idea of the probable consequences of repeated severed bonds during the first three years of life? Did anyone ever discuss with you the critical importance of bonding, and maintaining that bond with your child?

Stop hand-wringing and post evidence if you have it.

Stop posting on dcum and get a basic book on early childhood development. It's posts like this that give WOHMs a bad rep about their childcare.

You believe stable bonds are irrelevant? You need a little education.

I am asking you to post evidence of your claim that mental illness and addiction issues result from poor nanny care so that we can all evaluate it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Not the PP, but what you've said is truly astounding to me. "Nannies impact a very small segment of society... a nanny's contribution is less valuable to society than the contributions of a lawyer or doctor." This is the person you've entrusted your own children to. The person who is supposed to keep them safe from harm, every minute that you're not with them. I'm appalled at your complete lack of empathy towards your own children. I guess anyone with a pulse and a driver's license will do just fine.

No matter how much I love my children and want them to be well taken care of, a pediatric cardiac surgeon who saves ten lives a day, every day, is objectively more important to society than my nanny. It has nothing to do with how much empathy I have for my children. It has everything to do with recognizing there are other things - besides my children - that are important to this world. If my nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is two children who had mediocre care. The impact of a surgeon not doing his job is ten dead children a day. I think we can all do the math.

Again - wow. Now you're attempting to use hyperbole to illustrate the ridiculous example of the hypothetical surgeon not doing his job, resulting in "ten dead children a day". If your nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is YOUR two children having had mediocre care. But that seems to be just fine with you.

We were discussing relative importance of different jobs to society, not to me or any one personally. In the context of societal good, ten children kept alive are more valuable than two children raised well.

Children who end up dealing with mental illness or addiction issues as a result of being poorly raised is a drain on society. Two children raised well will, in turn, raise their children well, contribute meaningfully to society, and likely be fully realized people - these metrics are invaluable.

What is the evidence that poor nanny care is the reason children end up with "mental illness" or addiction issues ?

Most nanny/sitter care is horribly unstable, unfortunately.
Have you any idea of the probable consequences of repeated severed bonds during the first three years of life? Did anyone ever discuss with you the critical importance of bonding, and maintaining that bond with your child?

Stop hand-wringing and post evidence if you have it.

Stop posting on dcum and get a basic book on early childhood development. It's posts like this that give WOHMs a bad rep about their childcare.

You believe stable bonds are irrelevant? You need a little education.

I believe that your claim about poor nanny care causing mental illness and addiction issues is unsubstantiated, yes, this is why I am asking you to post evidence. It needs a little more than your say-so.

[Anonymous]

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Not the PP, but what you've said is truly astounding to me. "Nannies impact a very small segment of society... a nanny's contribution is less valuable to society than the contributions of a lawyer or doctor." This is the person you've entrusted your own children to. The person who is supposed to keep them safe from harm, every minute that you're not with them. I'm appalled at your complete lack of empathy towards your own children. I guess anyone with a pulse and a driver's license will do just fine.

No matter how much I love my children and want them to be well taken care of, a pediatric cardiac surgeon who saves ten lives a day, every day, is objectively more important to society than my nanny. It has nothing to do with how much empathy I have for my children. It has everything to do with recognizing there are other things - besides my children - that are important to this world. If my nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is two children who had mediocre care. The impact of a surgeon not doing his job is ten dead children a day. I think we can all do the math.

Again - wow. Now you're attempting to use hyperbole to illustrate the ridiculous example of the hypothetical surgeon not doing his job, resulting in "ten dead children a day". If your nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is YOUR two children having had mediocre care. But that seems to be just fine with you.

We were discussing relative importance of different jobs to society, not to me or any one personally. In the context of societal good, ten children kept alive are more valuable than two children raised well.

Children who end up dealing with mental illness or addiction issues as a result of being poorly raised is a drain on society. Two children raised well will, in turn, raise their children well, contribute meaningfully to society, and likely be fully realized people - these metrics are invaluable.

What is the evidence that poor nanny care is the reason children end up with "mental illness" or addiction issues ?

Most nanny/sitter care is horribly unstable, unfortunately.
Have you any idea of the probable consequences of repeated severed bonds during the first three years of life? Did anyone ever discuss with you the critical importance of bonding, and maintaining that bond with your child?

Stop hand-wringing and post evidence if you have it.

Stop posting on dcum and get a basic book on early childhood development. It's posts like this that give WOHMs a bad rep about their childcare.

You believe stable bonds are irrelevant? You need a little education.

I am asking you to post evidence of your claim that mental illness and addiction issues result from poor nanny care so that we can all evaluate it.

I didn't make that claim.
Have you ever heard of the "foundation" years?

[Anonymous]

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Not the PP, but what you've said is truly astounding to me. "Nannies impact a very small segment of society... a nanny's contribution is less valuable to society than the contributions of a lawyer or doctor." This is the person you've entrusted your own children to. The person who is supposed to keep them safe from harm, every minute that you're not with them. I'm appalled at your complete lack of empathy towards your own children. I guess anyone with a pulse and a driver's license will do just fine.

No matter how much I love my children and want them to be well taken care of, a pediatric cardiac surgeon who saves ten lives a day, every day, is objectively more important to society than my nanny. It has nothing to do with how much empathy I have for my children. It has everything to do with recognizing there are other things - besides my children - that are important to this world. If my nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is two children who had mediocre care. The impact of a surgeon not doing his job is ten dead children a day. I think we can all do the math.

Again - wow. Now you're attempting to use hyperbole to illustrate the ridiculous example of the hypothetical surgeon not doing his job, resulting in "ten dead children a day". If your nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is YOUR two children having had mediocre care. But that seems to be just fine with you.

We were discussing relative importance of different jobs to society, not to me or any one personally. In the context of societal good, ten children kept alive are more valuable than two children raised well.

Children who end up dealing with mental illness or addiction issues as a result of being poorly raised is a drain on society. Two children raised well will, in turn, raise their children well, contribute meaningfully to society, and likely be fully realized people - these metrics are invaluable.

What is the evidence that poor nanny care is the reason children end up with "mental illness" or addiction issues ?

Most nanny/sitter care is horribly unstable, unfortunately.
Have you any idea of the probable consequences of repeated severed bonds during the first three years of life? Did anyone ever discuss with you the critical importance of bonding, and maintaining that bond with your child?

Stop hand-wringing and post evidence if you have it.

Stop posting on dcum and get a basic book on early childhood development. It's posts like this that give WOHMs a bad rep about their childcare.

You believe stable bonds are irrelevant? You need a little education.

I am asking you to post evidence of your claim that mental illness and addiction issues result from poor nanny care so that we can all evaluate it.

I didn't make that claim.
Have you ever heard of the "foundation" years?

You did. Stop asking questions and post evidence.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Not the PP, but what you've said is truly astounding to me. "Nannies impact a very small segment of society... a nanny's contribution is less valuable to society than the contributions of a lawyer or doctor." This is the person you've entrusted your own children to. The person who is supposed to keep them safe from harm, every minute that you're not with them. I'm appalled at your complete lack of empathy towards your own children. I guess anyone with a pulse and a driver's license will do just fine.

No matter how much I love my children and want them to be well taken care of, a pediatric cardiac surgeon who saves ten lives a day, every day, is objectively more important to society than my nanny. It has nothing to do with how much empathy I have for my children. It has everything to do with recognizing there are other things - besides my children - that are important to this world. If my nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is two children who had mediocre care. The impact of a surgeon not doing his job is ten dead children a day. I think we can all do the math.

Again - wow. Now you're attempting to use hyperbole to illustrate the ridiculous example of the hypothetical surgeon not doing his job, resulting in "ten dead children a day". If your nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is YOUR two children having had mediocre care. But that seems to be just fine with you.

We were discussing relative importance of different jobs to society, not to me or any one personally. In the context of societal good, ten children kept alive are more valuable than two children raised well.

Children who end up dealing with mental illness or addiction issues as a result of being poorly raised is a drain on society. Two children raised well will, in turn, raise their children well, contribute meaningfully to society, and likely be fully realized people - these metrics are invaluable.

What is the evidence that poor nanny care is the reason children end up with "mental illness" or addiction issues ?

Most nanny/sitter care is horribly unstable, unfortunately.
Have you any idea of the probable consequences of repeated severed bonds during the first three years of life? Did anyone ever discuss with you the critical importance of bonding, and maintaining that bond with your child?

Stop hand-wringing and post evidence if you have it.

Stop posting on dcum and get a basic book on early childhood development. It's posts like this that give WOHMs a bad rep about their childcare.

You believe stable bonds are irrelevant? You need a little education.

I am asking you to post evidence of your claim that mental illness and addiction issues result from poor nanny care so that we can all evaluate it.

I didn't make that claim.
Have you ever heard of the "foundation" years?

You did. Stop asking questions and post evidence.

Find your own evidence. They're your children. I'm sure this is indicative of how you treat those who try to help you.

[Anonymous]

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Not the PP, but what you've said is truly astounding to me. "Nannies impact a very small segment of society... a nanny's contribution is less valuable to society than the contributions of a lawyer or doctor." This is the person you've entrusted your own children to. The person who is supposed to keep them safe from harm, every minute that you're not with them. I'm appalled at your complete lack of empathy towards your own children. I guess anyone with a pulse and a driver's license will do just fine.

No matter how much I love my children and want them to be well taken care of, a pediatric cardiac surgeon who saves ten lives a day, every day, is objectively more important to society than my nanny. It has nothing to do with how much empathy I have for my children. It has everything to do with recognizing there are other things - besides my children - that are important to this world. If my nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is two children who had mediocre care. The impact of a surgeon not doing his job is ten dead children a day. I think we can all do the math.

Again - wow. Now you're attempting to use hyperbole to illustrate the ridiculous example of the hypothetical surgeon not doing his job, resulting in "ten dead children a day". If your nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is YOUR two children having had mediocre care. But that seems to be just fine with you.

We were discussing relative importance of different jobs to society, not to me or any one personally. In the context of societal good, ten children kept alive are more valuable than two children raised well.

Children who end up dealing with mental illness or addiction issues as a result of being poorly raised is a drain on society. Two children raised well will, in turn, raise their children well, contribute meaningfully to society, and likely be fully realized people - these metrics are invaluable.

What is the evidence that poor nanny care is the reason children end up with "mental illness" or addiction issues ?

Most nanny/sitter care is horribly unstable, unfortunately.
Have you any idea of the probable consequences of repeated severed bonds during the first three years of life? Did anyone ever discuss with you the critical importance of bonding, and maintaining that bond with your child?

Stop hand-wringing and post evidence if you have it.

Stop posting on dcum and get a basic book on early childhood development. It's posts like this that give WOHMs a bad rep about their childcare.

You believe stable bonds are irrelevant? You need a little education.

I am asking you to post evidence of your claim that mental illness and addiction issues result from poor nanny care so that we can all evaluate it.

I didn't make that claim.
Have you ever heard of the "foundation" years?

You did. Stop asking questions and post evidence.

You're unhinged.
Everyone knows that poor care during the early years, typically has long-term repercussions, whether it was abuse/neglect from a sitter, daycare, or parent.

[Anonymous]

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Not the PP, but what you've said is truly astounding to me. "Nannies impact a very small segment of society... a nanny's contribution is less valuable to society than the contributions of a lawyer or doctor." This is the person you've entrusted your own children to. The person who is supposed to keep them safe from harm, every minute that you're not with them. I'm appalled at your complete lack of empathy towards your own children. I guess anyone with a pulse and a driver's license will do just fine.

No matter how much I love my children and want them to be well taken care of, a pediatric cardiac surgeon who saves ten lives a day, every day, is objectively more important to society than my nanny. It has nothing to do with how much empathy I have for my children. It has everything to do with recognizing there are other things - besides my children - that are important to this world. If my nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is two children who had mediocre care. The impact of a surgeon not doing his job is ten dead children a day. I think we can all do the math.

Again - wow. Now you're attempting to use hyperbole to illustrate the ridiculous example of the hypothetical surgeon not doing his job, resulting in "ten dead children a day". If your nanny does a mediocre job, the impact of that is YOUR two children having had mediocre care. But that seems to be just fine with you.

We were discussing relative importance of different jobs to society, not to me or any one personally. In the context of societal good, ten children kept alive are more valuable than two children raised well.

Children who end up dealing with mental illness or addiction issues as a result of being poorly raised is a drain on society. Two children raised well will, in turn, raise their children well, contribute meaningfully to society, and likely be fully realized people - these metrics are invaluable.

What is the evidence that poor nanny care is the reason children end up with "mental illness" or addiction issues ?

Most nanny/sitter care is horribly unstable, unfortunately.
Have you any idea of the probable consequences of repeated severed bonds during the first three years of life? Did anyone ever discuss with you the critical importance of bonding, and maintaining that bond with your child?

Stop hand-wringing and post evidence if you have it.

Stop posting on dcum and get a basic book on early childhood development. It's posts like this that give WOHMs a bad rep about their childcare.

You believe stable bonds are irrelevant? You need a little education.

I am asking you to post evidence of your claim that mental illness and addiction issues result from poor nanny care so that we can all evaluate it.

I didn't make that claim.
Have you ever heard of the "foundation" years?

You did. Stop asking questions and post evidence.

Find your own evidence. They're your children. I'm sure this is indicative of how you treat those who try to help you.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

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You're unhinged.
Everyone knows that poor care during the early years, typically has long-term repercussions, whether it was abuse/neglect from a sitter, daycare, or parent.

"Everyone knows" means nothing.

You made a specific claim that it leads to mental illness and addiction. From what I see, you cannot substantiate it.

[Anonymous]

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Find your own evidence. They're your children. I'm sure this is indicative of how you treat those who try to help you.

I knew you don't have proof. You're just wagging your wrinkled finger from a corner while everyone laughs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
You're unhinged.
Everyone knows that poor care during the early years, typically has long-term repercussions, whether it was abuse/neglect from a sitter, daycare, or parent.

"Everyone knows" means nothing.

You made a specific claim that it leads to mental illness and addiction. From what I see, you cannot substantiate it.

Get a grip, lady. There's more than one of us here.